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Waiting to TTC just completely sucks in my book! Hang in there. How long do you have to wait? I'm trying to keep my mind off it by checking off my list of things we want to do before we have a kiddo.
I am SO with you. I am on the Nuvaring and have three of them left in my fridge. I think after this we will switch to non-hormonal even though we'd stlll be waiting to TTC. I would stop now and go that route except I feel wasteful not using those last three. I think I'm just ready to get in tune with my body and see what's actually going on with it rather than being on this fakey hormone mess (which I've been on for 12 whole years now - half my life!)
I'm so sorry you gals are going through this too, though selfishly I'm glad I'm not alone!
@smores: we don't really have a timeline, so I don't know exactly how long. we've talked about starting this summer, but it's an arbitrary date--we have all our major goals set, so there's nothing tangible holding us back. it's really just that dh isn't emotionally ready. having a date in mind makes things worse for us--I start getting impatient and he starts feeling pressured. no good at all! But I do want to get in better shape and lose a bit of weight before getting pregnant, that's really the only productive, baby-related thing I can do while waiting
@mere23: that's so funny, I just ordered a 3 month supply of pills, and I'm also hoping these 3 months will be the last for hormonal bc, even if we switch to condoms or something after (though dh was not happy with that idea when I've floated it before!)
Same here! I take a seasonale-type pill, and it has three months' worth in each pack. I want to stop taking it three months before our official "let's start trying" date. DH wants me to take it right up until the date. I tried explaining to him that after you stop BC, you're supposed to wait 3 months before TTC. I think he's trying to just squeeze in an extra three months of time before we really start TTC. Sneaky husband!
I completely agree. We have 9 months to wait due to financial reasons with my work. :/
@BRbee: ugh, that stinks :( I don't know which would feel worse, having a partner who wasn't ready yet, or both people being emotionally ready but having an external obstacle like finances to get through first. either way, it sucks!
I'm in the same situation too. I'm totally ready, but hubby wasnt and wanted to wait "at least 2 or 3 years" after getting married! He's a little younger than me, and luckily he's come around to only a year after we get married. But now the only reason we're waiting is cause of a vacaction we have booked in the spring to hike the inca trail. I definitely dont want to do that pregnant so that's all we're waiting for. We were originally going to wait until after another vacation the fall to Italy cause I want to enjoy food and WINNNNE.. but I'm willing to give that up and take that trip pregnant just to start TTC a few months earlier.
@pinkshoes: oh my gosh, the Inca trail will be amazing!! We went to Macchu Picchu a few years ago on a family vacation, and it was so, so incredible. we were with a group including some older folks so we didn't do any hard core hiking, but it will be so, so fantastic, you'll prob be able to see so much more than I did! And yeah, that seems like a really good reason to wait! At least it's something fun to look forward to that's standing in your way :) And Italy will be awesome too, with or without wine!
I know this feeling! I'm off hormonal BC but we still plan on waiting almost another year... I'm a grad student, so I understand why we have to wait but that doesn't mean it isn't driving me crazy!
@mere23: This is me to a T-- I have 1 more 90 day supply waiting in my closet and b/c it's a brand name, it cost $100 with insurance, so it seems really wasteful not to take it! We do have a rough timeline (early fall) so I'm definitely stopping after this supply. I was kind of hoping it wouldn't come in the mail in time and then, whoops, I'd have to just stop it now :) We'll still be using other back up until we are ready, of course, but I also just want to get more in tune with my body first.
I love how our bc guilts us into using them a few more months. :) I figure I'll finish this pack, and then one more 3 month pack. That will give me almost 6 months off of hormonal bc to get my body all tuned up and ready for the baby making!
I am totally on board with this. I just started my last pack of pills so I should finish them in mid February. Just in time for my birthday which I told hubby would be a great bday present to start ttc. He's receptive sometimes when we talk about it but usually i get a negative response like last night when he caught me looking at pre-natal vitamins in Target which he laughed at and said "No". I have been taking regular vitamins anyway so psht on him but I'm so ready to be off the pills and am starting to resent taking them. We both have great jobs, a house and decent finances and I'm not getting any younger (ill be 27 next month). I'm thinking that once im done the pills we will just go with it and he won't think about it too much and BOOM - pregnant. lol.
@AlmostMrs.APP: You know the doc recommends taking prenatals up to two years before you TTC ;) - so get him on board! I think my DH will be the same way though - he is excited but when it comes down to saying "we're going to do it starting at X month" he gets anxious. I think he'd rather it be a surprise. Me, I'm a planner. So maybe I'll plan to surprise him! Ha, kidding, I would never, but I'm just ready for things to get moving.
@mere23: trust me I know...i try to explain things to him but I think he just gets freaked out or something idk what it is. it's been especially weird bc i feel like babies are everywhere anymore and hes been pointing them out and making comments but in a good way like hes interested. and to top it off his sister is trying to get pregnant and I know this is gonna sound selfish but I want to be on that train too!! i've got baby fever!! lol.
so update! dh just got home from a long-weekend trip, and in talking about our respective weekends I ended up telling him about how sad I was when I reordered my bc, and he agreed that I should go off the pill after these 3 packs of pills run out! yay! we'll switch to condoms after, so it's not like we have a real timeline set, but it feels so much better to have an end date in mind for the hormonal bc! and I just took my first prenatal vitamin, so that'll help me feel like my body's getting more ready too :)
I totally feel you on this..... I went off BC (after being on 10+ years) in September because I had to travel home unexpectedly and stayed for 3 weeks. My Rx ran out and I made no effort to get it refilled while I was there! I've been off since. DH is not happy about using condoms, but he doesn't want to try or NTNT now :( For awhile he kept asking me when I was going back on the pill, but honestly I just want my body to get back to 'normal.' I want to see that everything is ok, and just be natural until we're ready to TTC. The problem is, he is taking forever to be ready, and we may be using condom for quite awhile. This is an unresolved issue for us at the moment, if you can't tell!
@MCC919: aww that stinks that he isn't happy with condoms! when I brought up that idea at first, dh made a face, but yesterday he got on board when he realized how much it was bothering me to take the pill. he even mentioned me going off it sooner than the 3 packs I just bought, but I feel like if he isn't ready yet anyway I might as well use them until they run out.
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Can I just say...taking birth control when you're ready to start trying to have a baby but can't actually start yet, for whatever reason, just totally, totally sucks! Anyone else feel the same way??
Normally I'm fine with the fact that dh and I aren't starting ttc yet, but I just reordered my rx and burst out crying....this just sucks so much! it probably doesn't help that dh is out of town for the weekend so I'm feeling extra moody and emotional anyway, but still. Lame!!!