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I am sorry that you're having such a rough time with the separation.. You're right, when you're in love, any separation is hard to bear.. Even if it is only for a week.. But, when you're feeling down and wondering if the weekend will ever come or if the train ride will ever end, try to look on the bright side of things.. Each weekend when it ends, look forward to the fact that it's only a mere five days until the next one comes.. Be positive, and always looking forward.. I would give anything to be in your situation.. But over the last two years of my relationship, I have spent a total of less than two months with my FI, all scattered throughout the years.. And Skype has become a thing that I crave, since seeing his face is better than nothing at all.. So I understand the pain you're feeling, and it doesn't get easier, you just learn how to deal with it.. You learn how to keep busy.. But take comfort in the fact that if you keep busy, a week or two before you see him again will fly by.. And that day will come where you won't have to leave anymore..
I'm sorry your going through this, and yes I can say I think everyone in a LDR goes through this.
My SO and myself have been in a LDR since the start over a year and half ago, we get to see each other once a month and let me tell you.. the plane/car ride home I'm a total mess! I have such high anxiety and pain I cry for hours. Usually I start the night before and get depressed and lay in bed with him and cry. It's not easy!
I also agree with what you said, I too thought after a few months it would get better.. no my anxiety and tears just got worst.. I just keep my eye on the pot of gold at the end of this rainbow. Next feb/march we will be moving intogether and I will never have to say goodbye to him again.
I wish you the best in your relationship and just keep thinking positive :)
I wish you two the best and thank you so much for your positive words. They really helped since I just got back from a 5 day weekend spent with him. I cried the whole night before and ride home.. :\
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Our relationship started 5 months ago and ever since the first day I met him I knew he was the one. He makes me laugh when I think it is impossible to do so and he stops my crying when I think no one else can. But, a hard thing to deal with is the fact that one of the main reasons I cry is because of him being so far away from me. I know others will say that they are farther separated. But, when in love, any distance is unbearable. I live on the northshore of Massachusetts and he lives in New Jersey and I figured that after seeing each other a few times the pain of leaving would slowly diminish or lessen at least. But the truth of the matter is, every time we are separated it hurts more and more. I have learned to both love and hate the sound of the train pulling in to Penn Station in Newark, NJ. It's hard, like it is for everyone. The hugs goodbye and the nights when hearing their voice just isn't enough and there is nothing you can do about it. And, yeah skype is great but you can't hug through skype, you can't hold hands through skype or even just sit on a couch and watch tv together through skype. It's the little things like getting him a tissue when he sneezes or asking him what he'd like for breakfast that I miss. It kills me knowing that I can't do anything while I am away.
But, almost with every weekend comes the 5 hour train ride to New Jersey. And, the train whistles and pulls into Penn Station and there he is waiting for me. It brings me comfort for now, knowing that he will always be there waiting right when I pull in. But, the truth is, the pain will never go away until I step off the train for the last time.
Wishing all of you the best in your travels.