Post # 1
I do not have the greatest relationship with my dad and I am thinking about walking down the aisle alone because I cannot think of another male figure that has been there for me enough to have them walk me down the aisle. Have any other bees done this?
Also, when asked who gives this bride to this man, I thought of having my cousins stand in unison and say, “We do.” (They are protective of me and we are a close family but, not extrememly close.)
Any words of advice will help.
Post # 3
You can also ask that the “who gives this woman away” part isn’t included – ceremonies can consist of whatever form and words you want, so if something doesn’t work for you it’s always possible to edit it or nix it entirely. I’m probably going to ask my mom and youngest brother to walk me, but if that doesn’t work out I thought about doing what another bee suggested and meeting Fiance halfway down then walking the rest together.
Post # 4
I walked down the aisle with both of my parents. It doesn’t just have to be a male that walks you down…what about your mom/grandma/aunt/sister? I just hope your dad wouldn’t be upset that you would have someone else walk you down. If you think he might, maybe you should do it alone. That is totally cool also!
Post # 5
I am not sure if I am even going to invite my dad at this point. I do love the idea of my groom meeting me halfway down the aisle to meet me. Thank you for your advice guys! It really helped. (I amy even ask my mom.)
Post # 6
I’m going to be having my mom and brother walk me. My dad will be there, as will a couple of uncles, but I felt that the two people closest to me should give me away, even if it’s not traditional.
Post # 7
My mom walked down the aisle alone. She said it was the best option because her dad hardly raised her and she was already moved out with a kid and it just seems appropriate.
Her pictures turned out beautifully.
Post # 8
When my brother got married last summer my sister-in-law’s mom walked her down the aisle. Her father wasnt even there because she doesnt have a relationship with him. She’s really close to her mom. It was really sweet that she asked her mom to do it.
Post # 9
I am also planning on walking down the aisle alone. I like the idea of having my Fiance meet me half way. That seems appropriate, since the wedding is all about us joining together.
Post # 10
I can’t decide either, I would have had my dad walk me but he passed away in September so now I’m unsure. I was going to ask my brother. My mom brought up the idea of having my dad’s brother walk me down the aisle or my godfather. I never thought to ask my mother but she would probably be too emotional for that. But I’m glad I got to see some other options out there. I wouldn’t mind walking alone and getting a little quiet time to myself right before it all happens. 🙂
Post # 11
@dfontaine07: I think I have decided to walk 3/4 of the way and then having my groom walk me the rest of the way. I feel like, if no one is automatically popping into my mind to walk me down the aisle then I should just walk myself.
Post # 12
@Sway2012: Yeah I think I’m going to bring up the idea to my mom, I think I would enjoy even those few seconds alone. I like the idea of my mom walking me a lot more though since joining this thread, but I don’t think she would really like the idea. So maybe I’ll bring that up when I go visit her this week or when we go away together for spa weekend in March. She’s basically my best friend and since my father passed, we’ve gotten even closer, but I’m afraid the day will be overwhelming enough without him there that she would be uncomfortable walking with me.
Any ideas how to ask her or if you faced something similiar bees?
Post # 13
I think you can do whatever you want to do…go for it!
Post # 14
I am thinking about having my godmother walk me, because we are close and she has no children or husband so she has never had her own wedding and will never have one for anyone closer to her than I am. I think dad “giving you away” is kind of sexist so this is a good way to avoid it all together.
I think walking down the aisle alone wiould be a symbol of your strength and independence.
Post # 15
I still can’t decide if I want to walk down the aisle alone or not. When I pictured my wedding in my head, I always automatically imagined walking down the aisle alone. However, my dad is pretty excited to do the honors (I’m his only daughter). Things have been really tense in my family for the past year or so because my dad left my mom (very VERY long story), but I don’t want to him or anyone else to think I would leave him out as “punishment” or something, because that’s definitely not the case. *sigh* what to do?
Post # 16
I am a second time bride. Getting married for the second time because the first time just wasn’t right 🙁 But unfortunately, my parents who are extremely religious do not agree with remarriage. They believe in what the Bible says, and that a marriage is forever. They have already told me that they cannot bless my marriage to my fiance and will not be attending the wedding. I am CRUSHED because my first time married was a fast ceremony with NO ONE present but a witness whom we didnt even know! My dream was to have my father walk me down the isle. But since he will not be in attendance, I am having my close friend walk me down the isle. I’ve considered just going at it alone too! I don’t see anything wrong with it! I just am such a shy person, that I’m afraid I wouldn’t have the courage to do it! lol Good luck to you!!!!