Post # 1
firstly i hate waiting i am super impatient.
Mr and i are planning our wedding for November next year and both want kids ASAP, we have talked about it sooo many times and have agreed that waiting until the honeymoon is best, as it would add so much more stress either having a newborn or being pregnant at our wedding, also then we would not be able to go on our honeymoon which we are really excited about. Deep down i know this is the smartest choice (that we are willing to accept) but i cant help but torture myself by looking at baby item ect, I just cant wait <3
im actually more excited about being able to start TTC then our wedding or anything else happening. Yep im one of those girls 🙁 depressing right
Vent over thanks for reading 🙂
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia
@Steph18: It’s a hard decision to make – and waiting is SUPER hard. Wedding planning can be fun too, at least you’ll have something to keep you busy until you’re both ready. 🙂
Post # 4
@Mrs. Jaguar: Thanks 🙂 luckly Mr wants a bub as much as Iwhich is reassuring 🙂 just trying to stay focused on saving
Post # 5
Fiance and I are both having baby fever right now but we’re waiting until I move down to where he is or the honeymoon
Post # 6
Ooh it’s so tricky isn’t it! These decisions are hard I think because we just can’t predict what our body will do and how long TTC will take. I felt like you but we did wait til after the wedding and in way I’m glad now as I think I would have got a little overwhelmed with TTC on top of wedding planning.
Post # 7
I can SO totally relate to how you feel. I had insane baby fever even before we got engaged.
Once we did get engaged, we both decided that we would start TTC about 3 months before our wedding.
For birthcontrol, I had just been charting and we were avoiding DTD on my fertile days. That had been going great with no surprises.
Then in December of 2010, our friends had their first baby…and Darling Husband and I both got baby crazy. We didn’t plan on getting pregnant, but on my Jan 2011 cycle, it happened! lol (It was a combination of getting a little careless, and my body throwing me a curveball and ovulating 5 days earlier than I normally would!)
I ended up with a due date about a month after our wedding date. So at that point we made the decision to move the wedding ahead about a year. I would have gotten married with a big pregnant belly, but I had just bought my wedding dress and wanted to wear it! lol (it ended up being a better decision anyways, as I was very sick at the end of my pregnancy and in and out of hospital a lot!)
Just a few weeks ago we finally tied the knot with our 8 month old daughter as part of the audience 🙂
I wouldn’t change a thing about how our life has come together! I will say though, that planning a wedding is much harder with an infant. The only thing I was stressed out about on my wedding day was my daughter and how she was doing without me, and also how much my breasts hurt because I was engorged from not breastfeeding all day….lol Having kids really changes what you “worry” about.
I was also a little sad when people would ask us about whether or not we’d be going on a honeymoon. We’re still not ready to leave our Dirty Delete for more than a few hours!
So there’s a bit of insight from somone who was in the same situation as you and ended up with a baby before the wedding 😉 I don’t have any advice as to whether you should wait or not (only you can answer that) but I thought I’d share how things went for us!
Post # 8
@Steph18: I was the same EXACT way….more excited for TTC than the wedding. Though the wedding was pretty fun =) We ended up moving our wedding up from a 13 month engagement to a 6 month engagement for other reasons and it worked out really well for that =)
Post # 9
@urchin: thanks for your insight! And everyone its good to see im not the only one! both my bridesmaids have beautiful 18month old girls which make me sooo much more clucky lol
I understand what everyone is saying and im so glad im not alone in this feeling
Post # 10
- Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia
@Steph18: If it makes you feel any better, we got impatient and started TTC BEFORE our wedding. Ssssh. 😉
Post # 11
I feel your pain… We are waitin a year to TTC. Although that has come down from about 2 years so yay! We have a big move in less than a year so once that is out of the way and we are settled its time…. Butwaiting is torture… I am completely baby crazy. I look at furniture, read baby forums, watch birthing videos.. I feel like a freak but I have been assured I’m not alone… Goodluck with the waiting. 😉