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He sounds like he has something special planned. Just be a little patient its coming soon. I'd be so excited too, so use here to vent out all your excitement. The Christmas challenge would be a good idea, the more you take your mind off things and not mention it the more likely he'll think he could surprise you.
Hang in there girlie!
I KNOW! "Soon" is when I'm told we'll be engaged, but when I ask for a definition of the word, he just says "soon." It's driving me crazy. Booooooo on them. Dumb boys. :-P
Oh my gosh, you've gotta be sooooo excited! Yay, sounds like it will happen before you know it!
Oh man! Try to be patient! I know it's hard, but he may be trying to plan something crazy special and you don't want to ruin it by just telling him to give you the ring! Welcome to the hive! HAng out here when you think you will flip out! Why do you think my post count is so high!? lol
I agree with the above posts. . .hang in there and try your best to be patient! Let him surprise you and carry out his proposal plan. . .that's the one thing most guys really take pride in when it comes to weddings/engagements, and it's the thing they have the most control over. Try to remember that as much as you want the ring, you want him to have his moment to be proud of himself for surprising you!
I feel your pain my bf has had my ring for two months so I know the pain! You at least have a soon! He will do it in his own way and in his own time. I'm sure that he is planning something fab for you and wants to make sure every detail is perfect.
@Solome: My partner had the ring a while and managed to surprise me with it! It is hard waiting but it was definitely worth the wait when he slipped the ring into a glass of champagne! :)
Hang on in there! :)
@Solome: I can relate to your story. BF bought the ring mid-August (also right in front of me, so I know he has it). It can be incredibly frustrating, but also it is nice knowing that its there.
I also decided that I would get him an engagement present. He already has a watch and doesn't wear much jewelry, so I decided it would be the new guitar he wanted. We went together so he could look and see what he wanted, and just like he did with the ring, I bought it on the spot! Its sitting in our living room with a lock on the case so he can't play it. Though it was absolutely not my intent (most of it was that I didn't want to have to schlep back to the guitar store), I have to admit I like that he is sometimes experiencing the impatient feeling that I have.
Thanks for your kind words. I think he IS planning something. It kills me because he KEEPS BRINGING IT UP! Today, I walked in on his watching "Maid of Honor" and then he looks over at me during all the wedding segments.
Lordy! ;)
Mid-August?!?! Oh Hun, you are much more patient than I am! But I did get a good chuckle out of the guitar! I wonder if there is a support board for guys waiting for their gifts like what we have here!!!
Thanks, ChicChick. Yes, I must remember that this is HIS moment. I think he is trying to make sure he "gets it right." It's pure torture on me as he brings it up now nearly every day!!! Just today, a scene in a movie instigated his verbal pondering of if he should write a song for me or a poem for his proposal to me (btw- he is NOT an artist nor a musician!). And then he began to ask about how I want our wedding. HE brings it all up, NOT me! LoL!
Christmas Challenge! I'm in it! And I am learning patience!!! And it's killing me!
Hugs!! I totally know how you feel - I am waiting for this subjective term known as "soon" also!!! Just keep typing away on here and try and keen as distracted as possible!! I bet hes got something planned :)
@Solome: I think it actually helped me to reach a comfortable place (most of the time, I still have my moments), knowing that yes, we are definitely going to have a future together. I also was pretty vocal about my ideal proposal date, which is @ the end of the year. I think I will be much less patient about still waiting. The feelings are very complicated haha. But its mean of your SO to ponder out loud in front of you :(
Yup...I love him, but am about to strangle him! :) HE brings it up EVERY DAY! EVERY DAY! I am beginning to try to control my reaction to when he brings it up. I must admit that the more he brings it up without doing it, the less excited I am getting.
He does this with other things, too...vacation planning, my birthday, plans to go out... .
I think we just operate differently. I understand that. But with this, I'm just wanting for him to take the Nike approach, and JUST DO IT!
I despise the word 'soon'. WTF is that supposed to mean. I feel like a kid when I get told soon!
Ditto on the sentiments! After a weekend of his talking to me about wedding plans and life after, I finally told him that I cannot make plans off of words. His buying the ring a month ago was fabulous, but now my excitement has turned into confusion. Is anyone else going through this? :(
@Solome: I think him just purchasing the ring says A LOT about his intentions, it's usually a big investment, both financially and emotionally for them. I would think the reason he's taking so much time is because he wants it to be special. He may be waiting for a certain day to roll around or planning other details of the engagement. I would take this time to revel in the fact that you are experiencing a lot of "lasts". These are some of the last times you will just be BF/GF. I've had to remind myself of this lately too. As much as I want to be engaged now, it will never be the same once we are. Now, that is a good thing but I think the end of every chapter is bittersweet. <3
OMG relax girlie! #1 think how lucky you are! He is clearly trying to think of something special for you, so sit back, relax, and enjoy it! and #2 stop mentioned weddings/engagement/the ring all together. just don't bring it up to him. he'll wonder whats up and it'll put the pressure on him to do it already. if you nag him it'll just push him away.
Good luck!!!
Ooh, hang in there girl. "Soon" is about the worst possibly word to be used when answering the "when" question. It's so subjective.
I remember getting nervous about attending a few weddings this year (my mom's and his best friend's sister's) and all I could do was sit and picture person after person asking us the "when" question. I've been ready for several years now (we've been together 5 yrs) and he knows this and just the beginning of this year I had reached my boiling point. So, that being said, the "when" question was a touchy subject. I told him my frustrations and worries of people asking, and his response? "Soon".
Really? Soon? You're going to tell our friends and family "soon" when what we've discussed is several years from now? I'm like, "uh, no. Soon leaves too much room open for discussion as well as to me 'soon' is 6 months or less, not 3 yrs or less". Needless to say, I left him up to answer the questions and deal with the "we voted and you're next" statements. I just smiled and found a spot to stare at on the wall when the subject was broached.
Hang in there girly. The hard part is over, you know he HAS the ring, and you KNOW it's coming. Just relax, take a deep breath, and try to focus on something else like a hobby, or task at work, or a new book. Before you know it, that special time will come :)
Thanks, gals, for all of your responses and support. I'm so thankful for you and the support.
BF could tell I was upset earlier in the week, and as a result, we had a wonderful discussion about our future. It was very open and honest. He said the proposal will happen VERY soon. He said in the next few weeks or by Christmas (he reminded me that between now and Dec 25 are my birthday, our anniversary, Thanksgiving, Christmas...).
I am vowing not to bring up anything about a ring, engagement, proposal, marriage...ANYTHING. I don't want my apprehension to ruin anything special. And I don't want the reason for his proposal be because I nagged. It has to come from his wanting to.
Writing to calm down right now... last time BF and I spoke, he said it would be a few weeks, very soon, before Christmas. He mentioned that my birthday, anniversary, Thanksgiving, and Christmas were coming so it could be on any of them.
My birthday came and went...no proposal. He spoiled me rotten, but no proposal. I didn't want a material gift, but his proposal of marriage. I really just wanted HIM! :(
This morning, we spoke about exchanging Christmas presents, and he mentioned he already has mine (I believe he was referring to the ring that he bought 5 weeks ago). Since when is Christmas in a few weeks? Since when it is SOON? I simply smiled when he said this, and told him I love him.
Trying DESPERATELY NOT to mention anything about the ring, engagement or marriage. Gotta keep on the Christmas Challenge!!!
Sigh.
Thanks for letting me vent. ;)
Before you know it christmas I'll be here and you'll have a nice shiny present. Just please be patient it won't be much longer even though it seems like forever. I can't wait to see your post soon.
i know it's HARD to stay patient in this situation, but you have to hang in there...just awhile longer! you KNOW he has it, that's the important part! He probably just wants to give you a wonderful proposal you'll never forget. :) he probably just needs time to plan it. ;)
It's so nice to know someone else out there is suffering as much as I am haha :-p my bf has the ring too, he doesn't know I know he has it though. It's driving me absolutely INSANE!!!!!! Like you tell yourself to be patient, its fine, it'll be a great surprise, but then the child in you is like I WANT I WANT I WANT! NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!
I think the fact that you know he has the ring makes it even more frustrating cos you know it's coming "soon".. but not soon enough!!!!! The only time I've felt longing and frustration as bad as this was when I was probably about 8 years old and got to chose one of my birthday presents, this pink dog with blue ears that I wanted soooo bad, my parents bought it for me but I wasn't allowed to have it til my actual birthday a few weeks later.. so this toy puppy sat on a top shelf staring down at me while I waited in pure agony til it was finally mine!!!!
(of course waiting for a sparkly ring+marriage proposal is like 10000000000000000000 times worse!!)
Hang in there, we can do it!!!!!
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Hello!
My wonderful boyfriend of nearly a year (2 weeks until our anniversary) has my ring in his possession! We had shopped a month earlier, and he had searched on line as well. Three weeks ago, he took me ring shopping, we found the ring we both like, and instantly buys it! Right then and there - to my surprise. It has now been in his posession for three weeks. THREE LONG WEEKS!
In the course of these three LONG weeks, I have run through every emotion- thrilled, excited, happy, confused, upset... finally I got to the confused emotion of "why doesn't he just propose?!?!?" After I could no longer hide my tears, I asked him if he really wanted to get married. He said yes, he is ready.
This morning, without my prompting, he says "don't worry...you'll have your ring soon."
UGH!
When is SOON?!?!?!
I love him very much, and I am dreadfully impatient...this is just emotional torture!!!
Help! ;)