Waiting is driving me crazy

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Hostess
7630 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

@pika91:  Hmmm…It’s possible that he could be wanting to throw you off. It’s also possible that he was interested in buying a ring before but didn’t realize how expensive they were. Maybe the timeline he gave you was how long he thought it would be until he could save up. 

Either way, you just have to talk about it. I would ask him to not jokingly propose to you. I feel like that’s misleading. You don’t have to ask when he would propose, but you two should talk about your life timeline and when you see yourselves getting married. This is the biggest decision of your life – don’t be afraid to talk about it. 

 

Post # 3
Member
98 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2016 - Equestrian Estate

@Pika91,  Well My boyfriend did the same thing… 5 years ago and we’re still not engaged! Apparenty he thoguht that by taking me so early on I’d forget about it by the time it happened and of course I haven’t LOL!! After a year and a half of being together and also living together he took me to look at rings. 5 months later we took our first trip together to the UK and Paris. Naturally, I thought for sure he’d propose then but no, and I was devestated! 🙁 If you can, try not to expect it… it nearly tore us apart.  Every man is different, mine wants to save up the $ until he has enough for the ring. Alternativiely, some of my friends went together with their fiance’s and bought it together with a payment plan/visa from the store… every situation is different. I’d suggest you try to put it out of your mind (although I know it’s near impossible) and just live your life as usual (love him and ur relationship, focus on work, school, friends, gym whatever you need to do to keep busy)… Maybe your boyfriend says “a year or 2” to throw you off but then agian maybe he is actually being realistic? I find reading other ppls post on here helps me 😉  Good luck!! Let us know when it does happen 🙂 xo

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