Post # 1
I think this is going to be my choice…
I was raised by my real mother who passed away when I was 17. For a couple of years when I was five I lived with my aunt and uncle as my real mother had some issues I then moved back with her until she passed when I was 17. My real father AKA sperm donor has not had anything to do with my life.
When my mother passed my aunt and uncle whom I lived with when I was young basically adopted me love them very much who I refer to as my mom and dad. However, there have been some major issues… My wedding was planned for two years my dad is now getting married the day after me I uninvited his fiance and he is not coming. My mom and I have had a falling out and have not spoken since my shower.
I worked full time while in college full time. For the last five years I have worked two jobs while getting my master’s degree. Also, my fiance and I are paying for our entire wedding ourselves. I have done it all and continue to do it all… And I never ever ask anyone for anything.
So I am thinking walking down the aisle alone would be okay??? Would it look bad? I just feel I have done it all on my own so I can give myself away on my own???
Post # 3
Care to elaborate? I mean, it’s your choice, but it seems to me like you want some backup from the bee. 🙂
I’d walk alone, but I sort of made the choice not to.
I don’t want any company down the aisle, but I’m letting my father walk me basically because it’s a much more important 60 seconds in his life than it is in mine. He didn’t earn it, for sure. He hasn’t even asked about it yet. But I just feel like that’s something he looked forward to all my life, and it’s really not going to kill me if I let him walk me. :/
Besides, if I walked alone I might DANCE and that would just be so strange. 😛
Do what you’ve got to do, OP!
Post # 4
I walked down the aisle alone. My dad isn’t in my life anymore, so that was the reasoning behind it. I don’t think people found it strange.
Post # 5
I walked alone because my dad died when I was four. No big deal.
Post # 6
My dad passed away a year before my wedding – I almost walked alone but asked my brother to walk me instead. I am very glad I did – you really need someone to hang on to just to calm your nerves! haha. I think it means a great deal to whomever you ask also. I didn’t do a father/daughter dance but my husband did dance with his mother and it was a very nice moment for him.
Post # 7
I’m walking alone. My dad passed away 5 years ago, and my grandpa passed away last summer. I’ve had at least ten people offer to walk me (family friend, FFIL, FBIL, uncles, grandma, etc.), but I don’t see why I should be escorted. I’m so independent and it just makes sense.
It’s funny because my grandma randomly brought it up and was like, “Who’s walking you down the aisle? My uncle walked me. You have lots of people you could have do it. Or you could walk alone, I guess. No, don’t do that.”
Thanks, grandma, that’s exactly what I was going to do.
Post # 8
@chasglennon: Walking down the aisle alone is actually becoming a lot more popular. I think it’s beautiful symbolism and there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. These traditions were put in place years ago and they make people think that doing your own thing is wrong, and it’s definitely not. 🙂 Walk by yourself! I think all of your guests will appreciate how gorgeous it is.
Post # 9
I don’t think there’s any reason why you can’t. My own father is not in my life, but that said, my granddad is hopefully going to walk me…Except that he has nonhodgkin’s lymphoma and his chemo didn’t work (we just found out), so maybe he won’t even be there at all. =(
But that aside, I think that if you feel like you should and you feel like it’s something that would be meaningful for you, I’d do it. You alone walking slowly down the aisle can be such a gorgeous image (and make for some really great pictures!).
It’s 2013! Do what you want!
Post # 10
@chasglennon: Of course it will be ok. My fiancée is walking down the aisle alone, because she is no one’s but herself’s to give away. In an interesting twist, we learned that the Catholic Church does not support the tradition of being given away, for the same reason.
Post # 11
@CakeyP: I agree with this. I would rather walk down the aisle alone but my mom has brought up her walking me down the aisle so many times asking if she will walk me (my ‘sperm donor’ is not in my life and my ex step dad isn’t either) and every time I give her an ‘I’m not sure’ answer she just gets really sad. So, even though I want to walk alone, I think I will endup letting her walk me down the aisle.
To OP, there is nothing wrong with you walking alone. It won’t look bad at all. I don’t even want a wedding party (FI does) because none of them had anything to do with us getting together and the day is about US and only US. Do what makes you happy 🙂