- 5 years ago
Hello everyone, this is my first post. (and bless you if you read it all 😉 ) I’ve been stalking for about a week now and decided to finally start posting. (and sorry if some of this doesn’t make sense, I’m on my third glass of wine 😉 )
I’m 21 years old, my SO is 25 and we have been together for 3 years. I’m a very blunt and straight forward person. About a year and a half into our relationship I made a 7 year plan for us (so we would get engaged in 2-3 years from then and then have kids 4-5 year from then). We both want children but I’ve been a nanny for 3 years and want a long break of husband/wife time before wanting to take care of kids of our own since having kids isn’t as peachy as it seems. With that plan we would have originally gotten engaged between January-August of next year and then get married in 2014. My SO was on board with this.
However, I went through some medical issues in 2011-2012 that have changed the plan. I’m sure many of you have heard of cervical dysplasia. If you haven’t, it’s basically the early stages of cervical cancer. In August of 2011 I was “diagnosed” with this. I went to two doctors before finally going to a cervical specialist (one of the best in my state) who happens to be my grandmas neighbor. The doctors weren’t able to tell me whether or not it was terminal cervical cancer but all said that I needed to get surgery to get the precancerous cells removed. Being 20-21 and hearing that there is a chance (even as minimal as it was) that I might have cancer was terrifying and life changing. I got surgery and was lucky enough that the doctor was able to remove all the precancerous cells (meaning that I was temporarily cured and DIDN’T have cancer) but unfortunately the type that I got increases my change by 40% of it coming back in 10-15 years.
So I learned a lot from all of the struggles that I went through the past year-ish. I’ve always been the type of person that plans EVERYTHING in life. When I went through this, however, I had to sit down and have a serious conversation with my SO. Did we want to move the plan sooner so we could still have our few years of husband/wife time or did we want to give that up and have less husband/wife time. Neither of us wanted to wait too long and end up not being able to have kids of our own (because my doctor says I will probably end up having to get my cervix removed). After many talks we decided we would rather get married sooner and have our husband/wife time and maybe struggle (financially) more then to lose that time that we want together before kids or to not be able to have kids.
Two fridays ago we went to go look at rings. I was going to pick out a few rings and then my SO was going to go back and make the final decision but I think he didn’t realize how much went into buying a ring and ended up purchasing my dream Verragio ring. It takes 4-6 weeks to get here though and he still wants to ask me. He knows I hate surprises and I think thats why he let me go ring shopping with him and I CAN’T WAIT to get my beautiful ring! I told him he has 4-6 weeks to decide how he wants to ask me 😉
But anyway, I just thought it would be polite to introduce myself before I start posting on other peoples topics. I’m so so so excited to get engaged and plan a wedding and ever since we bought the ring I’ve been obsessing (quite vocally) on wedding sites.
So hello, everyone! It’s great to meet you all!