(Closed) Walking down aisle with Groom (to be), do I need to explain to my Dads?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

I think it’s a great idea! It would probably be best to tell them ahead of time, though, so that they can deal with any potential hurt feelings ahead of time.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

My husband and I walked down together. We just told people that is what we wanted.  I didn’t view myself as a possession to be given away.  it was beautiful and perfect for us!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

If it were me, I think I’d tell them ahead of time, because you don’t want to get closer to the day and have them expecting to do it.  I think it’s a nice idea to have your FI walk with you. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018 - Our home and the two acres it sits on

I would, whether you think they’ll be upset or not, just to save everyone a bit of discomfort from a surprise.

I gave each of my dad’s a call a couple of weeks before our wedding, and made a special effort to explain it all — even though I was fairly certain that neither of them would care.  "Hi, Dad.  You know, I wanted to get your thoughts about our wedding ceremony.  I’m leaning toward  walking myself down the aisle, and I wanted to explain my thought process.  Once I finish, I’d like to hear what you think and if you have any concerns, because I do want to honor our relationship, and I’d like to do it in a different way."

I think the important parts of that spiel are to allow for input, not have anything set in stone, and make it clear that you’re not snubbing them or anything.

Honestly, I did the same thing with my (new) stepmom for the same reason.  Again, I didn’t really think she’d care what I did, but she said it was nice to be asked.

Good luck!

 

 

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