Waiting Game

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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75 posts
Worker bee

@OneDayDutcher:  I’m new to the waiting game (well kinda, have been in a relationship for 10 years, but would say I was actually “waiting” since a couple weeks ago). My style to prepare myself for high emotion events is to just throw it out in the open. I’d probably say something like, “so, do we have special plans lined up for Christmas?” or “I’m excited about the wait almost being over” or something like that. Then judge his reaction. If he’s excited he’ll probably smile or give you some positive response. If not, he’s either good at covering up his plans, or it won’t be happening next week. Obviously you don’t have to take my advice at all but being up front about how I feel to others usually helps me to calm down from stressing out about important events.

Either way, I’d probably prepare myself (as much as you can) to be fully present for this Christmas. If it happens, you’ll be so excited, and if not, hopefully seeing the positive in the holiday generally will help, but hopefully, you’ll get that proposal and you’ll be writing us about it next week! 😀

Post # 5
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75 posts
Worker bee

@OneDayDutcher:  well that sounds positive! If take that as positive, not negative. My SO is shy and I can imagine him saying something like that. As long as you didn’t get any negative vibes I think you’re headed in a good direction. 

About the surprise, I know how that is, you think after being with someone forever it shouldn’t be a surprise. But for him, he probably likes it as this is one of the few big ways guys get to have a moment like this. Keep us posted!! 

Post # 7
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451 posts
Helper bee

I hear you!  The ring has been ordered and technically should be in before Christmas. Jeweler time swings wildly so I’ll believe it when I see it. I go back and forth between Zen (it’s going to happen, he is not the sort of man who buys a ring until he is beyond sure) and soooo not-Zen. I’m not even sure why I’m anxious. The only way this can hurt me is if he changes his mind and I know that won’t happen. I worry which day because I don’t want to be awkward if it isn’t Christmas Eve or Christmas day before we see my parents or by the 27th when we’re travelling to see his family. Then after all that anxiety I’m too tired to worry anymore so I go back to Zen. I am currently moving into anxiety mode. 

Post # 9
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75 posts
Worker bee

@OneDayDutcher:  any news? If not no worries but I thought I’d ask for an update

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