Waiting until marriage for sex…then you divorce and don't care?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@MsGinkgo:  I’m guessing here, but I think it’s because they probably get married, realize too late that sexual combatibility is a huge part of a successful, long-term relationship (in most cases), and then after they’re divorced, don’t want to make the same mistake of waiting again.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@MsGinkgo:  I find it all amusing, the no sex before marriage and this ‘waiting’ business. Why are you actively waiting? Just enjoy your life and your relationship. My FI would be so upset if he learned that I was waiting on baited breath for a proposal the entire 6 years we were dating.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@TattedNYBride:  Yup. Good sex takes time and effort to learn. You will screw up many times, you will be embarassed many times. It is not all Mills and Boone. I think many people who wait build it up to be this amazing orgasmic adventure when in real life (in the beginning especially) its just sticky and awkward with a bit of pain thrown in for good measure. 

Anyone who says it was amazing straight off the bat is a big fat liar (or boring in the sack)

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@MsGinkgo:  It makes me think of Betty White, who did an interview about how she first got married in the 50s JUST so they could have sex, had sex like wild animals for 6 months, and got divorced!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@MsGinkgo:  reminds me of Jessica Simpson who was very public and firm about her decision to save her virginity until marriage, due to her religious upbringings. After marrying and divorcing Nick Lachey, she is now the mother of 2 with her fiancé…so clearly that went out the window.

To each their own! Smile

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

double post…sorry!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@KC-2722:  I think in some cases (this is related to “waiting” as it applies to a proposal), people (including myself) are “waiting” because BF said it would be coming soon.  I don’t think it’s that strange to be “waiting” if you consider it in terms of “It will happen and now we wait.”

Sort of like if you’re told you’re going to do something next week, but you’re not told what you’ll be doing.  You wait to find out what you’re doing.

With a proposal, you wait to find out when you’re doing it (and you find out when it happens!)

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@RenoSweeney24:  I think they’re talking about ‘waiting’ to have sex after marriage.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Most of my college friends waited/will wait for religious reasons. To each their own, but I’m glad my awkward first time is over with!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@MsGinkgo:  I also think its funny that alot of people who are waiting to have sex until marriage will partake in using the back door.  Okay – its not vaginal sex but its still sex.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@MrsBaldEagle:  that’s totally cheating! Most of the people I know only kissed before marriage.

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