Walking away from a deposit/contract – Anyone done this?

posted 3 years ago in Money
Post # 2
2465 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

Vsmart:  I haven’t done this, but I think it sounds like the right thing in this case. If those are the charges you know about now, imagine what else they may come up with before August!

In the grand scheme of things, $100 isn’t that much to lose. I think it will be worth it to get a different hair/makeup team, because you won’t have those surcharges. (For the record, I have never hear of anyone charging extra to “prep” unruly hair- that’s just part of the job!)

Post # 3
2782 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Vsmart:  Those all sound like ridiculous surcharges– I understand travel time– and I don’t know distances in your case.  Are YOU choosing the Sunday trial, or is that when they could book you?

If you’re choosing it– then I guess that’s “optional” in a way….but if it’s the only time THEY can book you– and they are charging you- that’s horrible.


It just sounds too expensive.  Period.

Post # 4
291 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’ve already walked away from a  couple of them, (not Bc I’m wishy washy, but Bc the vendor changes or becomes ridiculous or something). You’ll be glad once you do it: and in a few cases I’ve been able to get my deposit back. Good luck!

Post # 5
413 posts
Helper bee

I cancelled my hair/makep contract bc I thought about it and I do my makeup well and would rather save the $200+ dollars. My deposit was only $25 though. In the long run, even if you lose the deposit you’ll probably save money.

Post # 6
894 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I canceled the contract for my venue three months out after a number of issues came up and then got confirmed. We lost $800. However, we found a much better, much easier alternative. We still saved money despite the deposit loss so it was totally worth it. 

Post # 7
576 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I’d let them know that you’re upset about being nickel-and-dimed and that you’re considering canceling their services. Maybe they’ll come ’round and give you a deal.

Post # 8
3394 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

In your case, I’d let them know that you’re considering cancelling because of all the extra charges that were not disclosed up front. If cost is all you’re concerned about and you’re otherwise happy with the vendor – I would do that and see if they can accommodate you.

In my case I walked away from my first photographer – we lost around $1200 in our deposit and his flights, but I really felt that the trust had been broken (there was a series of miscommunications and angry/threatening emails exchanged) and couldn’t be repaired enough for me to feel comfortable on our wedding day. It was unpleasant and easily the most stressful part of wedding planning so far, but I’m really glad I made the call.

Post # 9
497 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Vsmart:  Did you already walk away? I would definitely make sure you read the fine print of other vendors contracts first! I think it sounds like you have ever reason to walk away but just don’t want to end up in the same situation with another vendor!!!

Post # 11
643 posts
Busy bee

Vsmart:  In this case, it sounds like it will save you money to walk away (even counting the loss of the deposit). To answer your question, I have done this before but I was lucky to get my $1,000 deposit back. For a large deposit I’d be hesitant but for less than $100, it’s a no brainer to me. 

Post # 12
1721 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014


Vsmart:  We walked away from a contract and a deposit from the original photographer we hired.  We liked his photos online and seemed to get along when we met up with him.  THEN we had our engagement shoot. It was awkward to shoot with him, he didn’t give us any kind of direction…and when the pictures came in..i wanted to cry.  Out of maybe 40 pictures he gave us….4 of them were…okay.  Not good…not horrible..just eh.  The rest were unflattering and you could tell we weren’t sure what we were doing. The pictures didn’t flow, the composition wasn’t great…just the whole thing was nooooooo bueno.  After listening to my mom talk about how bad they were and talking to FI…i decided that I didn’t want to risk just having “eh” wedding pictures.  It is too important of an event (and we’re spending too much!)to not LOVE our pictures.  We explained the situation to the photographer and although he did offer to re-shoot, i knew from our experience that we needed someone that could position us or give us some kind of direction.  Also someone that showed us pictures that weren’t on the website as well as the ones there (bc of course the website is going to have the best pictures!).  We ended up winning an engagement shoot at a bridal shower..and it was so much fun.  The photographers were amazing…explained what we were going to do, gave us direction and the pictures were absolutely stunning.  So it definitely sucked we were out the deposit (which was 1k btw 🙁 ) but on the otherhand…there is no doubt that we will have amazing pictures to remember our wedding by.

Post # 13
954 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Vsmart:  We walked on our venue and lost 750.00. We knew we would lose the money, but things were just not working out with them in a similar way, hidden costs, they weren’t clear on details and wouldnt answer my questions directly, but always put it off ‘until August’. Well 6 months to the day, we  scouted (and actually my amazing photographer had a heart to heart with me about it) and found an even better venue, at half the price… and I was upfront with the new venue as to why I was willing to lose the deposit and re-book, but they had to be 100% honest with me.

I’ve also worked as an Independent mobile make-up artist, and I provide a contract well before hand, that way both me and bride are protected.

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