Waiting, but not for long, hopefully

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

Love the ring!!  Hopefully you will not be waiting for long at all!!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@elw728:  What a gorgeous ring! (And I say that, even as someone who normally doesn’t prefer halos… yours is really stunning).

I’d be a little nervous to tell people I got engaged, in a long-distance relationship of less than a year. I imagine you’ll get some flack. That said, it’s your life! You can just own it (“When you know, you know!”, and “It just feels so right!”), or you can try to calm their fears (“We know this happened quickly, so we’re planning a long engagement”… or something like that). How long are you planning to be engaged? If it’s a year or more, that might alleviate people’s worries.

Also, just out of curiosity – why did his mom somehow move up your proposal timeline?

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@elw728:  Oh no! That’s terrible that his mom found out the plans, and invited herself (and a whole herd of other folks) along! I suppose she probably meant well… but good for your SO, to adjust his plans for your comfort! I’d opt for a private proposal, too. Silly future-MIL… sometimes you just have to shake your head and mutter, “What was she THINKING?” LOL!

Since you’re thinking of a good-length engagement, I think I’d just be ready to trot that out if people seem a little hesitant about your engagment. You’ll be getting married at pretty close to the 2 year-mark, which seems pretty normal, to me!

Post # 8
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Worker bee

@elw728:  I’m in a similar boat, except I don’t know how much longer I have to wait, could be a month, could be six months or a year! But my dear SO and I have only been together 7.5 months, so it will be a quick relationship-to-engagement turnover. For us, we just know. We’ve both had experience in long term relationships and know what we’re looking for.

If you get flack from your family, friends, or acquaintances, just know that there is no one timeline for any relationship. Some couples date for ten years and divorce after a few months, and some get married after weeks together and last forever. It totally depends on the couple and every one is different! Yay for you! 🙂 

Post # 10
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Worker bee

@elw728:  We did go ring shopping a couple of times and found the one I fell in love with back at the beginning of August. So now I’m just playing the waiting game like everyone else! 🙂 

I don’t believe in timelines for relationships. Everyone operates at different paces and what works for some people definitely won’t work for others. 

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