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@Petunia123: It takes lots of work. I've finally hit the I don't want to talk about it with him mode. I want the experience to be a good one for the both of us so I just chilled out. It also helps that I got a bit of a timeline from him, and I'm going to be super busy starting next month. He took me ring browsing almost a year ago lol the last time we went was a couple of weeks ago because we had my promise ring resized. He wanted me to try on rings so I was like sureeee lol, but yea it could be awhile so keep yourself busy Goodluck!
Hahaha. You accept that you have zero control over it and come on the Bee to vent, of course! Trust me, we went ring shopping three years ago so I feel you, I really do. I would suggest that you follow Mr. B's plan and try to engage in other activities to take your mind off it and to make you happy without constantly thinking about weddings/marriage/proposals. Also, one thing that keeps me from losing it is something SO said a few weeks ago. We were talking about proposals and he said, "Yeah, it's the one tiny bit of control I have left!"
I honestly believe he finds some kind of enjoyment in watching me squirm. We've been together for 5 years and have even discussed what kind of wedding we'd like to have, etc. So now I cant tell if its him trying to save up some money or just play torture my girlfriend. UGG BOYS!
I was just thinking about writing a similar post last night. Sometimes I just want to look at BF and say "Just f*cking ask me already!" I clearly reign it in before it gets to that point but I feel like were at a stand still until he asks. I have so many ideas and questions and I just really want to get moving on it and he's just taking his sweet time. Grr. So I'm clearly no help but I've got lots of sympathy. Your definately not the only one feeling the itch.
My SO took me ring shopping a month ago and they told him it would take longer for my ring to be ready since it's custom and I have a small ring size. So maybe your guy can't propose yet if the ring isn't even ready. That probably doesn't help make the waiting any easier, but feel free to come talk to the Hive anytime you need to!!
Oh I feel you. I never went ring shopping with my FI because I wanted the traditional surprise proposal, but I knew when he went shopping on his own (and the ass had the ring for 6 weeks before he asked me! 6 WEEKS! Thank god I didn't know!!)
Anyhoo, the waiting SUCKS. What helped me a lot was figuring out when we were going to get married while I was waiting (we both knew general ball-park, I did the rest all stealthy-like.) I figured out that what was driving me so crazy was lack of control. I'm a control freak and not having any was driving me insane. So doing a little planning and setting a date in my own mind gave me back a little of the control I craved.
Good luck to you!
Oh, and pick your "shut up date." That's what I dubbed for the date I picked that I'm "allowed" to say anything proposal/wedding related. Until then I had to zip it. Giving myself a goal to strive for was really helpful too.
@Chipmunk: Ditto--mine said the same. He knows I'll do most of the wedding but he said this is "his thing"
@yellowlinedpage: It's awful!!! He loves watching me squirm!! I definitely entertain myself trying to piece clues and things he has told me, but then its just like c'mon!!! ugh
When we discuss our (at this time) fictitious wedding, we talk about October. We both want to get married where we are from so South Louisiana would be our location. Between hurricane season and football season (die hard LSU fans as we are) that doesn't leave too much else to choose from. So it would either have to be a spring time or if we decide for fall, it would have to be the one week LSU does not play. Which (as we have already done our reasearch) is October 29 for 2011. As it is kind of late to think of Spring 2011, we are either going to be shooting for that October 2011 or I'm guessing Spring 2012 (ugg, that souds so far away).
My other reason for being so anxious I guess is that for my job we have to schedule our vacation pretty much a year in advance. Once November, December comes around, you have to send in all your vacaiton for the next year. So unless it happens before then, I'm thinking we are going to have some issues trying to get me some vacation time to actually have a wedding and honeymoon. Unless for some reason my bosses decide to be nice and re-arrange my schedule - which I won't hold my breath for.
I have put a bug in the boy's ear about needing to have my vacaiton picked for the next year within the next couple of months. And at my birthday dinner a few weeks ago, he apparenlty was asking some of my co-workers how strict that vacation deadline is. So with him asking if the deadline is strict, that makes me think he won't ask before then - womp womp.
We do have a ski vacation planned with my parents in early March. But honestly I think I will lose it if I have to wait until March.
This is what the Bee is for!! I vent here because I believe my friends might think I was crazy (I swear I'm not!).
So I had an idea for you- maybe the boy is having your ring made? Sometimes it takes a while.
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I posted about a month ago that the boy took me to look at rings. I was so happy and it was great to get to see what he actually liked and compare our taste. Now that a month has gone by, I'm starting to get impatient. CAN IT JUST HAPPEN ALREADY!? I don't want to bring it up to him that its getting to me already, but I feel like a crazy person. I have several good guy friends that told me after they took their current wives to look at rings it took them several months before they popped the question. MONTHS! EEK! How do I keep myself from getting so upset over this?
I know I should just be happy that sometime in the future we'll be getting engaged, but could we hurry this up a little? And we have busy weekends pretty much for the rest of the year. So while we aren't too busy just yet, I ask him his plans for the weekend, he usually just says that he has none and maybe we can rent a movie or something since he had a hard work week. So while he's suggesting movies, I want to suggest him asking me to spend the rest of his live with me!
How do I turn back into normal me and not itching for the proposal me?