Post # 1
Well Bees, it’s been a horrible day. Me and my Father are not close at all, and he absolutely cannot stand my FI. Me and my FI have been together off and on for years, and we recently had a child together. Before the FI and I had our son, he had cheated on me. We broke up, and at the time we were not engaged and nowhere close to being. Well it’s been almost two years later, and he popped the question to me last New Year’s Eve. Like I said, my dad and I are not close, so I really only see him when I go to my grandmother’s on holidays. Because of the poor decisions he’s made in his life, that’s where he lives. He left me and my mom when I was 2. He remarried and had 5 kids with a woman, whom he divorced, and doesn’t support the children in anyway. Needless to say, he’s pretty much a loser. Well, I am getting married, and since the wedding is 3 months away now, (and my mom said she was not going to walk me down the aisle) I finally got the courage to ask my dad. At first, he said yes, what do you think I would say? Then, however, when I walked back in to my grandmother’s house unexpectedly, I overheard him telling everyone that he hates my FI and thinks I am making the biggest mistake of my life. I am absolutely crushed and don’t know what to do. Help!!!
Post # 3
I am so sorry he’d say something like that! I would rescind my request he walk me down the aisle! If he doesn’t support you, your FI, or your choices, you don’t need negativity on your wedding day! Do you have a brother, grandfather, or uncle you are close to who would be willing AND happy to give you away? Normally i’d suggest asking your mom, but she’s already said no. What is her reason behind not wanting to walk you down the aisle?
Good luck and I hope things get better!
Post # 4
This is a nontraditional suggestion… but…you could always walk down the aisle with your FI.
I’m seriously considering this option, as I don’t like the thought of being “given” away.
Post # 5
Thank you so much!!! I had originally asked my mom to walk me down, but she said that I should ask my dad. Well, I told her what he said, and she was EXTREMELY upset. Still though, she is not big on the idea. I honestly think she is scared and doesn’t want the attention on her. I have a step-father, but we do not get along that well, and it would be extremely awkward. I have no brothers that I am in contact with, and they are all alot younger than me. My grandfather would be a good choice, but in his ailing health, I don’t know that I should rely on him even being able to walk down the aisle seeing as he is 90 years old and in the early stages of Dementia. I thought about having my son do it, but he is only 2 and he may just run down the aisle, or start screaming!! So, I’m honestly stuck.
Post # 6
I’m another bee thats going in a nontraditional route… I’m not close with my father and my mother and step father are officiating the ceremony so they can’t walk with me and my grandfather died a few yrs ago… I started thinking about how usually the groom and groomsmen get to walk out all at the same time together at the very beginning and decided that my MOH and I will walk together… Afterall she’s been my friend for half my life and really she’s giving my friendship to him in a understanding that my FH will be my best friend and priority first from now on. Just my 2 cents good luck on whatever you choose
Post # 7
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with walking down the aisle alone. It seems pointless to be forced to find a male to escort you just for tradition’s sake. In the end, all eyes are on the bride anyway, and I think walking yourself down will not only show how strong and independent you are, but will feel more honest.
Post # 8
I think I might go at it alone! I hope it works out for me and I don’t pass out!
Post # 9
I was at a wedding recently where the bride walked down the aisle alone — I thought it was actually quite lovely.
Post # 10
I don’t have any family left so I will be walking solo, and I am totally cool with that
Post # 11
I am also planning on walking alone (at least right now I think so)…I’m a little nervous about it, too, but we’ll see!
Post # 12
I am walking myself down the aisle. I have a good relationship with my dad. I just think I’m a big girl and can give myself away. 😉
If your dad knows about your relationship history with your FI and the cheating, I think maybe you are giving him a bit of a hard time though. I think most parents would be a bit saddened to see their child marrying someone who had cheated on them. I’m not saying you shouldn’t marry your FH, just that you might consider your dad’s perspective and realize that his feelings have some validity.
I wish you good luck with whatever you decide. 🙂
Post # 13
I went to a wedding where the girl walked alone down the isle….it looked great =) Keep positive energy on yor wedding day. I think I will walk with my mom, my dad died when I was 3 =( and my grandfathers are out of the country.
Post # 14
I walked down the aisle myself. It’s more due to a philosophy I subscribe to but it also turned out to be less hassle logistic-wise. I have a good relationship with my dad but I don’t believe in the “giving away” tradition since there’s no property transaction involved. My church is also not a great proponent of that tradition. It also turned out to be convenient because the aisle is not too wide and I got to spread out my skirt as long and big behind me as I want.
Post # 15
I walked down the aisle by myself. I made sure it was a very short aisle though because I was nervous, LOL. I think nowadays, anything goes and you should do what YOU want to do, what you feel comfortable with. I don’t think you should have to feel awkward or try to please another person and do something you don’t want to do on your wedding day. I’d walk by yourself or a close family member or friend.
Post # 16
- Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion
Nothing wrong with walking solo. If it were me, I wouldn’t want someone walking me down the aisle who didn’t support me and the marriage.