Post # 1
Oh Bees I am not in a good mood. I am now about 99% sure that M will not propose on our anniversary this weekend. I pretty much figured that he wouldn’t –too predictable (I’m so sick of this surprise crap I’m starting to see why some people do not like surprises). Yet somewhere inside I hold on to a glimmer of hope that he will – that’s the other 1%.
Still I’m pretty sure he does not plan to do it this weekend. When I asked him last week about any plans he had for our anniversary, he had none! I thought maybe it was a trick, then again he could be waiting until the last minute (he is not a planner like myself). So yesterday he tells me that we wouldn’t be able to do anything really costly, and asked if I have any ideas. Really, you tell me this two days before our anniversary?! Now I’m not upset over having an inexpensive date, because I happen to know that he is paying on a ring (someone he shared that with told me about it last month & he doesn’t know that I know). We discussed earlier in the year that we would be engaged by the end of the year. I’m really starting to think that it is not going to happen being as though there is like a week and a half left in the year. This waiting is killing me, I can’t stand this. Basically the lack of anniversary planning coupled with seeing that an old “friend” posted photos of his proposal to his new fiancé on facebook, has me feeling rather blah at the moment ( I am happy for him, he is a nice guy we just weren’t compatible lol) .
I do not want to be in a pouty mood when M comes over; I know I should just be happy celebrating our relationship and maybe hold on to that 1% of hope for NYE. Help me make it through the rest of this year ladies.
How are you /did you make it through the waiting crunch time?
Post # 3
I totally understand. Hopefully it happens for you! Our anniversary is on Christmas Eve. Last year my boyfriend told me he wanted to be engaged by next year. I work as a landscaper, and I got laid off a month earlier than normal. My boyfriend got a better job right before I got laid off. He has a lapse in his paychecks now. He was unemployed for most of the year, which was really tough.
On top of that the other couple that was living with us left, and broke the lease. They are absolutely crazy, and would start fights about cleaning (we cleaned all the time). So we have double the bills now. Our savings has been drained, and I know we are beyond broke. I know there is no way it is happening. It’s killing me, this year has been so bad for us. I have to try and keep my composure in front of my family on Christmas Eve. I know we don’t have the money, but I want it to happen so bad. He told me a few months back that the ring was almost paid off. He could propose with a tin foil ring, and I would be glad to say yes. I just feels like something good needs to happen this year.
Sorry for venting, but things are so beyond crappy right now.
Post # 4
I don’t know. I just don’t focus on it, which is hard.
My anniversary is today and I’m not expecting it, but I don’t know our plans either. We were originally going to go to some cabins, but I told him not to since it would cost a lot. Now I don’t know anything. If we do nothing I am going to be beyond pissed off.
At least I get off today for 2 weeks.
Post # 5
@ lostinthemission: I’m so sorry things are so tight right now, and that your subleasees turned out to be irresponsible. Hopefully something good will happen for you guys this year. My year hasn’t been the best either I guess that’s just another reason why I have been looking forward to the proposal kind of like well at least the year would go out with a bang. One thing I believe for myself and you as that the Lord will bless in the new year and whats better is he can bless now, we don’t have to wait for a new year–we’re still standing 🙂
@mommabear: I try not to focus on it but as you said it is hard. I am sure you two will do something (I do not what is floating around in my guys head either). Enjoy your vacaction, wishing you a Happy Anniversary.
Thanks for the feedback ladies.
Post # 6
Oh myyy gosh, I felt exactly the same way!! We had talked about it over & over & over, and he kept leading me on!! Rather than your man, mine would actually LET me know when he was going to do it…like dropping hints here & there about “something came in to the jewelry store this weekend”, or “you’re going to LOVE this weekend.” It drove me INSANE. Honestly, I don’t know how I waited. But I knew that I didn’t even want to begin the wedding planning process until I was officially engaged. I know it’s mind boggling & it drive you CRAZY!! I actually got mad a few times! 🙂 But one night, when I honestly just gave up on the anticipation, he took me out to a beautiful dinner with some friends & I ordered a cheesecake & it was beautifully decorated on the dessert! MMM…so I guess my problem was solved by just not even expecting it anymore, and I just let it happen when it happened, even though I KNEW it was going to be soon…just like you do! Best of luck to you girl, when you get engaged you’ll HAVE to post pictures of this ring!!!
Post # 7
I am in the same crunch time….I have been going to the gym twice a day and staying very busy….that’s all I can do! Hang in there!
Post # 8
Thanks ladies, ah now I don’t feel so crazy LOL.
@Lees: Oh my word he actually threw you hints like that! Yeah my head would probably pop off lol, my guy is all mums the word, which still drives me crazy. So guess that is what I have to do try not to anticipate it, and I’ve been doing that until recently with the special dates coming up its so hard! Thanks for sharing your story, it really helped.
@knelly: Your right it is the down time that really gets to me, I’ve got to make it so that I don’t even have time to think about it. Uh I guess that won’t work for this weekend but lol immediately after!
Post # 9
I’m in the same boat and it’s TOUGH! I know my ring is sitting at the jewelry store waiting for FI to go pay off the last bit and pick it up (it’s been ready since Wednesday!!) and I have been bouncing off the walls with anticipation since MONDAY. I try not to be looking for hints or ask about it or get disappointed when it doesn’t happen but it’s hard.
My latest strategy is to try to distract myself as much as possible. I’ve been watching my Buffy the Vampire Slayer DVDs and that seems to do a pretty good job as does listening to non-romantic music and beating the hell out of my punching bag 😛
Post # 10
I know it is so hard waiting! It sounds like since he has a ring it will come soon! We are here if you need to vent and I can’t wait for you!
Post # 11
i think what helps in my case is that we’re long distance so i don’t really feel pressured around this time. we’d rather be together first in the same state before we get engaged so that’s keeping me sane. now once we move together? all bets are off.
but the month isn’t over yet! so keep your chin up girl. and remember to enjoy the holidays. it’s a great time whether you get engaged or not
Post # 12
@phedre: OOOOO I really wish I had a punching bag lol. Oh my word! You actually know that the ring is ready!? Wow. Thanks for the advice maybe I’ll watch a couple epi’s of my Grey’s dvds.
@ Ms.AsB: Thanks for the positivity 🙂 I certainly hope it will be sooner than later, I’d be so happy to share with you all!
@tea: We were long distance for a while too while I was in school, well since I moved back to my hometown the pressure cooker has def been on full blast lol. You also make a good point now is not the time to mope.
Post # 13
Hey BlissBound–this weekend is our date-aversary too! Just hang in there and try to focus on the present, I know that’s easier said than done. You know he’s buying you a ring soon, he just has to finish paying for it, which is probably why nothing was planned for this weekend. And there are only a few weeks left but you never know! I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you!
Post # 14
@ Blissbound: Thanks for the encouragement. I’m really glad to start the new year fresh. I’m so thankful for everything I do have that I can take for granted like food, a car, a place to live, my boyfriend for everything he does, and my great family who has been so supportive. Oh, and you are definitely not crazy. There is a whole group of us impatiently waiting along with you.
Post # 15
@lost: M was laid off on Tuesday so believe me when I saw we are definitely >>here<< . I started my business earlier this year and that’s basically all that I do and last month was really tough… Let’s just say I know there won’t be a Christmas proposal and I’m okay with that 😀 .. at least i don’t get to drive myself crazy waiting anymore, you know?!
@blissbound: maybe he’s trying to throw you off? or perhaps he’ll surprise you with a ring more magnificent than you originally imagined…