Post # 1
Hi Waiting Bees!
After chatting with many of you on these forums over the past week, I thought this would be a fun topic to investigate. I found that many of us are on very different pages, for better or for worse 😉
For me, we’ve discussed the when, where, and who, we would just need review these as our final decisions, then decide on all the details after the engagement. I think it makes the waiting worse that all I would have to do is call the venues, and the nitty-gritty will all be figured out as we go. I’m a very organized person, so I already feel like I’m falling behind. lol
How are you all doing with this?
Post # 2
I selected other. I am waiting and we have only discussed that it will be a court house wedding. I have every little thing planned out on pinterest and etsy, of course LOL but when he proposes we will then have more conversations about the who’s what’s and where’s
Post # 3
We havent really discussed it in detail. We have talked in depth about what kind of ring I want. He has mentioned he would want a destiantion wedding but nothing specific. Its mostly just me going on Etsy and Pintrest and pinning everything I like for our future wedding (he doesnt know I do that though!).
Post # 4
I’ve been engaged for a week now (!!!) but I wanted to comment lol While I was waiting we knew that we were eloping and having a reception when we got back. We also had our reception area picked out. And I bought my dress back in April! Now that I’m engaged, even though we’re still not having a normal wedding, I want to look at venues for the hell of it and feel engaged haha
Post # 5
WarrenWE: AquamarineQueen: Pinterest and etsy are deadly! Lol. I’m not having a traditional wedding, so I try to stay away from those. The amount of wedding detail almost scares me! I see what my best friend has on her pinterest after 3 weeks of being engaged, and I’m really glad I’m not going that route. lol
I actually started talking about places for a destination wedding with my SO because there are so many options! I started looking at costs for different destinations we discussed, and we ended up settling on a location that way. It’s not my fault he’s moving so slow 😉
ksn1219: Wow! You were prepared! Are you picking out a nice venue for the reception at home? Or are you doing an outdoor reception?
Post # 6
I’ve been green lighted to start looking at venues. I’m an accountant and by the time my ring is done and he gets around to proposing I’ll be getting into busy season at work. So we want to put the leg work in finding a place now while I have (some) time. Exciting 🙂
Post # 7
damarajade: Were getting married on some exotic beach and then coming home and having an outdoor reception. It will be in a family friends back yard around their pool and I plan on including beachy elements! Every one in my family has passed away and so has his mom and when we started talking marriage we decided then that planning a normal wedding and realizing who wouldnt be there with us was too much so that’s why we want to get away!
That’s also why I bought my dress so far in advance. I knew my grandfather was dying and wouldn’t be able to see my on my wedding so we had pics done in my dress! Which I’m so glad I did now because he passed away last weekend, the day after I got engaged!
Post # 8
We talked years ago at a friends wedding on who we want in our wedding party, and I want my favorite colors as the palette. After making an Etsy and Pinterest acct, I search here and there the other aspects of the wedding. I was a BM last year for a friend of ours, and when helping her look for venues I bookmarked places I liked for reference, and I know how much that’s going to cost.
I know how much he makes, and I’m about to graduate this fall and hopefully find a nice job in my feild soon, so then ill know how much wiggle room we both have
Post # 9
We mostly just have the timeline. We’ve discussed a few things vaguely, like wedding party, etc, but for the most part I refuse to plan until its official!!
Post # 10
We’ve got an idea of a timeline and have started writing out a potential guest list, colors, budget, & venue ideas. 🙂
Post # 11
- Wedding: March 2016 - Whitetail Ridge
I picked other as well. I’m not engaged YET, but he has the ring and is waiting for “the right time.”
I have so many things on Pinterest and Etsy saved, and it’s a topic of discussion a few times a week (usually brought up by him) of the hypothetical details of the wedding. We both know that we want a brunch reception, have an idea on the color scheme, who will be in the bridal party, where we want to have it, how many guests, but nothing has been planned, per se. We just throw out random ideas of things we’ve seen online or on TV. For now, it’s all hypothetical and realllllly fun to think about it, but I’m excited to make some solid decisions and get to planning after he proposes!
Post # 12
As you could see from my first post on here, we have each discussed what we envision, we realized that we are on different pages and now we are working it out. He told me to start figuring things out so we can put a budget together and figure out how long it will take us to save.
Post # 13
damarajade: I selected that I was “just waiting to put together the vision” — I am engaged now, but I had planned almost everything before I had a ring on my finger. HOWEVER, we were dating for 7 years and “decided” we were getting married before the official proposal — we kind of always just knew. Maybe I’m a weirdo and super Type-A…
But also — I ended up changing almost EVERYTHING I planned afterward anyway, so it was all kind of the product of obsessive thought about it rather than anything truly productive. I can say though that I was well-versed in prices and expectations for my “real” planning!
Post # 14
The boyfriend (24) and I (22) are in all sense, engaged. Other than the fact he still wants to do a proper proposal with a ring. (Also for documentation for visa purposes) He just chose the diamond yesterday!
We’ve spoke about rough when and where and what. We need to apply for a visa to get married in his country, which delays our registration date by 6-12 months. 1 ROM, 2 receptions in his and my country (after I graduate) Budget and venue as well. The visa thing just made everything much harder! ): The visa and proposal are both our top priority right now.
Post # 15
I’m super traditional and just can’t get myself to offiically plan anything until he proposes. But I’m a type A person to the core and we’ve discussed a possible date, possible venues, and about how many people. He’s even helped me choose a theme and colors.
We tentatively have everything planned but the Mr. is taking his sweet time getting down on that knee. As long as it happens before the end of January I think we can still make the August ’15 date we like. Sooner rather than later would be ideal so we can get downpayments on everything but I guess I’ll just unoffiicially plan all the details before he proposes.