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This post is for all of you who doesn’t have a father or mother that can walk you down the aisle, or simply don’t like the idea of being handed over. I’ve commented on so many posts about this subject, suggesting that the couple walk in together, but never had a photo to show what it looks like. Well, I just got one from our wedding!
My husband is Canadian, but I’m Swedish – and according to Swedish tradition the couple walk down the aisle together. Your dad is allowed to walk you if you want to, but the church recommends that you do it as a couple to show that you’re walking in as equals and with joy (i.e. not handed over). In our case, my dad isn’t really comfortable with being on display and I would have felt really awkward walking down with him as it would have felt so distinctly un-Swedish.
No judgment at all against brides that want their dad to walk them down to meet their husband, but I hope this post might help anyone that’s in a situation where an alternative is needed!
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- Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia
Gorgeous couple!! 🙂
I love your flower girl’s dress. She looks adorable!
Post # 5
That’s a wonderful idea… Not so sure how FI would feel about it I will have to ask. Ever since my dad passed away, been trying to figure all those little details out. I for one would not want my mother to walk me down, just not my thing, I thought about my brother, but now idk… I will definitely ask FI about this one. Thank you!
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We wont be doing it, because it means a lot to my dad, but I just love this idea.
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@2dBride: So great that you posted your photo, thank you! My husbands sister is in a relationship with another woman, last weekend we were all talking about weddings and then they said that they would probably walk in together as well if they get married. Apparently, us doing it according to Swedish tradition was a little bit of an eye-opener for them as they had fretted about this before that.
@Cynderbug: Thank you. 🙂
The dress looks a lot like what little Swedish girls would have been wearing in the 1920’s/1930’s. The model is called “Madicken”, after a book written by the same author that wrote “Pippi Longstocking”. She LOVED it.
@-MONSTER-: I’m so glad if I managed to help you solve the problem! When I asked my husband he was first a little confused, the thought had just never occurred to him. Then I told him about the meaning of it and from that moment on he was on board.
@allyfally: I can imagine that it’s very meaningful to anyone that has grown up with it! I mean, even I have a relation to that based on Hollywood and various royal weddings I’ve seen on TV. 🙂
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@eocenia: we walked down together too! My dad wasn’t there for the cermony (he always joked that he’d pay me to elope) but my brother was & I just am not down with the whole giving away thing. I really loved the meaning behind us walking down together, equally as well! He wasn’t too sold on it at first, and thought it was weird- but once I explained the meanings behind both options he loved it too!
Also, totally unrelated but your dress is gorgeous!!!!
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My fiancee and I decided we are going to walk in together. It would be awkward with one of us walking to the other. We are a non-traditional couple so why not break all the rules!?!?!? LOVE this post – thanks for posting it!
Post # 11
I really wanted to do this, but I got outvoted. 🙁
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@BeckyS0: I really don’t like the giving away aspect either, but didn’t want to make it the focus of the post as I respect that it’s important to a lot of other people. It just wasn’t right for us. A little curious, where did you first hear about this tradition? I mean, I’ve grown up with it but been feed with the “dad-version” by popular media.
And to the off-topic part, your wedding looks so wonderful! Like a tropical dream, and I love your illusion wedding dress as well. 🙂
@iloverocks: Thanks, I do hope it will help out brides that are trying to find an alternative to the traditional North-American way.
@CocoClassic: Oh, so glad if I can just help anyone make up their mind/come up with a solution! As I wrote in a previous reply, my husbands sister and her girlfriend is now contemplating the same alternative. So happy to “lead the way”, as I know it was something that my husbands family thought rather weird.
@JazzJune: Well, I’m sure you had a wonderful wedding regardless! My husband was all for it, but I know that his family thought it was very different.
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@eocenia: I think I first heard about people breaking this tradition here on the Bee! However, I wasn’t a daddy’s girl so to speak & have always had a rebelious streak so I knew growing up I wasn’t going that route but didn’t know of any alternatives other than walking myself until the bee….
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@allyfally: +1. It’s a sweet idea but it wouldn’t work for us.
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@BeckyS0: Totally get the part about not being a dad’s girl, my dad has always been there for me but we don’t have this amazing connection – he simply worked to much during my childhood for that to happen. Had my grandpa still been alive, and had it been important for my husband to follow the traditional north-American route, I might have considered walking with him instead. As it was, I was “saved” from any unpleasant discussions by the fact that this is the tradition in Sweden (i.e. dad was totally OK with it) and because my husband comes from a family where female rights have always been voiced very strongly (i.e. his dad didn’t think he was a pushover).
@MrsPanda99: My hope with this post is simply to help bee’s that can’t have a dad/other relative walk her in, for whatever reason.
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@eocenia: I know, I get it. I just said it wouldn’t work for us even though I do like the idea.