Walked after 4.5 years.

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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278 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

@MsBeer:  I’m so sorry to hear that you are going through this.  Stay strong because you are doing the right thing! You need to make yourself available for someone who is ready to commit and wants the same things as you.  I know how hard it is to walk away from someone you love when you still love them but trust me, it gets easier when you start to realize how many new exciting opportunities you have opened yourself up to.  Take some time and pamper yoruself! That always helps me.  Go shopping, get your hair highlighted, nails done, or even get a puppy (I did that once after a break up too lol).

Post # 4
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310 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@MsBeer:  Sorry to hear it came to that point. But you need to do what is best for you. Now is the time to focus on yourself, do things you always wanted to but haven’t had the chance, get together with friends, have you time. It is hard now, but things will get better!

Good luck!

Post # 5
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1110 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@MsBeer:  I’m so sorry you’re going through this, it’s never easy ending something that was meaningful and long term.  I’m not exactly an expert on relationships, but the best advice I can give you is to try and see the good. Because I bet 5 years from now, you’ll look back on this moment and realize there’s actually good in goodbye. It’s better knowing now (then when you’re married) and realizing what you two want are too different to be truly happy together.

5 years ago, I said goodbye to my ex of 3 years for the exact same reasons, and it killed me inside. Then I met FI and I wouldn’t take anything back because it made me realize what I DO want in life. It also made me realize every feeling I had felt for my ex was 100 times stronger with FI. And that’s a wonderful feeling!

Post # 6
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1245 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008 - Toronto, ON

I was engaged when I was 23 and my FI at the time promised me the world but when it came down to set a wedding date he couldn’t commit! I was with him until the age of 26, a year after we agreed on getting married and I am glad I left him because he now has a live in gf who he hasn’t proposed to, so I am glad I didn’t waste my time! This time will be hard but you did the right thing, your ex seems very immature!

 

 

 

Post # 7
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3407 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Here are my thoughts.

You. Are. Awesome. 

Your future is worth this period of heartache, stress and discomfort. You are giving yourself permission to have a better life and a greater love. I have certainly been where you are, and I look back and thank myself every day for taking the harder road for a bit, because it has given me more than I had ever hoped for.

I wish the same for you.

Post # 8
Hostess
7630 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I’m sorry you’re going through this but it sounds like you made the right decision. It will get easier with time. For now spend some time with your family and friends. They can remind you of the wonderful, amazing person you are. Best of luck! 

Post # 9
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3016 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

Oh, I’m nearly in tears (the cats really got me!). You made the right and the hard decision. Kudos to you for realizing you deserve what you want out of life and he isn’t able to give it.

I wish you all the best. I know there’s someone out there for you!

Post # 10
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141 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Sending you big hugs.  I’m sorry you are going through this but truly believe you have made the right decision for yourself.  Good on you for being so strong and deciding to make this big big change.  I can only hope you will have many family and friends who love you around to support you.  All the best you strong amazing lady!

Post # 12
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416 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

It takes a lot of courage to make such a decision. Be proud to have been able to take action and control of your own life and future. Like another bee said, you’ll look back someday and me grateful to have taken that step. You will grow and learn from these hard times.

I was once the one in your situation and I thank myself everyday for getting out of that relatioship. Otherwise would’nt have met SO…

Post # 13
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4900 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

It won’t be 5 yrs before you can look back & realize you did the right thing.  It’s going to hurt for awhile & you will miss him, but it won’t be long before you also feel relief at unloading that boat anchor.

It sounds like you’re doing everything exactly right–keep reaching out for support.

Post # 14
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8018 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

You will be so happy and proud of yourself for doing this when you find your husband! You go girl. There are just too many fish in the sea to settle! Take time to heal and really think through what kind of man you want- write it out even. Then just work on getting yourself happy and healthy and keep your eyes in tunnel vision- considering only men inline with what you need in a husband! You can do it- it’ll all work out just keep putting one foot in front of the other! xx

Post # 15
Member
1582 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@MsBeer: You’re doing the right thing, no matter how hard it feels. He could have taken this as a moment to wake up and realize what he needs to do to keep you, but instead he just walked out with his tail between his legs. You deserve, and will find, much better. 🙂

Post # 16
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11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m glad you found the strength to move on! You are one tough cookie, and you deserve the best!

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