Post # 1
Hey May 2011 brides…
Is anyone else struggling with the length of time until their wedding? I am currently working on the important decisions that need contacts done early (venue, photog, etc), but am struggling not wanting to start EVERYTHING right now.
For a natural planner, the delay is killing me. 🙂
I’ll have plenty of DIY projects in the future, so I guess this time is good for me to narrow down my 1,000s of ideas, but still.
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
I was engaged in October 08 for June 10 wedding – we booked basically everything by February 09! I say if you know what you want, go for it. You’ll feel better knowing that it’s all set. I always tell my friends who get engaged to do early! As some of the bloggers have written, if you have a clear vision, go for the DIY projects as well, you can do them leisurely and have them done right without being stressed to get it done!
Post # 4
Oh my goodness meganrose, I know just what you are talking about!
I’m not a May 2011 bride (I’m a July 2011 bride), but I feel the same way. I want to plan EVERYTHING now…because I am excited and I am an organized planner at heart.
Post # 5
@meganrose- I know i’m not a May bride (October 2011) but i can totally relate to wanting to get started on DIY projects and such so early. So far we have the venue and church booked. I want to nail down the caterer and photographer by June…then get the invitations in order.
Starting early is a good idea because if you know what you want now, then why not? ( at least thats what i’m going to do. ) I’ve been engaged for a year now and my ideas are still consistent and haven’t altered so i’m just going to run with it! @eriqua hit the nail on the head for me, do the DIY projects leisurely with less stress 🙂
Post # 6
I got engaged in December ’08, and my wedding is in June ’10. I had the opposite problem – I had a really stressful job at the time and being so far off, I really put things off because it seemed so far away and I was so busy that I couldn’t get myself to start working on it. Now I have 5 months left and am REALLY starting to feel the time crunch. As long as you think you know what you want, I say GO FOR IT! Plan away, my friend! Work on those DIY projects that will take far longer than you expect. You have the advantage of being able to enjoy the process instead of being completely stressed out about getting it all done…and totally mad at yourself for wasting that first year of planning time just sitting on your butt….which is about where I’m at right now!
Post # 7
For sure get your photographer booked. My photog upped his priced by $1000 for 2010! We were so glad we booked in 2009 when we saw that on his website!
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
I’m definitely in the same boat. The wedding is 15 months away and we’ve already gotten so much done. It feels great to have accomplished so much but I know that we’ll have plenty of time to second-guess ourselves over and over. And also, we’ll have like a year of nothing to do before crunch time begins!
Post # 9
I’m so glad I’m not the only one that feels that way!
We have our reception venue already and are narrowing down details for the ceremony. I already have a photographer and hopefully a DJ.
Pretty soon I’m going to be tired of looking and relooking at the Save-The-Date Cards I already started designing. 🙂
Post # 10
We just booked our venue, and we’re still narrowing down which DJ we want. While I keep trying to be really proactive about planning, Mr. Redpen keeps telling me we have tons of time.
I’m trying to pace myself, but it’s hard because there are so many little detail projects I’d like to do once the “bigger” stuff is out of the way…
Anyone else seeing resistance from their FIs?
Post # 11
I am a November 2011 bride. I’ve been dying to start planning since mid-July 09. I haven’t been able to convince the fiance/my family/his family that planning needs to be done right now, even though I feel that way.
Post # 12
Oh Stassney. I can’t even imagine. Its fun to come up with ideas but after a while you want to do the actual work! 🙂
Hopefully spring will come quickly and I can start dress shopping (trying to wait for the 1 year mark) and then it will really seem like things are ready to go.
Miss Red Pen, my fiance was kindof out of the whole thing until we went to register on Saturday. Now he’s really excited to start doing some things. He’s artistic, so asking him to help do alot of the DIY designing has gotten him into the planning. Maybe telling him that for you, trying to get some things off of your list now will reduce your stress later?
Post # 13
I was engaged in December ’08, and am getting married in June ’10. I held off on planning and I REGRET IT! Granted, I had a really stressful job at the time and had zero time/energy to think about the wedding, but now that we have just 4 months to go, we have SO much to do!
If you’re doing DIY stuff, go ahead and get started on the things you KNOW you want now. (You don’t want to waste time/money on stuff you won’t end up using, obviously, but if your heart is set on certain elements, just go for it!)
Good luck with the wait – a long engagement is tough, but hopefully it will give you time to save up, plan, and execute the wedding of your dreams =)
Post # 14
that’s good advice farmersdaughter!
We just received the confirmation and contract for our church. That was the BIGGEST headache and I’m so happy to be done!
Post # 15
My one friend is mad at me for planning so early in my engagement, because she waited around for a couple months before she planned hers. But she can afford a wedding planner, that’s not a luxury I have! Ours is about 15 months away, but yesterday my parents and I were talking about some of the stuff. We managed to get the argument on the bar tacked down though, which I’m happy about!
I’m probably going to call the church this week or next week to book it and meet with the priest. And we need to find out where we want the reception, but we’ll probably use this affordable knights of columbus hall. Once the locations are booked, I get to have an official date to be able to do the rest! Since June is a popular month I want to get a head on!
I also, though, don’t want the whole thing planned and have 10 months til the wedding! Lol.
Post # 16
- Wedding: April 2011 - AnthonyÃ¢Â€Â™s Fine Dining
OMG you took the words right out of my mouth! We have our venue and our photographer (he’s a friend), and I’m going dress shopping next weekend because it’s my bday and I want to 🙂 I’m also a natural planner, so it’s hard not to decide on flowers, invites, etc. already. I use the knot’s checklist (I’m not a big fan of the knot, but this tool is actually really useful) as a guide to what I should be doing when. Granted, if I’m “supposed to” do something in the 9-11 months ahead range, it will be done 11 months ahead. Take all the time you need to shop around, and if you end up planning ahead a little bit that’s okay!