Waiting till Marriage Brides?

posted 3 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

You’ll find lots of past posts on this topic on both the INTIMACY and CHRISTIAN Boards.

 

Post # 5
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114 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I just got married this past Friday and it was my husband (AHH!) and my first time. I will be honest, I was so nervous, but it was so amazing to share that with him finally!

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@asianbarbie:  went ahead and moved to the “intimacy” board 🙂

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@asianbarbie:  I got married not that long ago and I was a virgin (we hadn’t had full on penetrative sex but had done other stuff) until the morning after my wedding. If you don’t mind me asking…how far have you and your FI gone so far and how comfortable do you feel about being naked around each other? Is it his first time too? It may make a difference as to what advice/suggest!

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@asianbarbie:  Perhaps I am not exactly the answer your looking for, but I will answer anyway. I was not a virgin when I met my DH, but he was. We waited until marriage to have sex. Honestly, even though I had had it before, I was still very nervous but excited for the day of. DH wasn’t nervous at all. It was sweet and we both kind of giggled. It really wasn’t all that sexually amped. We have had much practice since then (and have a little one on the way), so obviously it has become better and more passionate.

Post # 11
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652 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@asianbarbie:  

My husband and I waited. We did mess around though so we weren’t as nervous about it as others may be that haven’t done anything. 

I didn’t feel as though it was awkward or anything. It felt very natural to have sex with him as we were so close and trusted each other 100%. I hurt a little bit but not too bad.

I didn’t bother with fancy lingerie or anything. When we got to our hotel room we both showered and I just wore a nice lacy nightie. I hadn’t drank enough water though and kept getting foot cramps which somewhat ruined the mood haha. But it definitely made it less tense.

If you haven’t done HJ, fingering or oral before you don’t necessarily have to jump right into sex. It may feel more natural/comfortable to slowly work your way up to sex. Even if it’s just over your first few days of marriage? I know some couples that have done that. But I know others that had jumped to right to sex. Just do whatever feels right for you and your husband! Have fun 🙂 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@asianbarbie:  I waited til marriage. I wasn’t nervous but it was extremely uncomfortable for me because he’s well endowed and I was new. Lol just relax, don’y psyche yourself out and PLEASE use lube. It will make it a little less uncomfortable. You will get used to it after a while and then it will become enjoyable for you too. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We waited until marriage. We did mess around a little bit before marriage, but no sex. I was nervous too. It wasn’t the most pleasant time doing it the first time, but it was special & we’ve really adjusted in the time we’ve been married.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

We waited til marriage. Neither of us had seen each other naked, but we definitely fooled around…no oral sex or handjobs, but prettyyy much everything else. On our wedding night, it was fabulous. I actually cried, not from pain, but because I felt SO, SO close to him. We had been best friends for 7 years and now we were AS CLOSE as two people could get!? So awesome.

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