Post # 1
I was wondering if any of you out there are like me “waiting” but not “waiting, waiting.” I’ve been with my SO 2.5 years we’ve had our ups and downs but now are relationship is better than ever! We’re also long distance and he has had to be out of the country 2x but normally we are on opposite coasts. We did live together for 1 year but due to his change of career we moved apart.
I’d like to get married but I know it won’t be for a while (2 years maybe?) for a few reasons. I want him to have an established career (he wants this too before we get married) and I want him to pay off his student loans. At first he didn’t understand why and was offended, but I am debt free and have assets and given how student loans are treated in the US I do not want to put myself at risk. I do not want to go into marriage with debt, although I know others feel differently that is how I feel. He would be able to pay them down pretty quick though once settled in his new career.
Anyway, any other bees like me out there? I DO want to get married, but I’m not counting down the days towards a proposal, although I do look at ring porn and obviously I’m on here lol. The main reason I’m on WB is not for weddings though more because I feel like a lot of the ladies here are more mature than me and handle their relationships well and I feel I learn a lot reading about other people and I’ve done a lot of growing up in the past few years and continue to strive towards a better relationship and future marriage.
Whoops that was long! 🙂
Post # 3
@EyeLoveKitties: Hey there! I can totally relate!..I’m on the “waiting list” but I’m not “waiting, waiting” (does that make sense?) We’ve been together for 4 years (I’m 26 and he’s 31) I know it will happen when it happens and as for right now, I’m very content with where my SO and I are at (I feel like we’re better than ever as well) So..definitely not counting down the days.
I know this is a “wedding website” but you can learn so much about relationships through the other bees on here. I’ve only been on here for a couple of weeks and I’ve already learned so much! It’s really nice to get some outside perspective sometimes..or even just to see that there are a lot of other people out there that are in similiar circumstances..it’s really nice.
Especially since none of my friends are really we’re I’m at in life so it’s nice to relate.
There are a lot of other bees that are in long distance relationships too on here. I don’t know how you bees do it, you’re a lot stronger than I am that’s for sure! 🙂
Post # 4
@marie02: Yes I toally get it! And I definitely agree about learning about relationships! I actually told my SO about this site and how it has helped me he thinks it’s great!
Long distance is hard I’m not going to lie, but it helps that we lived together before and that it’s only temporary. In a lot of ways I think it has helped our communication a lot so in a way I’m thankful for it although it’s frustrating at times.
I didn’t join the waiting list and just did the intro since I felt like I wasn’t “waiting waiting” but maybe I should! lol
Post # 5
I voted waiting but not ‘waiting, waiting’. LOL. I am waiting for us to get engaged, move, and start thinking about things in the future.
SO and I have discussed getting married, and it’s going to happen.
I came to this website because we were going to get engaged a year ago and married next summer…and then SO has had to push back his graduation date 3 TIMES and yeah, it’s caused a little anxiety. I’m not near as anxious as I once was though!
Post # 6
Meee!! I’m on the waiting list, too, but I’m not anxious about it or anything. I know I’ll be “waiting” for at least a year, and I’m fine with that for a few reasons. First off, we haven’t been together that long. It hasn’t even been a year yet, so I’d feel pretty stupid if I was hounding him for a ring every day. Also, he wants to be able to afford a nice ring for me. NOT my idea, I have even told him about moissanite as an alternative (it’s so pretty!!). He wants to be in a place financially where he feels like he can support and take care of us. This will happen late next year at the earliest, when he will be completes a program to jumpstart his career.
Soo I guess I will really start waiting waiting around this time next year.