I was quite unsure if I should create this topic or not,it just something that I can’t understand.I’m 24,completely addicted to shoes,specially high heels but I can’t walk on them,I always feel like I’m about to fall and end up all nervous and wearing flats instead which means I have tons of high heels stored that I would love to wear but I can’t and then I see so many women walking around in stilettos like it’s the easiest thing in the world.Does it take practice or am I a lost case?I’m only 5’2 and that explains a lot my love for extremely high heels.I’m also getting married soon and even though I don’t have the dress yet (I already have some picked) I have bought the shoes and they are extremely high,of course I’m switching to something more comfortable after the ceremony but I just keep thinking that I’m going to fall flat on my face while walking down the aisle or just walk funny,it’s a very long venue. I just want to know if this is something you can actually learn by practicing.It would also be good for me because I just started working in a fashion related environment and the way we present ourselves is really important,I think high heels would really improve my look.
Here’s a picture of my wedding shoes in case someone is interested.
I can’t walk in heels at all, which is why I’m glad my FI isn’t much taller than me (I’m 5’0″ and he’s 5’5″)! I was making great progress before my FI mentioned how weird it is when I wear heels and we’re the same height. I’m a great lover of flats, so I was ecstatic! My problem is that I place all of my weight on my heels when I walk, and I do mean ALL of my weight because I did that Dr. Scholl’s thing that shows you how you stand. If you can, go to a store that has something like that and try it out. If you have the same problem I do, then you need to start practicing walking on the balls of your feet without the shoes on and then just walk in the shoes a lot…
@Nostawyn: My fiance is 6’4,now imagine the height difference People always make remarks about how cute it is but I was always really self conscious about my height and I’ve walked in heels before,really high ones and I followed the instructions from the several youtube videos I watched,place the heel on the floor first and then the rest of the feet,the problem is I get all nervous whenever I wear heels because I always feel so uncomfortable,always afraid to fall down or to bend my ankles which happens a lot and that doesn’t look elegant at all,I always end up wearing flat shoes or wedges but even really high wedges make me uncomfortable.
Practice, practice, practice! You might want to strengthen your calves and ankles if you feel really unsteady. For me, a lot of it came from having a really strong core, which keeps my balance pulled up and centered over my hips. Doing ballet stretches and strengthening exercises, which all focus on strong ankles, calves, and core, as well as getting your balance really spot on, is the thing that has helped me the most. Even things like the NYC Ballet workout will help you develop the muscles that will give you more confidence in heels. I also religiously use therabands, which are latex resistence bands, to work on strength in my ankles and feet. We do all our warm-up work in demi-pointe, which is up on the ball of the foot, and it gets you ready for heels!
@highschoolhoneys: Yes,I know my wedding heels are really high but my fiance is 6’4 and I’m so self conscious about my height,I wanted to look a little bit taller on my wedding day.I’ve been walking with them around the house and it’s all fine but thinking about walking outside the house with them makes me so nervous.I have some small heels and I’m going to follow your advice and start wearing them to get used to it,let’s see if I can improve.
@Ashleigh24: I got really confused by the “heel on the floor first” thing. I thought ‘Awesome! I walk on my heels all the time. I’ll be great at this!’ Nope. Once you’ve put the front of your foot down, you need to put weight on it. That’s where I always screw up. You have time to practice for sure, though! Do your chores in those heels and just wander around the house in them and you should master them (maybe not heels in general, but at least that pair).
Lol, believe or not it is a talent / identifiable skill …
Buy a book entitled “How to Walk in High Heels” (A Girl’s Guide to Everything) it is a fun read, and has a whole section dedicated to footware… different types – stocking your closet – how to walk in heels (really really good practical info for breaking them in and practicing etc) – as well as info on about 100 other topics for a girl establishing herself in the world !!