Post # 1
Yup….I am going to do it. Not because I’ve been waiting a long time but because I don’t want to marry my bf anymore. I was so excited to be #116 on the list but I don’t like who I am becoming with him. I’ve started snooping on him because I just don’t trust him anymore. I don’t want to live my life miserable always wondering if he is cheating on me even though he tells me he never has. I want someone who is kind, caring, considerate, respectful, trustworthy and hardworking. He is hardworking but that is about it. I am walking away because I know if I had a girlfriend who had a boyfreind like mine I would tell her to leave him the f#ck alone because she can do better and everytime I saw him I would give him the evil eye. I need to step away from this situation so that I can reclaim my sanity and emotional well being.It sucks.
Post # 3
@keebee: So sorry you are going through this, but I think you are being smart and strong. SO many woman get caught up in the ‘idea’ of being married or the fantasy of the wedding, that they forget to ask if they actually like the guy they are with–actually *like* him, 100% the way he is. Because the person he is today is the same person he will be 5, 10, 20, 30 years from now.
You are so smart to see that even if you love him, you dont respect him (and he probably doesnt respect you). You are strong for having the good sense to walk away, even when it isnt horrible.
I know it’s just a matter of time for you to find your perfect guy.
Post # 4
@keebee: Good on you for listening to your gut. Seriously, there are better guys out there.
Post # 5
It’s hard, but good for you. You deserve better.
Post # 6
@keebee: You seem to have a really good head on your shoulders. Congrats on being strong. I know it will be hard, but keep your head up.
Post # 7
@keebee: GOOD FOR YOU!!!!
That is exactly how i looked at my previous situation. “what would i tell my friend to do if she were in my situation?” My answer was I would have told her to leave long ago.
the point is, you have realized it! That is really tough to take yourself out of the situtation and clearly see things. Your sanity will come back eventually. Surround yourself with good people and keep yourself busy even “stepping out of your comfort zone” until you find yourself again 🙂
Post # 8
I’m sorry to hear things didn’t work out, but I’m proud of you for doing what’s best for you and your future! Best of luck!
Post # 9
Good for you honey! Best of luck.
Post # 10
@keebee: If you’re going to leave someone those are really good reasons to do it. I hope you find all the happiness you deserve. Good luck.
Post # 11
Good for you! Too many fish in the sea to accept anything less than what you deserve.
Post # 12
Thank you all for your words of encouragement. We broke things off today. I am really really really sad. I cried driving on the way home, I was hoping no one saw me but I was crying pretty hard. I am going to take care of me….I’m so looking forward to being happy again and getting my sanity back. As sad as I am, I’m really glad that I don’t have to worry about being mistreated by him anymore.
Post # 13
Well done, honey. Life can only get better.
Post # 14
@keebee: Good for you for trusting your gut. Take care of you, and laugh/cry/spend time with your girlfriends 🙂
Post # 15
@keebee: it will get better, I promise you that! Stay strong love, sounds like you made the right decision!
Post # 16
@MissGemini: Good for you! Please surround yourself with love, laughter and fun. Explore. Do something daring. Just don’t look back.