Post # 1
ok so. I am turning 30 on saturday – and mr. junebride is 36. we’ve been together for almost 3 years (2.10)
our wedding isn’t until June of next year – but we’re legally married already (for insurance).
thing is – he and i have been talking (a lot) the last few months about “when we have kids”. we both want kids – and I know that if it wasn’t for fact that our wedding isn’t UNTIL next year (and no one but a handful know we already are) we’d start TTC (trying to concieve) now.
it’s just funny – for YEARS and YEARS I’ve done everything I could to make sure I did NOT get pregnant…terrified of the thought of it – and yet now, it’s like – man – next year can’t get here fast ENOUGH! 😛
we both have friends who either are pregnant now, trying to conceive or just HAD their first. When we go out and see little babies / little kids and their mommy & daddy – it’s all i can do not to stop and say “gosh i wish that was us”. they always make me stop and smile though!
It’s just weird, I guess, because again – for SO long I/we did everything possible to make sure I didn’t get pregnant and now that it’s something we both want – we know that for many reasons we need to wait….(a main one, too, being that we need to pay for/pay off the wedding before we consider starting a family, for finances sake).
anyone else waiting – even though you want one now?
I know that once we have our little ones, life’ll move so fast and before we know it they themselves will be grown – so we need to enjoy non-parenthood while we still can…but I know he wants one just as bad as I do (if not more)…it’s just hard to be patient. lol. 🙂
I was over talking to a friend at work who had her first son a few months ago – and I LOVE seeing all the pictures and hearing her tell me of everything he’s learning and doing…and even on the “bad days” she absolutely loves every single second of it.
oh well – I guess til next year (well, the year after, to have him/her if it happens right away…) we have our pets to spoil! 😀
Post # 3
We decided that for us it wasn’t an option to TTC until we were married, though it felt like the clock was ticking. I’m not even sure if it will be able to happen for us, but now that we’re married we’re going to give it a go!
Very exciting, but I agree, hard to wait!
Post # 4
I know what you mean. We are getting married in December, and that can’t get here soon enough. And now it seems the trend is moving toward already being preggers when you get married!
Post # 5
My SO is eight years older than I am. I’m 21, he’s 29. We both want kids, but we’ll have to compromise on when it happens; he’ll have to wait a few years longer than what he might like and I’ll probably become pregnant sooner than I would have otherwise. Babies simply aren’t happening until my career is in order. It helps that his brother is expecting a baby in Jan. and my sister is expecting in April…we get to live vicariously through them!
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2010 - Heron Hill Winery
My FI wishes we didn’t have to wait…..our wedding date is set 2 years from now so thinking that we will have to make him wait 3 years total…I don’t want to start too soon after being married. I want to be happily married for a while before we introduce kids.
Post # 7
Babies can happen at any time when you both begin to want them basically! I have one gf who was on the low dose pill and has four kids ALL CONCEIVED while on birth control and 3 of them are all one year apart!
As for me, I just turned 40 and we still have NOT ruled out having another but it’d be when I am a year or so older.
All I can say is that babies truly enhance your life. Today is my son’s birthday and I could not be more blessed to be his mother.
He has taught me the true meaning of unconditional love and I wish all of you wanting families by either birth or adoption love and happiness for wanting to share your lives with a child!
Post # 8
thanks for the replies, guys!!! 🙂
def. glad to know i’m not alone! lol
we’re definitely waiting because it’s the responsible thing to do…(although i HAVE played around with the idea in my head to ttc before the wedding…) but alas, we will try and do the responsible thing. 😛
my brother just had his first baby last year (my nephew is 1 year and 5 months old now…) but unforunately I have yet to meet him!!! we live in indiana and they live in florida.
plus – too – i keep telling myself, it’s NOT selfish to want to look good for my wedding! (i’ve lost 30 pounds this year and have another 10 to go…lol)
it really is – as for now – the best feeling in the world to know that the man I am with WANTS me to be the mother of his children. that’s something else that has taken a while to get used to and still catches me off gaurd when HE talks about “when we have kids”…he doesn’t flinch or look at me like i’m crazy! lol.
that’s a whole new feeling too! 😀
Post # 9
That sounds really sweet, and this year will probably fly by! If your profile date is right, you’re already talking 10 months.
I’m 28, almost 29, and I’m willing to wait 2-3 years but all the sudden now he wants to wait 5. I think we’ll have to reconsider our timeline in a couple of years, but it’s tough waiting right now. I agree with you, though, it’s almost liberating to be with a man where having a child is matter of when… not something scary and taboo!
Post # 10
We are on the waiting fence. We both really want to start now but we also want to get some home improvement projects done and travel a little before pregnancy. So we change our minds all the time. He’s going to be 40 in December and he’s very worried about being the “old” dad.
Post # 11
We don’t want to wait, but we know we should. First, we’re both young (21 and 24), and we should probably do better on the career front first and I still need to finish school. But man I want a baby now (and so does Mr. Joe, but he’s just more practical than me)! I think part of the reason I’ve been dying to have one is because I used to take care of a baby (I’m a nanny) but he moved away in June! I cared for him from 6mons-18months old. Now I’m taking care of a 3 year old and a 6 year old. So not the same! I really enjoyed caring for the baby and watching him grow and now that he’s gone, Im ready to put all the work into my own!
Post # 12
Yep you’re not alone! We’ve been together for 3 years and I’m 31 he’s 32. We get married next year in April. We want to start trying in 2011. It seems weird to be thinking about having kids. I always thought I’d have more time between wedding and kids. But I don’t want to wait much longer.
Post # 13
Definitely want to wait until I get married, but honestly not sure how long that’ll last. If we’re talking a year or two- maybe- any longer that that- not sure I can do it. It’s tough when that baby fever creeps up on you.
Post # 14
LOL. He wants one NOW and we aren’t engaged yet! I’ve gotten baby fever too and it won’t go away. I thought it would when I went back to work (I teach pre-K) but it hasn’t.LOL
Post # 15
I’m 23 and my FI is 35… he wants babies ASAP. I told him I want to wait for a few years first (like 3-5), especially since we’ve spent a lot of our time apart!
I think its important to enjoy married life without children for awhile first, but that’s just me! I feel like I’m still too young to start popping out babies, but I can understand the baby fever. When it hits, it’s STRONG! A lot of my friends have little ones… you just want to hug them & love them. 🙂
Post # 16
The FI wants kids like, yesterday, and I want to wait at least 5 years! We’re 27 & 29, and still have 3 more years of grad school … I want to be married, NOT a student, and enjoy living life NOT on a paycheck to paycheck basis for a couple years before I procreate 🙂 Ever since I fell in love with FI, I do get that maternal urge when I see cute babies … until they start crying!