Waiting rant.

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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1137 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@cirk:  waiting sucks! You could sit down and tell him that you want more than anything to be married to him and that you don’t want a super expensive ring.

I had sort of an issue like this, but about the house.

We don’t live together, we own a small house that only has a bed, kitchen, stove and lots of books. He wanted it to be completely furnished by the time we moved in. I had such a hard time telling him that I wanted we BOTH build our home together and that I didn’t care if we had no furniture for the first months.

He had a hard time understanding this, but talking with other guy who just got married and is also building his home slowly helped.

So, talk with him and maybe have some friend (a guy) talk with him about the ring not needing to be super expensive. Guys hear guys! They sometime think we are just wanting them to feel better hehe.

Post # 5
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1137 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@cirk:  gahhh that’s hard. Then my only advice would be enjoy what you have. Many girls are with cheap guys, or guys who aren’t interested in the process.

I totally get waiting is frustrating, but try to get out the most of it.

 

Post # 6
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451 posts
Helper bee

I’m sitting here laughing (seriously, out loud) because my first thought was to go up to him and say “So, you agreed when you had $10k you would get me a ring, right?”.  Then handing him a stack of monopoly money and say, “I’m ready now, thank you”.

Post # 7
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2052 posts
Buzzing bee

@cirk:  OMG we are in the same boat fellow bee!

SO has it in his head that it has to be approx 3 months salary or 10% of his pay…and to boot–SO’s older brother also bought his wife a 10k engagement ring and SO has it in his head that he has to get me a ring like that too (ugh!!!!!)

Yeah I’ll be waiting for a while too.  I was hoping to get a proposal for my bday last March..and I doubt that I’ll be getting a proposal by my bday this March, but I suppose I’m okay with it.

I opened a wedding savings account and this has helped me out A LOT.  I’d like to think that while SO is saving for the ring, I can save up for the wedding and then we can also have a fall wedding for whever he proposes.  Perhaps you can do the same? 

Good Luck!

Post # 8
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272 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Sorry to hear about your bad waiting day! Do you know when he’s actually going to start saving? 

Post # 10
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272 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

@cirk: Awesome! My SO will be starting to save in January or February after settling into his new job and our new (more expensive, booo) apartment. Living expenses are sucking up most of our extra money too, it sucks. But at least your SO is on track! 🙂

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