- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
Let me start by saying that no one is perfect and we all sometimes judge other people.
Back story: SO and I have been together over 6 years. We met during my final year of university and he was just starting his career. We then did about 20 months of long distance before I came back home. We’ve now been in the same city for just less than 4 years and “officially” living together for about a year. Our relationship hasn’t been all sunshine and roses but it’s working for us. I would say I’ve been officially waiting for a proposal for about 10 months now. I have good waiting days, and awful waiting days. Most days tend to be good but occasionally something like a friend’s engagement will send me over the edge and I’ll become a total depressed wreck.
Now on to the issue.
Last week I went out for supper with 3 old varsity friends. All 3 are married. It was an awesome evening at an awesome mexican place, so needless to say I had maybe one too many frozen margeritas. Most of the conversations had to do with weddings and wedding planning, since friend 1 is planning her wedding ceremony and reception.
But seriously bees, I can’t believe how I was judging my friends. Like I literally poked holes into all their relationships. I won’t share all my thoughts but the basics are –
Friend 1: Legally married for just over a year. Official wedding in December. Her and hubby stay in her childhood bedroom at her parents’ house. I received the invite the other day with a registry insert including “monetary gift will be appreciated.” Hubby doesn’t have a job. They got married so that he can stay in the country (I totally understand getting married for immigration purposes) .
Friend 2: was engaged and married after knowing her hubby for just over a year. He’s rich and she always told us she was gonna marry for money. He basically told her he proposed to her because he was “sexually frustrated.” (she was saving herself for marriage)
Friend 3; Ok – so no real judgement for her. She married her high school sweetheart pretty much straight out of university . They’re a gorgeous, happy couple. The kinda gorgeous and happy that is either infectious or makes you wanna throw up.
Seriously bees, these thought processes happened like 3 days ago and I still feel so bad that I even had all these nasty, ugly thoughts about my FRIENDS. These are people I love and would drop everything for. Maybe the alcohol fueled it. I’m just glad I didnt actually voice any of my opinions. I’m actually super embarassed I would think these sort of things.
Please don’t flame me, but rather share your “judgy mcjudgerson” irrational judgement stories to make me feel a bit better.