Post # 1
- Wedding: August 2012 - Sunset Harbour
DH and I are working on closing on our home – and I would looooove to TTC right away, I have horrible baby fever. BUT I am committed to be a bridesmaid and maid of honor in two fall weddings next year. My brain says hold off but my heart is all babybabybabybaby. Anyone else wait because of other commitments?
Post # 3
I wouldn’t wait a whole year. My cousin was going to wait because she’s in my wedding and I told her absolutely not! Please don’t put your life on hold!! It’s now past the date that it would be a big conflict and she’s still not pregnant but even if she was, I would never be upset with her. Although, every bride is different so you never know. Have a talk with the brides if you feel the need, but I wouldn’t wait!!
Post # 4
Yep I am in the same situation! My husband and I are both ready but I talked myself out of it because I am a bridesmaid in a wedding next fall and if we get pregnant now I will have like a two month old at the wedding which I don’t think will be very convenient for anyone so now I have to wait until at least June so that I am not like hugely pregnant and ready to burst at her wedding 🙁
Post # 5
I’d say don’t wait either … My SIL was 6 months pregnant at our wedding and it was still great! You might attempt to time it so that you aren’t due the same month s you’re supposed to be MOH but other than that I’d say start when you are ready
Post # 6
Don’t put off your life plan for someone else’s. I mean, how rude of them to get married when you want to be having a baby, amiright? 🙂
My SIL (best woman) was pregnant at our wedding. She was bitchy and attention-grabbing about it, but the actual fact that she was pregnant did nothing to ruin our wedding. She was only about 7 weeks so she even still fit in her dress and everything. When we were planing she told me that they were going to start trying right after my wedding and I told her that was crazy – don’t plan around MY life. They claim the baby was an “Oops we were drunk and forgot the condom” but she had been off the pill and on pre-natals for months, so…
Post # 7
If you are ready to have a child now, I wouldn’t wait because of other people’s weddings. For starters, there is no guarantee that you will even get PG right way. In addition, you may feel good enough to still participate in BP. Things in life will always come up and you can’t keep waiting.
Post # 8
My sister was 6 months at my wedding too – it was no problem.
Maybe try to time it so you aren’t due to deliver a month before or a month after the weddings? But really, you never know if it’s going to be easy or hard to concieve until you start trying so (esp if you’re already 30 ish) so it’s best not to wait, just in case.
Post # 9
@b00kbug: My sister will be six months pregnant at her best friends wedding, you can’t put your family planning on hold, there will always be something..
Post # 10
Don’t hold off. If you’re ready to TTC, go right ahead. If not, there will always be something to put it off for.
Post # 11
you might not get pregnant on the first try and something always is going to come up. if you are ready now, start trying now.
Post # 12
- Wedding: August 2012 - Sunset Harbour
Thanks for all the advice! I’m 27 currently and I dont think I would even worry about keeping track of my cycle for best time to concieve and everything. I’d just like to get off BC and if it happens, it happens. And I agree I’d like to time it so I would not be due the month before, month of, or month after.
I’m just worried about the dress – I am already sized for one of the dresses because of bride’s credit at Davids, so that would be a scramble to fix. I also don’t want either of these two BFFs to get upset that I can’t participate in crazy boozy antics that I normally would if I am pregnant.
Post # 13
I’m getting married next September and my best friend who is a bridesmaid told me she is TTC but she might hold off now because of my wedding. I told her absolutely not, that she can’t put her life on hold because I’m getting married. To reassure her I told her that we can pick out long empire waist dresses that will easily accommodate a baby bump if she’s pregnant at my wedding or if she just recently had a baby. I would never expect anyone to put their life on hold for my wedding.
Post # 14
@b00kbug: I was recently pondering the same thing. My husband and I are finally at the point where we think we can make it work with day care, expenses, etc. We had a long discussion about whether/when to start because I’m the Matron of Honor in my mother’s wedding in mid-May. I had a scare last month which would have made me due 10 days after her wedding — way too close for comfort! I am very private with family about TTC so I didn’t want to have a conversation with her about it, and considered putting it off entirely. We decided to go ahead with it, especially now that we are out of the danger zone of being due the same month! I encourage you to do the same: live your life your way! You never know what will happen and when.
Post # 15
I personally couldn’t wait that long. We have to TTC around me going to school as well, I am almost 30, and I don’t have all the time in the world. Putting it off another year just isn’t feasible for us.
Post # 16
@b00kbug: I’m in the same boat as you, starting to TTC but a bridesmaid for a friend of mine. Depending on how long it takes, I will stop TTC for 2 months that would put me due close to her wedding, so I will either have a few month old baby that my mom/DH can watch while I’m busy bridesmaiding, or I will have a cute bump in the dress!
Definitely don’t put your life on hold… who knows how long it will even take you to get pg.