- 4 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
This might need to be moved to the “waiting” section, but I am genuinely curious on this…
I was talking with girlfriends the other day at dinner and I have a friend of mine who has been with her SO for nearly 12 years (wow!) and they have literally NO drive to get married at any point in time and are comfortable living in their home and they vacation constantly and are just very happy without the commitment. they say they are still debating whether or not they will get married before or after kids (which they think will be soon) and they just seem happy the way things are. It works out well for them.
On the other hand, I have another person I know who 6 years ago was CONVINCED she was getting engaged and its 6 years later and she has uprooted her life and moved 3-4 times just to be with this guy. At one point she was going to leave him and then didn’t. She gained over 45lbs because she was so unhappy and was so unbelievably miserable at her own brother’s wedding because (she admitted) he got married first that she left right after the cake was cut and drove 8 ours back home and refuses to go home to see her NEPHEW! Didn’t even get him a gift for the wedding or the baby shower and she continues to wait miserably for a ring!
So now that I’ve showed you the juxtaposition of this waiting, I have to ask: How long is too long?