Waiting chat part 4!

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 5
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957 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

hello ladies! 🙂

 

I’ve been absent for a while but generally really positive steps forward with waiting, found the ring and have a feeling that proposal will follow within the next couple of months. 

Post # 7
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2052 posts
Buzzing bee

Hey everyone!!

The last one was really too long for me to join in….BUT i could use an extra outlet!!

My deal:  Earliest day my SO will propose is April of 2014 (though unlikely, I doubt the day he gets a new job and graduates he will propose!!)…and the latest could be Fall of 2014 to early early 2015.  Can’t see myself waiting much longer than that!

Hope everyone is doing okay!!

Post # 8
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957 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@LittleWigeon:  oh no! sorry to hear that this year is unlikely. I seriously thought he was going for the sneaky xmas/new years proposal! I didn’t see the post as I haven’t been keeping up too much with recent posts in there. looks like we might be on for similar proposal dates? SO is still a bit vague about it but soon after xmas he said. 

Post # 10
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957 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@LittleWigeon:  I’m not so sure, I know SO has no idea how to do it. I’m sure he probably won’t start thinking about it much. I think it seems like we’re further ahead in the process because we have a wedding date and we chat about what we want for the wedding and chat about ideas/plans for the wedding with others.

 

it doesn’t really mean we’ll be getting engaged sooner than you guys, to me it sounds like ‘R’ has put a lot of thought into ring/proposal and how to make it perfect when I know ‘A’ hasn’t thought about how to do it, he just has an idea as to ‘when’ (at least I think he hasn’t put any thought into it yet). he recently told me that I have ‘nothing to worry about’ in regards to engagement/future.

I’ve tried the ring on. it’s so lovely, just right. a bit of bling without being too much, stone isn’t too big, interesting design and doesn’t scream engagement ring as such. I just got that feeling! it was just so amazing.

 

Post # 11
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451 posts
Helper bee

Arrrggghhh!  I’m walking the fine line between talking frankly about our future life without me overdoing it.  Background: we’ve been together 2 years, we’re 40 and 38, he has ordered the ring and it will be in on the 20th.  I’ve been kind of assuming a Christmas Eve proposal because he’s wanting to pack up the kids  (from previous marriages) and visit his parents for 2 nights after Christmas.  We have talked a lot about the process of moving in together and blending 3 boys, we talked it to death tonight.  We’ve decided on a destination wedding with just the 2 of us on a beach somewhere.  We talked through a honeymoon in Italy tonight.  But when I asked do you see us getting married within a year or within 2 years (he’s danced around this topic for months and gave me the same an wer today).  “Once we get engaged I don’t see any reason to put things off, we should get married pretty quickly.”  Wha???? Why’d you buy a ring?  Just to hold on to it until 2 months before you’re  ready to get married? Arrrggghhhh.

I decided to just let it go but I’ve got to type it here.  We both suspect his son is going to have problems adapting to the move and I’ve told him we can’t make concrete plans, we need to see how his son is doing before moving us all in together.  Which means we get married right before we all move in.  He’s already contacted real estate agents about putting his house on the market to rent or sale.  Everything looks like we would get married Summer 2014.  So why the heck won’t he just say it!  “Let’s aim for next summer hun, things may change that plan but let’s aim for it”.  I’d be thrilled with that response.  Seriously, he is not the kind of man who would sit on an engagement ring for 6 months but the (what feels like) stalling tactic on setting a wedding year (not a date, a year!) is frustrating.

I don’t think I will be all smiley sweet if that ring doesn’t come by the end of 2014.  And I will definitely bring it up.  I am not the shut it up type, especially at this point.  Anyway, thanks for letting me vent.  We are having good open and honest communition about our future lives.  I am pleased with everything and with him.  The only thing he’s being weird about is saying let’s get married this summer or next summer.  And since he wants to get married fairly soon after engagement, is he sitting on the ring for a year?  I know he’s not.  I “know” I’ll get it for Christmas.  But when he acts weird about this one topic (timeline to marriage) it confuses me and makes me anxious.  Sigh.

Post # 12
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662 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Yay new thread!!!

Backstory: SO and I have been together for 2 and half years, we were long distance for a year and half and he moved for me about a year ago. We’ve been living together for about 3 months now, and its taking some getting used too 🙂

I am hoping for a proposal anytime before June 22nd, 2014 (thats our anniversary and I don’t see him waiting past that, at least im hoping not!). I hope nothing but good waiting days ahead for me, I can make it at least 6 more months without going totally crazy 🙂

Post # 13
Member
920 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

my SO has a second interview this week for a job that pays a lot more than he is making now. if he gets the job, this will be a big step in us getting engaged in the next few months. cross your fingers for him!!

Post # 14
Member
2052 posts
Buzzing bee

@PenguinLove:  I really like that ring Smile

Chant, chant, chant, chant!!  I hope everyone is doing okay!

Post # 15
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28 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Hello everyone! Mind if I join the waiting game?

My SO and I have only been together since June, but have known each other for years, as he was one of my brother’s best friends years ago. He never really talked to me. He was a pretty shy guy. However, we’d share the occasional laugh with each other. Apparently he always thought I was pretty but never said anything out of respect for my brother. We ran into each other around 2AM at a hotdog stand outside of a bar while I was out celebrating one of my best friend’s birthdays. Things were sort-of a whirlwind from there. I beat him TERRIBLY at Scrabble at his house the first time we ever spent time together, realized we were stupidly in love with each other by the end of that week, went on two vacations together (which is HUGE because I’ve NEVER taken a boyfriend on a family vacation. He came around and went on two within two months!) picked out and purchased an engagement ring by October, asked my dad for his blessing, and has told nearly all our friends and family.

I know it’s coming soon, but it’s excruciating when my family knows he’s going to propose, his family knows, and our friends know. Every day, my friends at work look at my fingers and say, “What? Not yet?!?” I don’t know what he’s waiting for!! EVERYONE. KNOWS. SAVE ME THE ANXIETY AND ASK ME ALREADY!!! Haha. Since he and I picked the ring out together, I’m sure he wants to make the proposal more traditional and more of a surprise, which is why he’s being sooo cryptic. I tried to pull the “You should give me a timeline on when you’re gonna do it..because my nails look horrendous and I want them to look good when I get mah raaaaaang!” and he just laughed, shook his head, and changed the subject! I even know exactly where it is in his house, but I’ve been a good girl and have not peeked at it so as to not “ruin the magic” according to him. I have pictures of it to hold me over but honestly, it isn’t even about the ring (which happens to be BEAUTIFUL–it’s a milgrained knife-edge Simon G. with pear and round side stones and my grandmother’s Old Euro Cut diamond), it’s about the meaning behind the ring: to be engaged to the man of my dreams and be able to share it to the whole world!

WHY CAN’T I BE ENGAGED TO THE MAN OF MY DREAMS AND BE ABLE TO SHARE IT TO THE WHOLE WORLD?!?!?!?!?!

SPEED IT UP, PRINCESS!! UGH! =(

(I apologize, I know several of you bees have been waiting longer than he and I have been dating..I probably seem so impatient. But I’ve had a crush on him since I was about 11 years old and I’m almost 25.)

We’re so close, fellow waiting bees!!!!!!!

Post # 16
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176 posts
Blushing bee

I always just assumed I’d be engaged by the time I finished my undergraduate degree… Didn’t seem like I was asking too much since I met SO in year 2 of 5, his 1 of 4. I know the money isn’t there, and he’s just not ready (which is why I turn to Bee’s for support instead of pressuring), and I also know we’re young. But I DON’T CARE! We’re in love, we work “playing house.” 

It made me insane last winter, I did everything I could this summer not to think about it, but from Nov-Mar (5 mo) our anniversary, my birthday, christmas, new years, valentines day and his birthday, are all included… I’m definitely not getting a proposal this year, and it just seems like it’s NEVER going to be “our time”…

I recently started working out, just finished exams, and now have ~ 1 month off before next semester. Any suggestions to put it out of my mind while all my friends get engaged in the coming months?

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