Post # 1
It seems like EVERYONE around me is getting married lately: a girl in my dance troupe, a friend, my boss….In the last week I have had someone ask me to make their wedding cake for them (I’m a former baker) and menus for someone else (I work for a catering company now). I’m happy for them and to help them, but at the same time it’s rubbing salt in my wounds. Definitely feeling like a secret green eyed- monster in my mind.
May will be be my and my SOs 4 year anniversary, and since we’re currently long distance AND she’s looking for a new job, I KNOW it won’t be happening anytime soon and I’m SO ready RIGHT NOW. It’s making me switch between being really irritable and so sad I break down.
I’ve got hobbies: a new weight loss routine, fire performing, and dancing, but none of them take my mind off it. Urgh.
Post # 2
Is there any way you and your SO can live together? I’m sure it must be hard to be in a LD relationship when you would like to get married someday.
Post # 3
PositiveThinking: No, there’s no way. We don’t have the money for either of us to make the incredibly long move (europe to US or vice versa) until she gets a new job, which she is looking for, but it’s slow going, and even AFTER that she wants to save up a nest egg before moving. Just shoot me now?
Post # 4
That’s too bad. I can see why you are unhappy about the situation.
Have you been long distance for the whole time?
Post # 5
AlexiaMichelle: OK, I went thru some of your history. If your FI could afford a $7k+ ring, then she has a good job, right? How much is a plane ticket to her? What do you think you need to take with you if you move? I moved from Hawaii to the East coast with my daughter, 3 boxes and 2 duffle bags. Bought 2 plane tickets, and it was on. I came here to some support, and slowly made my way. (I also got lucky enough to meet FI thru this!) If your FI has a good job, can’t she help you for just a bit until you find work? I’m really not clear on work visas, and international moves (paperwork wise), but people do up and move, all the time. You’re a dancer? What about going and doing that where she is?
Please forgive me if I sound ignorant, because I kind of am on this subject. I’m just curious as to what’s stopping you from just going and being with whom you love. There’s no time like the present to dive in and start the rest of your life.
Also, I hope I’m not mistaken, she lives in the UK?
Post # 6
AlexiaMichelle: I totally understand. The good news is that moving doesn’t need to cost a ton. One of my dear friends moved to Spain 2 years ago with nothing but two suitcases and her skateboard (no joke).
She was able to get employment and stay for 2 years before choosing to come back to the States. It’s actually not very difficult to move to Europe and get a Visa. I’ve had 4 friends do it over the past 3 years and 1 more is currently looking for a job so she can go to London.
Here’s sending good vibes to you and her. Hopefully you find an answer to your prayers soon.
Post # 7
I’m in a ldr (4K over km) as well and we got engaged a little over a month now. I think it’s doable to be engaged while in ldr, and being married as well.
As for moving to another country, I’m not sure what kind of money you need to move over? I’m not planning to bring a lot of stuff to move over. Most of it could be left behind.
For me, it’s paying for a visa application and waiting for my graduation, but other than those, we’ll get me a ticket and I’ll be over.I also travel back and forth to where he is every sem break I get and he comes over as often as he can.