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Nope. We aren't living together. We live about 45 minutes apart and I won't move to the house until we're married. It's not necessarily for reasons like cleanliness but for our own personal, religious reasons. To each their own.
Nope!! We are waiting too...I already bought a house and my parents are super conservative...although we stay together every night we are not living together until we are married...not really my choice but a respect the parents thing...but we are slowly putting our new house together for when we can live together!
My FI and I won't be living together until after marriage. It's hard but it was the right decision for us.
I don't live with my Finace. Even our Catholic priest was shocked when we said that (maybe because we're in our 30s?).
We currently do not plan on living together but we may have an over 2 year engagement so idk.......
We don't live together either. I think it adds way more excitement to the wedding and a true feeling of "being married"
We also don't live together, and don't plan to until we are married. We both have personal and religious reasons for this, but I also think that it will make the transition more exciting for me!
We don't live together, not religious, just personal reasons on both of our parts. He's lived with someone and I prefer not to, at least until I am engaged. I can work with that. LOL
Some people say you don't know a person until you live with them, but I don't think there is anything SO alarming that living with them after marriage will make you leave...unless it's something they will go to jail for, I would think.
But then, when my guy stays over, I want to kill him for putting wet towels in the hamper, so he's lucky I still want to marry him.LOL
We have never lived together either - and we are both in our 30's. We will be moving in together in about 2 weeks though, which is about 4 months before the wedding - but this is because I'm moving to California from Connecticut...
very excited for the long distance part of our relationship to be over. We've been LD for about 4 months...
We are waiting.. I am living in the house be bought until the wedding and then he will move in. It is so lonely, but he is over a lot. Makes me get really excited for when he does get to move in :)
I wouldn't move in with FI until we were engaged. I think that living together just takes a lot of patience and compromise. We really have had a super easy time of it compared to a lot of stories I've heard... but that doesn't mean we haven't had to work at it a little. :)
We are waiting for marriage as well!
I can't wait to live with him though! (even though, like you I know I will go crazy with his less than perfect cleaning habits!)
I have nothing but respect and admiration for those of you who are waiting, but as someone who has been living with her FI for three years (and it will be four and a half by the time we're married) I can say that the relationship changes a lot once you live together. It's really tough at first, and there can be lots of little fights and spats and conflict. Just know that that's totally normal, and it's not a sign that your marriage is failing or anything like that.. After awhile you finally fall into a groove and get used to all the little quirks and all is good again :)
Hi Mandiehoward,please don't do it!! He will respect you so much more for not moving in with him in the long run! Don't be like me.....I moved in very soon after meeting my man and now here I am 2.5yrs. later,ring locked up in a safe for 2yrs. and STILL no committment/proposal. How much ya wanna make a bet if I said "sorry,can't move in until there's a committment" that Mr. Man would have been down on one knee? If he feels that there's nothing he couldn't handle with you,then he'll be happy to wait until you're married to live together. You will feel empowered and proud of yourself. Hang in there,don't let him talk you into it :D
We didn't move in together until after we were married. It's been hard but I'm glad we did it. We are in our 30's.
we waited for a long long time (like 8yrs) before moving together a couple months ago. it was important for us to wait, but ended up being a couple months early just for financial reasons. if you've talk to your FI about it, then whatever you both decide is perfectly fine regardless of what other couples do/say.
We waited till we were engaged (had both agreed on that long before even talking about getting married). My poor Catholic mother is still upset that I'm not "doing things in the right order", but I now I wouldn't have been able to wait another year. Having 2 dogs at my place kept me from being able to stay with FI very often, being subway-reliant kept me from packing up the dogs and bringing them to FIs' very often, and having 2 roommates at my place kept FI from staying at my place very often. We spent 2 yrs practially in a LDR only living 6 mi apart. We got engaged and June and were originally goin to move in together when his lease was up in Dec...but 2 months after the proposal we'd finally had enough, and ym dogs and I moved in.
I'm the same way! We're waiting until after the wedding to move in together and I'm nervous about the cleanliness factor too. He's decently neat and clean, but I'm a little extreme. Compromise anyone?
Wow, i didn't realize there were so many other brides who didn't live with their partner! I am also waiting until after our wedding to move into our new house. I think it'll be nice to stay in our home together for the first time on our wedding night!
You aren't alone! My fiance and I are also choosing not to live together until we are married. We're excited that everything that comes along with marriage will all be happening at once, and we can't wait to move in together as husband and wife.
Fi and I don't live together either, we're waiting till we're married. There's something about having all that excitement of living together for the first time that we just can't wait for. We live about 45 mins away from each other now.
My husband and I waited to live together. About 6 months before the wedding, we found a place we wanted to rent and I moved in there. He visited often but only stayed over about 3-4 times. After the wedding, it was challenging learning all the little details about living together, but I'd had roommates for about 5 years, so that helped me a lot.
@sunshine8, I moved in with FI pretty much right after we met too. Now here we are 7 years later - I have a rock on my hand, a wedding date in 10 weeks, we've traveled the world together and loved every minute. So I think it's hard to generalize. Don't scare the OP with horror stories! She should make this choice because she feels it's right for them and for their relationship - not to somehow bully her man into proposing so he can get her in his house.
My FI and I don't live together either, but we are planning to get our own place (renting) about a month before the wedding and we'll move in together then. The decision to make the big move before the wedding is mostly for convenience as that is when my current lease is up and it didn't make sense to pay an huge increase in rent for one additional month (plus, i want to be settled in before the wedding so we don't have a crazy stressful post-wedding/honeymoon move).
You're not the only one. My fiance and I have been together 4yrs and we don't live together. We have discussed it many times as I've found it hard to continue to live with my parents (not as bad as it sounds this is very common for my area to live with ones parents until marriage). It makes me nervous to think, what little habits do I have that would annoy him. We've tried to lay everything out on the table. Like all of our pet peeves. For instance: He hates it when the toothpaste isn't squeezed from the bottom. I hate it when the ketchup is cold, so it can never go in the fridge. Those things seems so tiny, but it's important that all of our little habits are out there for the other.
I have to agree with sunshine8 , I've known people who are in your same situation.
I stay at his house every night..but technically it's not ours, plus his uncle lives there...we are moving into our own apartment when we get married.
We dont live together and we aren't doing anything--you get it--until we are married. We go to a Christian university, it's the way he was raised and I think it's good too. But if he wasn't so strong, I would have given in already. ;)
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Is there anyone that is not living with their FI and are waiting until you are married to do so? Howard and I are not living together and I just feel that we should wait until we are married to do so. He's always saying that he can't wait until we are in the same house. I am so scared for this to happen because I am a neat freak and I might drive him carzy with this! He claims that he can handle anything I throw at him. lol! Am I the only one waiting untl married to live together?