(Closed) Waiting – Should I stop myself from talking to him about it?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
1473 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I never brought up anything. At all. Ever. Unless he asked or brought it up, it was never talked about. I didn’t want to be one of those women who nag their SO’s into proposing. My cousin’s ex wife did that and look where it got them…a divorce after a year because he really wasn’t ready.

But if you guys are planning a wedding for this Spring, he really should be thinking very very hard about proposing. I don’t know what I would do in you situation. Sit him and down and ask him, maybe? If you weren’t planning this wedding for so soon, I’d say let it go but this may be a good time to bring it up.

Maybe he’s waiting for the Holidays?


Post # 5
11172 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

My Fiance and I went through waves of discussing it and then purposely avoiding the talk. I found that talking about it often caused a lot more trouble than it was worth because we both knew it wasn’t the right time.

We ended up becoming engaged after I just let it go and decided to ride the waiting train with my mouth shut. I ended up focusing on what I really enjoyed about our relationship as it was without pushing and I am glad I did.


Post # 6
215 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2006

My then bf and I were always completley open about it.  We just decided we were both madly in love and really happy and wanted to get married.  We looked at rings, I picked one, and when he paid it off, he proposed.  I really wouldn’t be able to hold my tongue about any issue that I feel strongly about. He’s my best friend and knows me inside out and when theres something I want to talk about anyway.

Post # 8
1238 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

yeah, you need to chill out. seems clear he’s on the same page, something is being planned, etc. so there’s nothing to stress over! consider yourself lucky! πŸ™‚

Post # 9
893 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@lumos:  DO NOT BRING IT UP TO HIM.  My Fiance once told me that if he’s making me wait, there is a reason.  And in the end, that “reason” was absolutely amazing.

Post # 11
100 posts
Blushing bee

@lumos: I just commented on two of your other posts, I believe!! I say bring it up!! πŸ™‚ If you are going to be together forever and talk about everything together, then do it now, as well!! How long have you two been together? As long as you ahve been together long enough to not be “rushing it” I think it’s safe to bring it up. If you haven’t been together that long, then I would wait until he brings it up!!! Let us know how it goes!! πŸ™‚

Post # 12
100 posts
Blushing bee

@futuremrsdunc: UNLESS you have discussed it a lot recently, then give it a little bit of a rest, because boys/men get antsy haha. My bf and I went through waves of discussion, as TreeJewel said. Over the summer I definitely brought it up a lot, then we didn’t really talk about it over september, october, and this month we brought it up again… and my ring will be ready sat! yayy! hope you get yours soon!!!

Post # 14
510 posts
Busy bee

We talked about it often, and many of those conversations were not pleasant πŸ™  I’m not proud of that, but I completely understand the frustration of waiting.  In my situation, I moved from MI to PA with Darling Husband (my bf at the time), and although we moved with the understanding that were were going to spend the rest of our life together, I still wanted the committment to be official.  Anyway, he proposed a little over 2 years after we moved.  So I had to be really patient!  My advice would be to try and avoid bringing it up all the time… if you have those days when it’s all you can think about, make a plan with a girlfriend and vent to her… spend some time alone, write about it… anything to avoid bringing it up all the time or picking fights.  Just wanted to say I’ve been there and I know how hard it is!

Post # 15
2657 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Ive learned from my Fiance, guys DO NOT LIKE TO BE BUGGED. Let it go, focus on other things, like work,school, saving for your fututre wedding,etc., dont let this possible engagement take over your life. It will happen when its meant to happen. 

Im sure he will be thrilled if you stopped bugging him about it. Your going to drive him nuts if you dont. lol


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