Waiting until your 30s to get pregnant…anyone else nervous?

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

I turned 30 last year & I’m getting married soon…we are going to TTC straight away. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@cbgg:  My best friend is currently pregnant with her first, she’s 34. It took her a normal amount of time to get pregant.

My aunt had her children at 39 and 41, both were normal healthy pregnancies.

I’m 33 and am planning to TTC this year.

Everyone is different and yes there are more risks over 35 but women of all ages can have fertility issues and difficult pregnancies.

I’d say in my aquaintence it is actually more rare to find people having children under 30.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m 32 and having my first baby. Seriously, there’s nothing wrong with having kids after 30. 

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

I plan on being at least 30 before TTC. Now is just not a good time to get pregnant… and I am just not ready either. I’m 28.

I’m not worried. My mom had me at 36 and my sister at 40. I wouldn’t want to be over 35, but 30-34 doesn’t concern me.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I’m turning 30 in a couple of weeks. I don’t really feel ready for kids yet, but feel like I’ll regret it if we don’t try soon and have fertility issues. 

I’m trying to reassure myself that I should be fine for a couple of years and that I don’t even know that I really want kids, but FOMO is a b1tch.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

If it makes you feel any better, the average age for a first birth in the UK is 30.

I am also 30 and TTC. We have no children yet.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Read this article from The Atlantic, it will ease your nerves!

For what it’s worth I’m 33 and waiting until probably 35. Even though that’s supposed to be the “magic” number (a) read the article, it isn’t really and (b) I don’t care bc we’re only planning to have 1 or 2 anyway and if we are not blessed with our own baby, we’ll adopt. 

In my group of friends the wedding dominoes didn’t really start to fall until we all turned approx 30 and it’s only just now that people close to me are starting to have children. This year I have 5 weddings including my own and 3 babies to welcome into the world including one of my BMs! Exciting times 🙂

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m 39 and almost 12 weeks along with my first. No big deal. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@cbgg:  We are going to start trying when I will be 30 and a half. It would have been a few months sooner but we had to delay our planned trip to SOuth America by a few months and this is something we really want to do before kids. I am nervous though. Not so much about age (although this does concern me a little), more so other infertility issues that could eventuate.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I’ve always thought it was odd that people suggest you wait until your mid-late twenties to get married, but then people worry about having babies in your 30s. It’s seems contradictory that if our bodies are typically in their best health to carry a baby in our 20s, we are being told to wait until we’re older to get married.

Does that make sense to anyone else? I’m not trying to hurt anyones feelings. I dont see anything wrong with having a baby in your 30s!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

I think about it like this: my mom started having kids at 24, but she didn’t have her last kid until she was 33. I know plenty of people who have their last child between 33-36, so what’s the big deal about having your first around those ages? As long as you don’t plan on having a huge family I don’t think it’s a big deal.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

We’re waiting until I’m 34/35 and it freaks me the heck out.  But I know this is best for us so I try not to worry about it.  DH will only be 30/31 at the time and I don’t think he’s ready for more kids right now.  I have a stepson.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I’m hoping to start around 29/30 and keep on having kids until I’m in my late 30s or even early 40s, if nature permits. More and more and more data shows that it’s really not that big of a deal. DH and all of his siblings were born when my MIL was between 30 and 38, and they’re all perfect.

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