(Closed) Waiting to buy the wedding band… till the 1st anny?

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

It would probably be pretty awkward when all your family and friends asked to see your ring after you’re married… and you’d have to explain why there’s no wedding band there.  Just to avoid that awkwardness, I’d suggest finding other ways to cut back if possible.  Perhaps postponing the honeymoon would be a workable solution?

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

What about a more budget friendly stand in? You can get a pretty basic wedding band from Kay Jeweler’s (for example) from $60 – $100.

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I don’t think it would be awkward to tell family and friends you don’t have a wedding ring yet because of cutting back. A true friend would understand rather than judge.

Could you get a stand-in ring, until you can afford the other? Perhaps silver/titanium/etc?

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

No way.  I’m wearing my engagement ring as my wedding ring after the wedding because to find a band to fit it would cost a lot of money.  I know 3 other women who have married within the past year who have done the same.  My FI is getting a relatively inexpenisve tungsten carbide ring for the wedding and we are both getting our permanent wedding bands as 1 year anny gifts to each other.  I really do not think it’s a big deal at all and I totally don’t care if anyone else thinks it is a big deal.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

Do whatever you’d like! You can choose to get a cheap stand in ring or just wait till you have the one that you want. My wedding band cost $400 (almost as much as my e-ring) and I’m very happy with it–but that is my taste.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If that’s what you want to do, you should do it. 

If you want a wedding band, than like others have said, I think an inexpensive ring would be great. Than you can get the matching band for your 1 yo anniversary and wear all three rings if you like. This is what I would do.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

A ring does not make you engaged or married. If you have to wait to get one, then that’s fine. Lots of people used to go their entire lives without a ring for one reason or another, but they were still married and everyone around them knew that. There is nothing rude or offensiv about it, and no one has the right to judge you. If cost is an issue, I wouldn’t spend money that you need for other things for a ‘stand in” ring just to show off to other people. Save up for the ring that you do want instead.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

You can always get a cheaper “stand in ring” until you can afford the matching one!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think you should do what you want and can afford. If people ask you about the band, you can just say you didn’t want to take away from your e-ring.

I’m thinking of doing this, too, by the way. I did find a band I loved but at $500, I think not!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think it would be fine actually. I’ve had a few friends/family members that used their engagement ring as the wedding ring w/o ever even getting a band. If you want to wait I think thats perfectly fine. It doesn’t make you any less married.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m always of the mind that you can do whatever you like.  Yes, people will ask questions about why you don’t have a band.  But, it really doesn’t seem like a biggie to me.  You could always get a stand in ring like someone suggested, one that is much less expensive, until the time is right for the ‘real’ one.  That’s probably what I’d do.

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