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Erh... I'm *hoping* that someone realizes that "oh crap we are 25" and gets moving, but otherwise, I don't know.
He claims once he's saved up enough, however much that is I don't know. We're also waiting to see how the redundancy-hammer falls at his job, so that could add a few time periods as well.
So maybe a year, not more than two, I guess.
Since there was not a "when we finally live in the same place" option, I went with 1-3 months. I can hope right?!?
@surkim - How interesting! I always think - we're only 25, we're still too young!
It's interesting to hear someone on the opposite side. You and my mom are really on the same page! :D
@cbgg, I guess it is young, but I figure I'd like to have a few years before kids, and we've already decided that kids are coming no earlier than 30, no later than 35.
There's still plenty of time for waiting, but I guess it's the southern "oh it's been more than 3 months time to shack up and pop out mini's!" that I've noticed... (I'm joking about the 3 months, but seriously, I've met people who have asked me if BF and I have kids when I tell them how long it's been, even though we just passed four years, so it's really not that long)
I'm really in no rush, honest!
@ surkim - Oh, I don't think 25 is crazy young or anything. It's a very normal age to get married.
I guess that a big part of the reason that it's too young for me is that I literally don't have a SINGLE friend my age who's married. I actually only have one friend who's married and he's like 3 years older than me.
And don't get me started on having kids! Oh man, I can't even imagine how so many people my age feel ready for that. The idea scares the crap out of me!
As you can see, I'm no from the south! Ha ha!
8-10 months, probably. He knows I'd like a spring wedding in May sometime, we agree on a shorter engagement (about six months), and there are several significant dates between October and the beginning of December. So logically, it will happen sometime at the end of this year!
I waited 5 years, but only actually consider it a year. That's when I started to actually think about it. :)
@cbgg, lol, my mom's been telling me that i'm "almost 30" since i turned 25! i wonder what she's going to say now that i'm turning 29 this year.
my best guess is a year or so until we're engaged. it all ready depends on when we both get jobs and a place out here and get all settled in before i can expect a proposal.
Been dating a little over 2 years......Definately think it's April! The end of April that is! So bring on the April showers baby.....I AM READY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Oh God, I hope it's not longer than a year, but it very well could be. :/
My guess is that I have to wait more than a year, but at the same time I am being optimistic and hope for 6-12 months ;)
I just need my BF to realise that I am too good not to marry haha
I am hoping in the next 6 months when my lease is up!! we'll see but i think we're going ring browsing on monday! whoo hooo!
I put 6 mos to a year :/ Realistically it makes sense..and he should have the $ by then.
I chose over a year. I hope to talk to my SO again though to try to get a time frame that is sooner. He wants to wait two years but I am the least patient person I know and I don't know if i can wait that long without going crazy.
I think more than a year. I won't graduate hopefully until may of next year. Then I have to get a job and get situated and go back in the fall for my BSN. I'm guessing around 2012 but b/f said he wanted to have kids before his 32. I won't have kids til I'm married and this year he'll be 29.
I honestly don't know. It's getting me down as there is nothing actually stopping him from doing it. He says it will happen and it will be a surprise. I've told him in the heat of the moment that i'm past caring how surprising it is. I think he's going to use learning to drive as an excuse in the meantime - the cost of lessons etc etc. Even though he could afford both.
He's in grad school right now, he's technically graduating in august, but he'll be done with all of his school work in June. He's moving here in July and hopefully getting a job ASAP. I hope to be engaged by my 26th birthday, a little over a year from now. But I don't know if that will be happening or not and largely depends on how fast he can find a job/save up for the ring.
I put 3 - 6 months. Based on conversations we've had, I can't imagine him doing it much longer than that. It'll definitely be this year, so, definitely less than 8 months.
He let it slip that he would be poor in March-April, so I figured that's when it'll happen. April's a meaningful month b/c it's my birthday and, more importantly, our anniversary!
I honestly can't wait, and I'm really hoping the fact that he slipped a little won't push the proposal date too far. EEE I'm really excited.
I guessed 6 months - one year, but I have no solid evidence upon which to base that. We've been together for a little over a year now, but I have been ready for a good 3-4 months.
@cbgg - i hear you on the whole timeline. I just turned 26 and he just turned 30...feels like that's the time things are supposed to happen, besides i want to be engaged for about a year and still married before the age of 30, sooner if possible. I haven't gotten that whole kids timeline figured out just yet.
I just CANT IMAGINE waiting for another year, we move in together this May, probably a good time to have that whole timeline discussion!!
well - he's promised me by the end of this year, but recently he's been asking me a looot of questions, like, "what size is your finger again?" and "so when i ask your dad did you want me to ask your mom too?" (i know, not very good at hiding his intentions :P)
i'm assuming he won't ask until at least this summer when he's out of school and can spend some money on me, but i can see him asking at my family camping trip as he knows it's my favourite place in the world, and it's the first place we said "i love you" and stuff.
so justttt 6 months.
I said six months to a year. I think it'll be around seven to eight months from now. SO has one or two more payments on the ring setting, then he'll probably pay off the diamond over six months. He won't hold on to it long after that I don't think.
I voted 1-3 months.
The Clues:
1. I know he's been "getting smart" on rings because while "cleaning" I found brochures from stores in his nightstand.
2. We also have our 3rd anniversary coming up in May
3. Family vacation to Europe in May. I'm originally from there and my parents are going to visit the family I still have left there and invite the SO and I to go with them.
I think if he'll do it soon he'll probably do it either on our anniversary or during the trip to Europe.
Keeping fingers crossed...hoping I won't be too disappointed if it doesn't happen.
What happened with us is this. He first asked what kind of ring style and cut I wanted in 12/08 and let me know how much he wanted us to get married and I knew it was coming but had no idea.
It was an entire year as we got engaged on 12/5/09 and it was because he changed the idea of the ring design to a larger one. I won't fault him for that lol! It's worth the wait.
It was private, romantic, and the most wonderful night ever.
Whatever your timeline, know that it takes time to purchase a ring and this is the way the man has some fun. Let him do all the planning in the world and make it right because this is his way of showing you how much he loves you.
Guys don't get a ton of creative license when it comes to weddings, and this is one way in a huge way, they get to have some.
I whined, got mad, kept wondering why he was taking so long, but he had a plan all along and changed his mind about which ring I was getting right around the time of our ill-fated Jamaica trip last March.
As long as you know you're both on the same page and headed in the same life direction, I think the waiting phase can be such a fun time in your relationship. Like one big long glowy phase!
What happened with us is this. He first asked what kind of ring style and cut I wanted in 12/08 and let me know how much he wanted us to get married and I knew it was coming but had no idea.
It was an entire year as we got engaged on 12/5/09 and it was because he changed the idea of the ring design to a larger one. I won't fault him for that lol! It's worth the wait.
It was private, romantic, and the most wonderful night ever.
Whatever your timeline, know that it takes time to purchase a ring and this is the way the man has some fun. Let him do all the planning in the world and make it right because this is his way of showing you how much he loves you.
Guys don't get a ton of creative license when it comes to weddings, and this is one way in a huge way, they get to have some.
I whined, got mad, kept wondering why he was taking so long, but he had a plan all along and changed his mind about which ring I was getting right around the time of our ill-fated Jamaica trip last March.
As long as you know you're both on the same page and headed in the same life direction, I think the waiting phase can be such a fun time in your relationship. Like one big long glowy phase!
I'm pretty sure it will be over a year. Grrr. A year is about my limit for waiting nicely, also, before I sit him down and have the 21st century equivalent of the "what are your intentions?" conversation.
I think it'll be this long because a) we plan to move in together this summer (when our leases are up) and he's said a few times that he wants to live together before proposing, and b) we are both in godawful financial straits right now (along with everyone else, I know) and he would like to be able to afford a ring (I'm not opposed to that either!) and we would like to be able to afford to put on the kind of wedding we want (read: any kind of wedding at all). So I agree with all that...but...
Part of the thing is the "keeping up with the Joneses" effect, which is stupid. Thing is, most of my friends got engaged on their second anniversary or thereabouts, and we're coming up on ours in two months, and I know I won't be getting engaged, and that annoys me a little. It makes me feel: what about our relationship is such that you can't make that commitment to me? what's left to learn? what more do you need?
which is STUPID. because every relationship is different. but I can't help being stupid from time to time.
on the geographical divide: I live in MN (duh from the handle), and here in the Midwest some people get married really young and/or fast, and it doesn't raise any eyebrows, and some people wait till they're older and/or have dated for many years, and it doesn't raise any eyebrows. we have a wide range. or maybe are the least nosy people ever. :-)
my mom is pretty progressive and doesn't pressure me to get married...but she does like reminding me that I'm "on the downhill slide to 30". (I'm turning 27 next week.) it does kind of wig me out that I'm less than a year younger than she was when she had me, SO not ready for kidlets myself!
I think it will be at least 6 months but probably closer to 1 year. Hes always said he would propose now if thats what I really needed, but our plan has always been to set ourselves up financially so that we go into this wedding madness without credit card debt and more comfortable paying the mortgage on our house. But I really hope it wont be longer than a year!!!
I just have a gut feeling he's waiting for me to graduate, THEN we will move in together. I graduate in December of this year, so use your imagination... >:( Ugh, waiting sucks! lol
:)
I think it's going to be between 2 to 4 months... but I 'voted' for the 3 to 6 month category. We've talked about it and we're just waiting to save up some money and find time to go looking. We're both full time students (second time through school for both of us!) and have full time jobs (my boyfriend actually works about 60+ hours a week) so we've only been able to look at rings together once.
I think it will be a month or two hopefully less. He leaked out that he went to Zales this past weeekend an preceded to tell me that he was going this wednesday to pick out a diamond he is waiting to arrive at the store.... Hofully less than a month! We've saved up the money and are finally financially stable!
I've been waiting for this day my whole life! :)
I hope hope hope it's in about 3 months. We just starting going ring shopping and he had mentioned April or May .... (although our 5 year anniversary in June 30th... I hope I don't have to wait that long!!)
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Assuming that you're waiting for him to pop the question, based on your best guess, how much longer do you THINK you'll be waiting for?