(Closed) Waiting of a different kind…

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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90 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

My FI and I did that…we were unofficially engaged for a few months until around Christmas when he officially proposed. My parents knew, his parents knew, and we were doing some preliminary wedding planing but no one else knew until I had the ring.

Post # 5
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90 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

@Potatoes, we are both going to be 22 and fresh out of college! It seems that where you live and the culture of the general area you’re from seems to affect how old some people choose to get married. I’ve read on here that many think under 25 is too young but I had many friends get married at 22-23 and I have never thought a thing of it until I started reading the boards online. But anyway, that’s off topic. Haha

Post # 7
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52 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

We thought about being engaged without ring and keeping it to ourselves, but we couldn’t do it because I can’t keep anything like that to myself. So we waited until we had the ring. It was really hard to wait.

On the side note, though, that’s so funny and true about the ages. I’m from OH originally, but moved to CA. I’m 27 now. The CA friends think I’m kind of young to be committing and the OH friends think I’m an embarrassing old maid. haha

Post # 9
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52 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I totally agree about the kids!! I decided to wait until 30, but even that is pushing it for me. I don’t want to wait until the last possible second and compromise my chances at having healthy babies. And yeah, I still want to be around when they hit all of their milestones (and hopefully, when their kids do, too).

If you’re ready, you’re ready. Everybody is different.

Post # 10
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82 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m totally in that situation now. It’s more common than you think and a lot more common than most will admit. Think about it, when your guy come to you with his intensions and you agree that you’re both on the same page, it’s only a matter of time before there is physical confirmation (a ring). I think society has us so messed up when it comes to these kinds of things. That’s why we fear whether or not an engagement without a ring will appear meaningless. This is a situation for you to decide whether you care about what people says or thinks.

I know for me, other than here we have only shared our “pre-engagement” with our family and close friends. Everyone else will know in due time. It’s definitely not easy to keep such great news a secret. But, I decided to do what I felt was best for me. In a way, it’s kind of nice knowing things that others don’t know. Best of luck to you!

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