Hello ladies,
I know we have some people out there who, like me, have been lurking on these boards as they wait until the date that they've set forth to TTC. While I've learned a lot from my lurking days, I'm starting to feel the urge to be more active and get to know others on the board even though I'm not sure what my place is here since I'm still "waiting". Is anyone interested in having a general chat thread for those of us waiting to TTC? We could talk about charting, things we're doing to get ready, our SO's, or really anything that's on our minds as we begin our TTC journey. Who's up for it?
Though I am currently TTC, I think this is a great idea. Before I officially started TTC, I didn't want to post in these boards, because I didn't feel like I 'fit in'. But with a board for people waiting, I would have posted months ago.
@lindsayandchris09: Thanks! I've started to post a little bit in terms of answering questions and congratulating people but there is definitely an awkward phase where you are just so afraid to post anything!
@AstoriaK: I am pretty new too and pre-TTC for the next few months. There's this thread http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/february-poas-part-2 that is ongoing.
I do wish there was a "waiting" TTC thread, for those like me who are taking out their BC (I have an implant,) and starting pre-natals, charting, etc.
Let's get the ball rolling with some intros:
I'll start with some info about me.
Age: 30, DH is 32
When are you starting to TTC?: DH and I are planning to start in June/July as soon as some major dental work that I have to do is completed. I'm in the beginning stages now and I'll have to get a LOT of x-rays for the next five months (kinda difficult when you are PG)
What are you doing now to get ready to TTC?: I'm working out 3-4 times a week and trying to get myself in the best shape that I can be in. I also started prenatals this week and am going off BC in four weeks. I start my last BC pack on Sunday and I'm psyched!
What are you looking forward to most about TTC?: My DH's only goal in life is to be a father and I know that he is going to be so excited when I tell him about our future BFP. I just can't wait to see the joy in his face.
For fun, what's your favorite dessert?: So many to choose from but I would say that there's nothing in the world like chocolate chip cookie dough ice cream!
I think this is a great idea! I am also waiting to TTC. I am getting married in July and we want to start trying right after the wedding. I am excited, but also nervous.
@AstoriaK: I'll play!
I am due for an annual so I decided to switch providers and found an ob/gyn instead of just general medicine. I see her on the 25th and will just check and see if there's anything I should know before TTC, I intend to see her throughout a future pregnancy etc... However we won't be trying until at least this summer sometime. Maybe even not until September. My mom is taking me to Paris and I feel like it would be a lot better to go not pregnant so I can enjoy the wine, and not be tired sight seeing. I'm conflicted :)
And that's where we are right now!
Editing to fill out your survey!
Age: I am 31, DH is 33 on the 21st
When are you starting to TTC?: SEe above
What are you doing now to get ready to TTC?: Nothing yet, we will see on the day of my appt if the dr says to start prenatals. I already am active and in pretty good shape. Mostly I'm trying to mentally prepare myself for such a crazy life change!
What are you looking forward to most about TTC?: Just the next stage in life and having that sweet little baby belong to my Dh and I, and to see him as a father.
For fun, what's your favorite dessert?: Too much, I love anything chocolate and peanut butter! Moose tracks ice cream anyone? YUM!
@aliciapdx: I love the POAS threads but they tend to mainly be for people who have been TTC. I like to drop in and congratulate people but I think it's hard to know what to say when you're not charting or tracking ovulation or even POAS-ing!
@MrsMath: I'm with you! Excited but crazy nervous! Maybe you will get a honeymoon baby? ;)
@MsJ2theZ: Good plan! I actually did the same a couple weeks ago and switched to an OB/GYN that my friends recommended to me for my annual! It's so crazy to be asking questions about TTC. It starts to feel really real even if it is still a couple months off. It's also strange to have a doctor tell you to have sex every other day.
And Paris??? I'm dying to go there! That is my number one dream trip right now. I'm so jealous and completely understand waiting so that you can drink all the wine!
Whoops, I made a roll call and by the time I posted it you ladies had one going! I've been lurking the TTC boards a lot so I'm excited to have a "place" here!
Age: 25, my hubby is 28
When are you starting to TTC?: I will be done with my last pack of BC around the end of March! I think we will NTNT for a cycle or two before charting etc.
What are you doing now to get ready to TTC?: I'm taking vitamins (starting prenatals next week), trying to cut down on caffeine, eating better/excersizing more, and doing tons of research! A big thing for me was finding a better insurance plan and I'm glad that's out of the way now.
What are you looking forward to most about TTC?: the excitement of the entire process! I've also seen how much heartbreak comes along with it and that worries me sometimes even though we are both healthy. I'm really looking forward to being PG and the milestones that come along with it!
For fun, what's your favorite dessert?: Since I love sweets there are so many options but my great grandmas homemade caramels are to die for! I also love a good strawberry shortcake!
@AstoriaK: A friend of mine went through the same clinic and saw this provider so she recommended her. She had a midwife the second baby and she said if she had a third she'd go back to the provider I'm going to check out. It IS weird to be so close, especially since even just a few months ago i was still pretty scared of the entire thing.
It seems like such a shame to go to Paris pregnant cause you can't wait another month or two ya know!? Really what we want is to wait and have a late spring/summer baby 2014 so that would still work.
Great Idea! I post a bit on the Charters group because I chart to avoid... Oh and one of the worst parts of this waiting things is that I'm going to be in my fertile window... on our delayed honeymoon.. and we don't even get to try! :( But I know it's for the best to wait it out. I still have a June family trip to Mexico...
Age: 24, DH is 28
When are you starting to TTC?: I want sooner rather than later.. but hopefully by the end of the summer at the latest
What are you doing now to get ready to TTC?: *sing ala lmfao* I work out! I'm also eating healthier and remembering to take my vitamins more often.. We're also saving up money, paying off debt, and hopefully DH will be getting a promotion soon (with a possible move) On top of all of that I'm charting to avoid so hopefully I'll know my cycle pretty well before we get to the actual trying.
What are you looking forward to most about TTC?: not having to worry about when we can and can't have sex :) Then we can just wing it for the first month... and have sex whenever we want! (well without protection)
For fun, what's your favorite dessert?: I love sooo many things.. but lately my two weaknesses have been super chocolate ice cream (ex Ben and Jerry's Chocolate Therapy or Chocolate Fudge Therapy, or Publix's Chocolate Trinity) and twizzlers
Yay! I feel like such an in-betweenie!
Age: 27, DH will be 30 in April
When are you starting to TTC?: DH and I are both in a wedding in September. We're going to start slowly, (just not preventing) and see what happens. We'll have further discussions about how long we'll wait before charting, etc.
What are you doing now to get ready to TTC?: We are finishing paying off some debt and crossing off a few more things off our "pre-baby bucket list" like buying a new couch, festivals, concerts, day drinking, spontaneous date nights, sleeping in, etc. I'm also on a major weight loss and life-style change kick. I'm already down 15 pounds!
What are you looking forward to most about TTC?: I really just can't wait to see him be excited about it. I asked him the other day "What kind of father do you think you'll be?" and he just immediately said "A great one." He really will be! I'm also so curious to see if we can make babies easily!
For fun, what's your favorite dessert?: Anything Red Velvet!!!
@AstoriaK: Agreed. I read your initial post half-ass and responded thinking your were actively TTC
Age: 30, DH is 26
When are you starting to TTC?: We are eloping this summer, but no date is set just yet, depends when he accumulated enough vacation days- end of May-ish. We talked yesterday about end of July since our lease in our apt is over and we want to move into a house before I get KU. If it was up to me it would have happened yesterday!
What are you doing now to get ready to TTC?: I'm have been losing some weight, since I am already overweight by 25#s, eating well, no booze, my last sushi hurrah will be this Saturday (my b-day dinner,) I quit caffiene, besides tea and an occasional hot cocoa at work, I have been charting at FF for a week, have pre-natals in the mail arriving on Monday from Amazon. My BC implant will be removed on 2/14, also paying down old CC debt, managing student loans through IBR, taking the dog to obedience school, moving into a house in July/Aug and probably buying a car once I get knocked up.
What are you looking forward to most about TTC?: I am so freakin' excited to get pregnant, when I find out someone is going to have to tranquilize me! I am also nervous about the body changes; morning sickness and such. We are big "planners" so I am sure the nursery will be complete and ready to go months early!
For fun, what's your favorite dessert?: I just had some b-day Chocolate chip Blondie brownies from TJs. I love Turkey Hill mint chip ice cream, brownies and in general all sweets!
@MsJ2theZ: We are shooting for a late spring/summer baby too! I know to some people it seems silly to try to time it but my job is based on the academic year and it is really difficult to take time off in certain months. Late spring/summer is my shot at getting a stress-free maternity leave!
@AstoriaK: I would love a honeymoon baby! I agree that talking to an OB/GYN makes it seem so real. I always get butterflies in my stomach and a big smile on my face!
Here are my answers:
Age: 24, FI is 29
When are you starting to TTC?: We will say good-bye to condoms in July!
What are you doing now to get ready to TTC?: I went off of BC last month. I had an appointment with my OB/GYN and he recommended I start taking Prenatal vitamins 3 months ahead of time. I am going to go in for another appointment as we get closer for a general check up!
What are you looking forward to most about TTC?: I am excited for all of it as well as nervous at the same time. I know it could be a roller coaster of emotions.
For fun, what's your favorite dessert?: I am going to have to go with Mint Chocolate Chunk ice cream. It has to be chocolate chunk, not chocolate chip. I am very picky hehe.
What do you think you guys are most worried about? Both with TTC and once you find out your pregnant?
@Mars62312: I am nervous it might not happen at all. That my minor medical issue will "flair up" and I won't make it w/i the window of opportunity I am also nervous that I wil be a horrible parent- but that is normal. Oh and also that I will be on bed-rest and have to quit my job/be broke.
@Mars62312: I'm worried that an unforeseen issue will make it take a long time to get KU. I know they say up to a year for a healthy couple but that seems like such a long time once you're actually ready! I'm also obviously worried about a miscarriage. And about being sick during my pregnancy. My mom was really sick and I would be screwed if I end up the same way. I'm a hair stylist so it would make my already physical job really difficult. And if I can't work, I don't make any money! Scary!
@Woodstock: What a bummer about the honeymoon and not being able to try in an exotic place. How cool would it be to say "we made a baby on our honeymoon"? We missed the window for that, too! Dang, that LMFAO song is going to be stuck in my head now. How do you find charting? I'm thinking of starting once I'm off BC but I'm a horribly restless sleeper and I think all the thrashing might mess up my temps. BTW, I'm a Ben & Jerry's fiend but I only let myself buy the mini-packages or I will go crazy and eat a pint in a sitting.
@Mars62312: Go you! Down 15 lbs! And I agree about seeing your DH excited about kids! I love seeing my DH's face light up when we talk about it! He's been ready for kids for a while and I've been holding back because I was a little freaked out. Now that all of our friends are having kids, I got much more used to the idea! And mmmmm, Red Velvet. We had Red Velvet cupcakes at our wedding. Soooo delicious.
Oh man...I'm craving Red Velvet now. Do you all recommend beginning to chart now even though we're not trying and I'm still on BC? The whole thing is so confusing!
I think we're all nervous about the same things. For me, I'm worried about having difficulty. My mother used to always joke "All your Daddy had to do was look at me crosseyed and I was pregnant!" and my brother and SIL got pregnant very easily. Maybe I'll be the one who has trouble?
Also, I'm afraid of being pregnant affecting my work. I'm a teacher and just can't imagine having morning sickness and exhaustion while trying to do my job well.
@Mars62312: I started charting this month just because I never paid attention and figured it couldn't hurt to get into the swing of it. I have been on/off BC of some kind for 13 years and have no idea when my O cycle. I am ordering the TCOYF soon for prep.
I think this is an awesome idea! I have been lurking for a bit because I have just gone of BC, and I have started charting to learn about my cycles before we have started trying since I have been on the pill since 17!
Age: 31, DH is 35
When are you starting to TTC?: We are planning on starting this summer. The ideal month for us to get KU would be July, but we will probably start in May... the exact month is up in the air.
What are you doing now to get ready to TTC?: I am tyring to get in shape again. I was in great shape a year ago, but kind of let it go after the wedding... oops! I also got a prescription for prenatals that I am taking. I will have my annual appointment in March, so that will count as my pre-ttc appointment as well. Also, while letting my body recuperate from the years of BC, I am practing charting so I can learn about my cycles, and I am also using it to prevent pregnancy.
What are you looking forward to most about TTC?: I am excited about embarking on the whole process with my DH. I know that there are going to be a lot of ups and downs, but I can't wait for it. I am also excited to start a family with my husband, and to be a family, not that we are not already.
For fun, what's your favorite dessert?: This is a hard question because I like all dessert! I just made some Guinness brownies with butterscotch and pretzel topping that was very rich, but pretty good.
@Mars62312: from what I understand you usually don't ovulate on BC so charting wouldn't really work! I've seen some ladies go off BC several months in advance of TTC and just use condoms in the meantime to prevent, and chart their cycles so they have a good idea of everything before they start actually trying. You can also chart to avoid pregnancy.
My fear is definitely that we will have trouble because I'm over 30. But other than age I have no reason to think we will. I casually chart my pd on an app right now because I have an iud so I like to know where I am in my cycle/when AF is coming. And I usually haVe CM editing what it says is my fertile window so I HOPE I'm also ovulating. I'm also very regular. after we conceive, I will worry about Having a MC as well as birth defects, again because of age. I shouldn't worry so much!!
ETA: according to my little charter app I should have O'd yesterday! Lol
@Mars62312: I agree with pp. Charting while on HBC/BCP is pointless you won't be able to determine anything with your temps and you aren't ovulating while on the pill/shot. At that point all it would be doing would be getting you in the habit of temping at the same time in the morning. Also once you come off the pill you'll only be able to chart based of your temps at first because the BCP messes with your CM and you won't be able to reliable chart that. You can record it, but it probably won't tell you anything. I'm almost on my 4th cycle off (with fairly normal cycles since coming off) and my CM is STILL not reliable and I think my o date may still be delayed... or I'm just one of those late ovulators.
I'd also suggest to anyone if they feel comfortable to come of hbc asap that way your body has a chance to adjust and get all of those hormones out. Making it easier for when you actully start actively trying. Until then you can use FAM/NFP methods and barrier methods to avoid OR just go with the flow and not put too much pressure on those first 2-4 cycles coming off.
*edit- i guess if you're using an iud then you should be fine temping since you are actually ovulating. I'd be wary of using CM data though.
ooohhhh! This is fun! Before DH and I got married I always said I wanted to wait a year or 2 before TTC, now that we're married....I don't want to wait anymore! DH does, so we've agreed to wait about a year from when we got married.
He totally knows that I have baby fever (on good days, it's just a cold). Sunday was hard though!! He dragged me to a superbowl party (I hate football) where I only knew DH and 1 other person. I'm very much an introvert, so I sat with DH all night, but we were near the group of girls who all knew eachother. 2 of them where pregnant, 1 of them had a 4 month old girl and the others where engaged and talking about how they are going to TTC right after they get married. It totally sucked!
Anyway....
Age: 26, DH is 26 too
When are you starting to TTC?: fall 2013 at the earliest
What are you doing now to get ready to TTC?: Doing a lot of reading. I have PCOS and my Dr had me start charting a long time ago. I do NFP, so I only go by cervical mucas.
What are you looking forward to most about TTC?: The closeness that DH and I will have since it's very much a "2 man job."
For fun, what's your favorite dessert?: Anything chocolate that doesn't have nuts in it!! I have a huge sweet tooth.
Age: 29, DH is 31
When are you starting to TTC?: We currently both commute over an hour to work each day so we have been applying for jobs like crazy. Something needs to change before we start trying. My goal is to start trying towards the end of the year sometime if all works out well.
What are you doing now to get ready to TTC?:
I am already pretty active but I'm staying on BC until at least May. We are going to Europe and I want to play! But after I'm thinking about getting off BC so I can start charting. I've been on BC so long I'm worried about regulating.
What are you looking forward to most about TTC?:
Telling DH he is going to be a dad. That for sure will be the best day ever.
For fun, what's your favorite dessert?:
I love all things sweet. But favorite? I would have to say chocolate. In anything.
This is a great board, I've been lurking the TTC boards but haven't really posted anything. Ok here goes.
Age: 31, DH is 31 tomorrow
When are you starting to TTC?: I finish my last pack of pills Saturday and we're starting right away (I still can't believe it).
What are you doing now to get ready to TTC?: I've been taking prenatal vitamins for a couple months now and have been doing tons of research and financial planning. I'm also starting charting.
What are you looking forward to most about TTC?: The excitement of the whole process. Getting to start a family after 10 years together. And getting to tell everyone and how excited they will be. Especially my mother in law who's been asking for a grandkid since before we were married.
For fun, what's your favorite dessert?: Tiramisu, yum!
And is it weird that one of the things I'm most scared about getting pregnant is where I'm going to throw up at work if I have bad morning sickness? :) The bathroom is just so far away from my office. Random but it was just something I thought about.
@Mars62312: I'm nervous that it will take a while to get that BFP. I have had an autoimmune disorder that can affect fertility and while it's in remission, I still have this fear that it will come back and ruin my plans.
As for after PG, I'm scared of loss! One of my best friends had a loss at 14 weeks and it was devastating to watch her go through that. I'm not sure if I could handle it as well or be as strong as she has been.
@laaiinn: Aww thanks for thinking to do a roll call. I was going to start off with one but then I got really nervous that no one was going to join in so I wanted to wait for a response or two first. Save those questions you thought of and maybe we can use them for a future thread? And I hear you on seeing some of the heartbreak. My friend went through a loss and has been trying for a while a now. I want so badly for everything to work out for her soon.
Hey everyone! :)
Age: I'm 25, Mr. D is 36.
When are you starting to TTC?: In theory, May is supposed to be our 'practice month' aka not trying to prevent, and in June we'll actually start trying. That might shift though, due to the next aspect...
What are you doing now to get ready to TTC?: Hemophilia runs in my family and after doing some research I've decided I want to be tested for carrier status before getting pregnant, if I can. Unfortunately it's hard to get the right information and I have to get an appointment for a referral and I have no idea how long it'll take or if it'll even be successful. So now I'm anxious about ways hemophilia can cause problems with TTC, and I'm anxious that our timeline will be pushed back. Have to admit its been kind of stressful trying to work things out!
What are you looking forward to most about TTC?: I'm looking forward to a bit more certainty -- I know that there is NEVER certainty, but just knowing that we will actually be TTC, when we start, will be a relief!
For fun, what's your favorite dessert?: I've been on a sorbet kick lately!
Hi!
Age: I'm 22, and DH is 27.
When are you starting to TTC?: Right now we are NTNP with no real timeline for actively TTC. We would both be overjoyed to have a baby but also want to enjoy married life before so it's conflicting. I have major baby fever! lol
What are you doing now to get ready to TTC?: I'm taking prenatals, eating healthy, and staying active. I have also been charting for about 6 months to get to know my cycle.
What are you looking forward to most about TTC?: I'm looking forward to just being a mom. I've always loved babies and kids, so I cannot wait to have one of our own :)
For fun, what's your favorite dessert?: Anything chocolate and key lime pie!
This is such a great idea! May I play too, even though I'm probably not TTC til next year?
Age: I'm 25, DH is 27
When are you starting to TTC?: This is very dependent on what happens next month. I am about to graduate from pharmacy school (the main reason we haven't started trying yet), and will find out March 22 if I match for the residency I want to do (in pediatrics, yay!). If I don't get the residency, we'll probably start TTC by Christmas. If I do get the residency, we'll likely wait til I'm almost finished (another 1.5-2 years...).
What are you doing now to get ready to TTC?: I've started taking a multivitamin and folic acid (just in case!). We are getting our finances in order and fixing up our townhouse. I have been doing LOTS of research on everything baby/pregnancy. I work with 2-3 year olds at church, and used to work in the infant nursery...be still my heart (and ovaries)!!
What are you looking forward to most about TTC?: so much!! I'm so excited about finally getting to be a mommy (the word makes my heart melt), sharing this new bond with my husband (he's gonna be the best daddy!), seeing my parents with my little one...gonna tear up. must stop.
For fun, what's your favorite dessert?: hmm...anything fruity! apple pie, peach cobbler, blackberry crumble, etc. can you tell I'm from the South? ;)
Oooo, fun I'll play! Good idea! I've been a Nesting Board lurker since our wedding and love to follow other bee's journeys! We're waiting for another couple of years:
Age: 25, DH is 25 too.
When are you starting to TTC?: In my ideal world, we'll TTC starting at the end of 2014, December of 2014 to be exact. (I have my heart set on trying for a fall baby).
What are you doing now to get ready to TTC?: Getting into a workout reutine to make sure my body is strong and healthy. Getting my medical issues in check. DH is working out too to better his health and body as well! We're also getting settled in our home and doing some painting, purchasing new furniture, and making it comfy and ready for a family. Oh, and spending time with each other as just us 2 while we can.
What are you looking forward to most about TTC?: Ditching the BC pills and going all natural with the intent to start a little life. :)
For fun, what's your favorite dessert?: I love chocolate and ice cream!
Great idea! It will be a while until we TTC, but I really like the idea, so I will share...
Age: I will turn 28 in a few days, DH is 31
When are you starting to TTC?: Next year spring/summer 2014. Seems like a long time.
What are you doing now to get ready to TTC?: I am chartting, reading, excercising. I stopped the BC pill a few months ago.
What are you looking forward to most about TTC?: Getting a BNP and starting a new chapter in our lives for me and hubby.
For fun, what's your favorite dessert?: Ice cream, also I love chocolate, so almost anything with it.
I'm so glad to see this thread! I'm in the same boat with lurking but not really feeling like I should post more than congrats!
Age: 26, DH is 25
When are you starting to TTC?: We are planning on starting in November (on the 9th to be exact). We are running the rock and roll marathon on the 9th and DH and I want to accomplish one huge thing together before we move on to the next stage of our marriage! I know it is really silly to set such an exact date, but DH is set on it! Seeing so many of you so close to ttc is making it feel like it is ages away!!!
What are you doing now to get ready to TTC?: I am keeping up my workouts (normally running 4-5 days a week with strength training 4 times a week) and making sure I'm taking in plenty of folic acid, iron, and b vitamins. I've also begun looking around at my delivery options and there is only one practice that even touches completely natural birth and they only have TWO midwives. UGH.
What are you looking forward to most about TTC?: I just can't wait to make our little family grow. I've always wanted to be a mom and my DH is going to make an amazing father!
For fun, what's your favorite dessert?: I love me some Lemon Meringue Pie!
@AstoriaK: I didn't see your question earlier. but I'd like to say that I LOVE charting. I LOVE knowing what's going on with my body and its reassuring that hopefully when we do start TTC, then it won't be too difficult b/c I am ovulating and have a normal LP length.
here's my two charts for anyone intersted. I use both FF and TCOYF they both have different features I like. I think TCOYF is more visual for me and better for those TTA (since FF was made for those trying to get pregnant)
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/Woodstock
http://www.tcoyf.com/members/cricket88/charts/4.aspx
I am excited for all of it as well as nervous at the same time. I know it could be a roller coaster of emotions
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