Post # 1
Sorry if this is TMI!
I was recently told by a female cousin that waiting to have sex is a huge mistake and I will regret it.
We are waiting to have sex as I am in college, and we don’t want an ‘oops’. I know, I know, condoms, etc. I am on the pill, but we just don’t want an oops right now.
IS it a huge mistake? We do the other sexual things, but not penetration. We’ve talked and he is on board and agrees with why we wait. It isn’t a religious thing.
What do you all think…?
Post # 3
I think your cousin has no idea what is the right choice for you. Only you can decide what is best for you and your relationship.
Post # 4
@Haruyou: wait have you had sex before and are just stopping now? im lost if your not sexually active why are you on the pill?
Post # 5
They always say there really is only ONE for sure way to make sure you dont get pregnant & that is abstinence. So if you’re really freaked out about having a kid at this time in your life, then props to you for not chancing it. Personally, I started having sex in college and was on the pill and we used condoms. So far so good!! (*KNOCK ON WOOD*)
Post # 6
How would you handle an accidental pregnancy? Would you keep it, would you have an abortion, would you go the adoption route? I know people who would have had accidental pregnancies- it wasn’t the end of the world for them, but if it is for you, then you’re making the smart choice.
Post # 7
@Haruyou: I can tell you that I have never regretted not having sex with someone but vice versa not so much!
Post # 8
@Haruyou: I regretted NOT waiting because there is so much excitement when you first have sex! Literally it is a non-stop marathon and I wish I had saved that fun for when we got married 🙂
Post # 9
I think waiting to avoid an oops is silly. Part of having sex is being responsible about it.
Post # 10
@Haruyou: I think it’s your choice, not your cousin’s choice, and as long as you can talk about it with your significant other, then you should do what is right for you. If this is what you prefer, then it is the right thing.
Post # 11
@Haruyou: I think that what is/was right for your cousin is not necessarily right for you.
I think I chose the right time for me when I was in college, but I am also not you. I have friends who lost their V-card in High School and others on their wedding night (after college) and no one decision was right or wrong.
Do what you want.
I will say that with BC and condoms you chances of getting pregnant are negligable, so if that’s the only thing holding you back, you can change your mind if you want to.
Post # 12
@MrsTVLover: I disagree. The only SURE way to not get pregnant is to not have sex. If OP doesn’t want to chance it, she is making a decision that is right for her and her partner. As long as they’re both on board, I don’t see why anyone would have a problem; it’s their business.
Post # 13
only you can make that decision. i had sex before marriage.
Post # 14
@ajillity81: she said it isn’t a religious thing.
Post # 15
I waited till I was fairly old to have sex for the first time- at age 20. For me persoanlly, I think it was kind of silly and I wish I would have had sex sooner. But you should do what is right for you and not be swayed by your cousin.
Post # 16
@Payless: I’m on the opposite end of the spectrum as you – I’m EXTREMELY glad I had sex when I did – it was very painful for me the first MANY times, and I never really enjoyed it until much later. My first times definitely weren’t a non-stop marathon. Definitely thankful that my relationship with my husband never had to include that and that my wedding night didn’t involve ANY pain 🙂