Post # 1
I am having a very non-traditional wedding ( no ring-bearer or flower girl, spiritual but non-religious vows, no first-dance, no poofy dress, etc, etc. ) We are holding our ceremony and reception in a historic ballroom, so we will not be in a church. The problem is that I don’t want my dad to walk me down the aisle. My parents have been happily married for 24 years. I love my father dearly and we have a close relationship, but he and I are both the type of people who intensely dislike the spotlight. My mom is very upset about this, but my dad says whatever makes me happy is fine with him. I think he is a little relieved to escape that duty, honestly. I’ve never perceived myself as “daddy’s little girl” and it just feels wrong to me to be given away by anyone. I understand that some people love this tradition and would be heartbroken if they could not have their father do this, it is very meaningful to them. However, this isn’t a dream of mine or my father’s and it feels very out of place in our wedding. Does anyone have any alternate ideas to walking down the aisle by myself? I love the dance entrance that was floating around on youtube, but some of my wedding party would be uncomfortable with that and I don’t want them to feel pressured to do that. Any unique, fun ideas out there?
Post # 3
I’ve seen the bride walk halfway down, and the groom meets her and then they walk the rest of the way to the “altar”. Would something like that work?
I’m not a big fan of the YouTube thing myself, so that option would never be on the table for me if my dad wasn’t walking me.
Post # 4
i am doing as Miss Sapphire described, walking down and having the hubs meet me halfway. try thinking about what would be the most meaningful to you at that moment, and disregard the traditions and people’s opinions. you might come up with your own great idea!
hate to say it but you are going to be full on in the spotlight for that 30 seconds or so. i am like you, i couldn’t imagine everyone staring at just me while i mozy (sp?) on down that aisle. but i sort of reconciled with myself that i had to grow up, and take it like a woman, at least for half of the way.
from what i hear you won’t really notice anyone but your man anyway…at least i hope that’s how it turns out.
are you very close to your maid of honor? maybe she could walk down with you. you don’t have to have the “who gives this woman to this man…” stuff if you don’t want it with your dad. good luck!
Post # 5
As of right now, I’m planning to have our processional go Groom’s parents, my parents, wedding party (in couples) then Groom & I will walk in together – it makes a lot more sense for us (i dont like the symbolism of being someone’s property & we’ll have been together for 6 years by the time we get married, so we’re already united)