Post # 1
I am adopted & I don’t want my grandparents (the people who adopted me) at my wedding! They are ALWAYS being rude to the person i’m with and they have yelled at him before! Neither me or the person I am with want them at our wedding, due to the fact they are not very good parents. I don’t want my biological parents there either, I told my grandparents not to come to my wedding due to the fact they can’t be happy for me. My grandma called my biological mom and told her what I said, so now they aren’t coming. I don’t know what to do. I want a wedding, but I don’t want any of my sets of parents to come. If they came they’d ruin my whole day.. How can I have a wedding with no parent to walk me down the isle ? What are some alternatives?
Post # 3
A best friend? A neighbor? A child? What about your father in law?
Edit: You don’t need someone to walk you down the aisle. Brides can walk down by themselves perfectly fine.
Post # 4
You can walk alone.. or perhaps with your husband to be :]
There are lots of people that are in your situation, and they manage to get by.. SOrry that your adoptive parents and biological parents suck!
Post # 5
@destinyleann123: My husband and I walked into the ceremony together, arm in arm. It’s very common in Sweden and it was how we honored his Swedish heritage even though we are American. I loved it!
Or your H can meet you halfway down the aisle and walk up to the officiant with you.
Or you can walk in alone.
Just take your parents out of the equation – they aren’t even necessary!
Post # 6
You could walk yourself down the aisle, that isn’t entirely uncommon.
Post # 7
I’m from Sweden, and there the couple walks in together. Usually the bride on the left side as you enter, then on the right side as you exit – to show that you’re now married. I introduced the idea to my Canadian FI who loved it, so now that’s the plan. If that doesn’t work, could you walk in yourself together with your bridesmaids?
Post # 8
@sienna76: That’s a great idea, I love it! Thanks, i’m going to talk to the person i’m with about it. I’m sure he’ll love the idea 🙂
Post # 9
@eocenia: Cool, a real Swede to confirm! I only saw the custom online. Do they do it in Norway too? H is 1/2 Swedish, 1/2 Norwegian.
I didn’t find anything about the left and right sides though. Oh well!
I do like this custom!
Post # 10
@sienna76: Sorry, I’ve never been to a Norwegian wedding – so I don’t know. In Sweden it’s definitely the custom though, there was even an uproar when our crown princess decided that the kind would lead her down the isle. Talking to our priest this Christmas, he also said that while both customs are allowed they really prefer when the couple walk in together – to show that they are equal and that none is given away.
Post # 11
“they really prefer when the couple walk in together – to show that they are equal and that none is given away.”
I never heard the explanation, but I like it even more!
Post # 12
@sienna76: I like it from numerous perspectives – partly because it’s tradition, but mostly because it would feel awkward if my dad was to hand me away. It wouldn’t sit well with either of us! We love each other, but the idea of him giving me away would make us both cringe. Also, the more I think about it, the more I like the idea that my FI and I will get a private moment before the ceremony.
So I’m very happy that my FI likes the idea as well!