Post # 1
After much debate, I have decided to walk down aisle with my fiance. We are not having bridesmaids/groomsmen, no father-daughter dance, no bouquet or garter toss. I’m just not into all the traditions. Do I need to tell my Dad and Stepfather ahead of time I will be walking down aisle with Groom? Or just let them deal with it? My Dad may have a bit of hurt feelings, but honestly we are not that close. I am much closer to my Stepfather, but I don’t want to deal with both of them walking me.
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
I think it’s a great idea! It would probably be best to tell them ahead of time, though, so that they can deal with any potential hurt feelings ahead of time.
Post # 4
My husband and I walked down together. We just told people that is what we wanted. I didn’t view myself as a possession to be given away. it was beautiful and perfect for us!
Post # 5
If it were me, I think I’d tell them ahead of time, because you don’t want to get closer to the day and have them expecting to do it. I think it’s a nice idea to have your FI walk with you.
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2018 - Our home and the two acres it sits on
I would, whether you think they’ll be upset or not, just to save everyone a bit of discomfort from a surprise.
I gave each of my dad’s a call a couple of weeks before our wedding, and made a special effort to explain it all — even though I was fairly certain that neither of them would care. "Hi, Dad. You know, I wanted to get your thoughts about our wedding ceremony. I’m leaning toward walking myself down the aisle, and I wanted to explain my thought process. Once I finish, I’d like to hear what you think and if you have any concerns, because I do want to honor our relationship, and I’d like to do it in a different way."
I think the important parts of that spiel are to allow for input, not have anything set in stone, and make it clear that you’re not snubbing them or anything.
Honestly, I did the same thing with my (new) stepmom for the same reason. Again, I didn’t really think she’d care what I did, but she said it was nice to be asked.