(Closed) waiting to have a baby…

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

We decided that for us it wasn’t an option to TTC until we were married, though it felt like the clock was ticking.  I’m not even sure if it will be able to happen for us, but now that we’re married we’re going to give it a go!

Very exciting, but I agree, hard to wait!

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I know what you mean. We are getting married in December, and that can’t get here soon enough. And now it seems the trend is moving toward already being preggers when you get married!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

My SO is eight years older than I am. I’m 21, he’s 29. We both want kids, but we’ll have to compromise on when it happens; he’ll have to wait a few years longer than what he might like and I’ll probably become pregnant sooner than I would have otherwise. Babies simply aren’t happening until my career is in order. It helps that his brother is expecting a baby in Jan. and my sister is expecting in April…we get to live vicariously through them!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010 - Heron Hill Winery

My FI wishes we didn’t have to wait…..our wedding date is set 2 years from now so thinking that we will have to make him wait 3 years total…I don’t want to start too soon after being married. I want to be happily married for a while before we introduce kids.

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Babies can happen at any time when you both begin to want them basically!  I have one gf who was on the low dose pill and has four kids ALL CONCEIVED while on birth control and 3 of them are all one year apart!

As for me, I just turned 40 and we still have NOT ruled out having another but it’d be when I am a year or so older.

All I can say is that babies truly enhance your life.  Today is my son’s birthday and I could not be more blessed to be his mother.

He has taught me the true meaning of unconditional love and I wish all of you wanting families by either birth or adoption love and happiness for wanting to share your lives with a child!

 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

That sounds really sweet, and this year will probably fly by! If your profile date is right, you’re already talking 10 months.

I’m 28, almost 29, and I’m willing to wait 2-3 years but all the sudden now he wants to wait 5. I think we’ll have to reconsider our timeline in a couple of years, but it’s tough waiting right now. I agree with you, though, it’s almost liberating to be with a man where having a child is matter of when… not something scary and taboo!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

We are on the waiting fence. We both really want to start now but we also want to get some home improvement projects done and travel a little before pregnancy. So we change our minds all the time. He’s going to be 40 in December and he’s very worried about being the “old” dad.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

We don’t want to wait, but we know we should. First, we’re both young (21 and 24), and we should probably do better on the career front first and I still need to finish school. But man I want a baby now (and so does Mr. Joe, but he’s just more practical than me)! I think part of the reason I’ve been dying to have one is because I used to take care of a baby (I’m a nanny) but he moved away in June! I cared for him from 6mons-18months old. Now I’m taking care of a 3 year old and a 6 year old. So not the same! I really enjoyed caring for the baby and watching him grow and now that he’s gone, Im ready to put all the work into my own!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Yep you’re not alone!  We’ve been together for 3 years and I’m 31 he’s 32. We get married next year in April.  We want to start trying in 2011.  It seems weird to be thinking about having kids.  I always thought I’d have more time between wedding and kids.  But I don’t want to wait much longer. 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Definitely want to wait until I get married, but honestly not sure how long that’ll last. If we’re talking a year or two- maybe- any longer that that- not sure I can do it. It’s tough when that baby fever creeps up on you.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

LOL. He wants one NOW and we aren’t engaged yet! I’ve gotten baby fever too and it won’t go away. I thought it would when I went back to work (I teach pre-K) but it hasn’t.LOL

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I’m 23 and my FI is 35… he wants babies ASAP. I told him I want to wait for a few years first (like 3-5), especially since we’ve spent a lot of our time apart!

I think its important to enjoy married life without children for awhile first, but that’s just me! I feel like I’m still too young to start popping out babies, but I can understand the baby fever. When it hits, it’s STRONG! A lot of my friends have little ones… you just want to hug them & love them. πŸ™‚

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

The FI wants kids like, yesterday, and I want to wait at least 5 years!  We’re 27 & 29, and still have 3 more years of grad school … I want to be married, NOT a student, and enjoy living life NOT on a paycheck to paycheck basis for a couple years before I procreate πŸ™‚  Ever since I fell in love with FI, I do get that maternal urge when I see cute babies … until they start crying!

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