Post # 1
My take on “Video killed the radio star” for the 21st century… not nearly as catchy.
So, my sister-in-law got engaged two days ago, and we found out via Facebook because her fiance’s mom posted that she was “so happy her son was finally engaged” before she could even call us herself.
The same thing happened when we got engaged and someone who’d heard posted “congratulations on your engagement” on my wall within two hours. Luckily I’d at least told my parents, and my grandma (who called my aunt who posted immediately).
I just don’t get why people wouldn’t THINK that if someone hadn’t posted it themselves, maybe they weren’t ready for the mass announcement. I never allude to news unless they’ve posted themselves, or I’m sure it’s public knowledge that they’re comfortable sharing.
Anybody else get beat to the punch by facebook? What’s your rule about posting about your facebook friend’s rule?
Post # 3
I never say anything unless they’ve posted something about it themselves, whether it be an engagement, finding out their pregnant, etc. I also tried to tell everyone who I thought needed to know we were engaged before changing our status on facebook. I think we waited a week before we went from “in a relationship” to “engaged” and thankfully nobody said anything on my wall until then!
Post # 4
My Daddy told everyone before we could. lol He had already typed the text while FH was on his knee. He pressed send as soon as I said yes.
Post # 5
Nobody beat us to the punch but we’ve been frustrated by FI’s brother and his wife posting things on Facebook before telling anyone. They never actually announced their engagement, we found out on Facebook. Then one day she posted about how she was about to take a very important test and how she finally got the results she wanted. We figured she was pregnant and she was, which made the announcement less special. They post every big thing on Facebook though before telling us really to the point where FI talked to his brother about wanting to know before. He’s started to try to do this but sometimes it’s hard when she posts it without him knowing and then he tells us. I would never have put it on someone’s wall without them putting something up first though.
Post # 6
I was still in school when we got engaged and I wanted to have a candle lighting with my sorority and keep it top secret so after he proposed on Friday I deleted my facebook until all my sorority sisters found out on Monday night. We didn’t tell too many people before Monday, but I didn’t want to take any chances. I don’t ever post on anyones wall until they publicly put the news out on facebook. It would really bum me out if someone posted leaked information that I didn’t want out yet. I don’t share too much information and I rarely update anything some people just share WAY to much on there.
Post # 7
my fiance spilled the beans before I was able to tell everyone I wanted to. for some reason he thought it would not show up that he had changed his relationship status to engaged until I accepeted his request… yea not so much. My mom went into the hospital the night we got enagaged so I only was able to actually call 2 of my close friends. Facebook killed telling a lot of people personally. The teased about it for a while lol
Post # 8
@trugem: Ok, I didn’t want to say this right in the main question so as not to stir up controversey or something… but do you think it’s older people really just not understanding how far reaching facebook is?
My cousin wrote a post about how she was applying to be a nanny, and her mom was like… “I remember when you used to babysit your brother and you’d chase him with a knife, haha” Umm… an employer is totally going to look at your page as much as they can. Out of context, they might not realize that it was one of those fake retractable ones, and like 13 years ago.
Post # 9
I can’t stand that! Thankfully we didn’t deal with any “outters” with our engagement but a friend of mine was outted after unfortunately losing her baby last year. A friend of her mothers posted how sorry she was for her loss before my friend had told anyone. As soon as she saw the post, she removed it but tons of people had already saw it and knew what happened. It was something that my friend wanted to deal with on her own and certainly didn’t want to have to explain to her FB friends, of all people!
I’ll never understand why people think its okay to post these things. After the couple/individual has made the announcement, go ahead and post away but until then KEEP YOUR DAMN TRAP SHUT!
ETA: Now that I think about it, our engagement was announced before it was even official but it wasn’t done for all of the FB world to see. After FI called my parents to ask for their permission to marry me, my mother emailed our whole damn family. I was kind of bummed that I didn’t get to tell them but I got over it pretty quickly. My grandmother still acted surprised even after I called her a liar since I knew she knew.
Post # 10
@UpstateCait: That is terrible. I would have been mortified for my “you didn’t like me in highschool, but I want to snoop your facebook page, so I’m accepting your friend invite” type friends to know that kind of personal information about me.
Post # 11
My sister posted our baby’s name on facebook when we weren’t sharing it yet, except for immediate family members. It was just a reply to a comment, and no one else picked up on it. Despite all the pictures, comments, and statuses about us being pregnant, so many people ask OVER AND OVER when we are due, it it’s a boy or girl, how far along we are, etc… I agree that people share way too much! It’s nice to congratulate people, but I’d rather have it in an email or text, than a public forum if I haven’t posted that news myself.
Post # 12
I guess my family is the secretive type because my sister is due any day with her first child, and nothing came up on facebook until 3 days ago when she posted a pic of herself with her pregnant belly. I never said anything about it on facebook because it isn’t my announcement to make; it’s her’s.
Same went with when FI and I got engaged. I called my entire family, and he called his entire family. We changed our facebook statuses a day later, and nobody had said anything about it prior to that.
His mother is the only one that really uses facebook out of our entire families. My mom can’t figure it out. LOL.
Post # 13
@SapphireSun: Absolutely. I would have FLIPPED OUT if that were me!
Post # 14
@SapphireSun: In a way. My Daddy sent text messages not a fb message.
My grandmother’s friend tries to comment on my status sometimes and I really wish she wouldn’t because it is not something you would want everyone to see.
Post # 15
meh, its been 2 days so i wouldnt be too fussed about someone making a post about news that was 2 days old plus not everyone is on their FB page every day to update it. is your SIL your husbands sister? i would have thougth you would have gotten a phone call within those 2 days
Post # 16
I blocked my facebook wall when i got engaged. My sister wanted to update her facebook status right away and I said no, please wait until I could tell people personally. It made it so people could only send private messages.