Post # 1
My father passed away a number of years ago. People keep asking me who’s going to walk me down the aisle, or assuming my mother is going to do it. When I say I think I’m going to walk alone, its like people think it’s weird or something.
I just don’t feel like anyone can take the place of my father. My parents were together until he passed, and I was an adult when he died, so he was my dad all through growing up and into my adulthood (no step-father, etc). I’m not close with my uncles on either side of the family, don’t have close older male friends/relatives. While I love my mother, I just don’t really want her to walk me down the aisle. I’m not entirely sure why I don’t, but I don’t.
I toyed with the idea of starting alone and then having FI come and meet me half way and we’d walk the rest of the way together, but he doesn’t seem too keen on it.
Any reassurance that walking alone is OK? Or should I ask my mom to do it or find some male relative that would (my dad’s brother won’t be able to make the wedding, and I guess if I had to pick it would probaby be him, but he’s out due to a date conflict).
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
It is fine to walk alone! Don”t pick someone just bc you feel pressured.
Post # 4
There’s nothing wrong with walking alone. My friend did, for different personal reasons, and it was fine.
Post # 5
@Jennlee: I would walk down the aisle together as a couple. It’s a Swedish tradition I just learned about on the bee 🙂
Post # 6
Nothing wrong with it at all. Don’t let others sway you into a direction that you wouldn’t be happy with.
Put a photo of your dad in your dress. I’ve seen charms with photos to attach to your bouquet. It’s like having him walk you down the aisle in spirit.
I am asking my step dad to walk me down the aisle since my dad died a few years ago. My mom and step dada have been together about 10 years. My dad was cremated so I am going to put some of his ashes in jewelry to take with me down the aisle.
Post # 7
@Jennlee: Definitely walk alone! My mom walked me down the aisle, and it was wonderful (she cried the whole time!), but there’s something sweet about doing it alone. You could have your FI walk with you, but there was just something inexplicably beautiful and powerful about the moments where he saw me come around the corner and walk toward him. We held each other’s eyes the whole time, and it was incredibly emotional for us both. I would have missed that had we walked down together.
Post # 8
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with walking down the aisle alone, as long as you are okay with it!
Post # 9
Walking alone represents you, this is your choice and your future. I think the choice to walk alone makes you strong, head held high, and represents you as a woman. I would walk alone if I was in your position.
Post # 10
walk alone, i am in exactly the same position- i ost my dad 10 years ago, and whilst i have my mum, the idea of her walking me down the isle just didnt sit right for me, i couldnt explain it either!!
i spoke to my mum about it and she wasnt offended in any way, and to be honest it kinda suited my very independant nature!
I dont think anyone will think it odd-everyone at the wedding will no doubt be aware of your fathers passing- my Best friend is getting married next year and she is walking herself down the isle (her dad is alive and well, and will be at the wedding, theyre VERY close- he even put her through med school.) and she is walking herself- now that i find a bit odd!!
in total seriousness- its your day and it needs to be exactly what is best for you, and what you want.xx
Post # 11
You will be fine walking yourself down the aisle. Trust me, I’ve been there.
Post # 12
also meant to add- would you not walk down with your MOH? my sister is my MOH and i am thinking i might walk down with her!
Post # 13
I’m with the previous posters, don’t choose someone to walk you down the aisle out of pressure to do so. It would likely hold less meaning if it was out of a feeling of obligation.
My FSIL walked down alone, for no particular reason, and it was one of the most charming and meaningful ceremonies I’ve been to.
Post # 14
@MRSsrm85: this is off topic, you look so happy and I love how you carried a single rose. I’ve never seen that before. Really cool.
Post # 15
@Jennlee: walking alone is completely finE. I did and I’ve seen other brides do it as well.
Post # 16
@Jennlee: My father passed away when I was young (I was 11). I’ve wondered what I will do when the time comes. I’ve considered having another male relative or possibly my dad’s best friend (he was his best man and we are still very close with him). Or walking alone. I feel like I will be expected to have my mom walk me down the aisle, and I’m worried that she might be hurt if I don’t ask her. We aren’t particularly close, but she’s a great mom and has done a great job raising my sister’s and I by herself. So I really don’t know what I’ll do when the time comes. I understand where you’re coming from–no one can replace my dad either. I know it will be hard when the time comes.
@mollypuppy: this is a really nice idea!