Post # 1
So I am a bridesmaids in my future sister in law’s wedding (we are engaged to brothers). We get together for dinner and she brings out my “bridesmaids dress”. It looks like a beach coverup…I kid you not. It is cheap jersey fabric, very low cut, so low you can see my bra base at the front of my dress. I couldn’t believe it, I thought it was a joke. Mind you, she is having her wedding at a country club and wearing a $3000 Provona dress.
I took it from her and note the “George” label so I KNOW it is from Walmart. I go to Walmart and there it is hanging…$12 each or 2 for $20. I then go to my mom’s house and show her the dress…she bought the same one in black as…wait for this…a cover up at the cottage!
To rub salt in the wound, she got me a Walmart large when she knows I just dropped 2 pant sizes…so the dress is huge. I exchanged it for a small.
I really don’t know what to say about this. My Fiance and our Future Mother-In-Law both think the dress is ridiculous. Our Future Mother-In-Law doesn’t even want to hang the pic on her wall since she thinks the dresses will look horrible next to the tuxes.
I know I should just shut up and wear it but SERIOUSLY? Walmart has some nice George dresses but she literally picked the worst piece of crap item out!
Post # 3
Having been a bride I feel okay saying that you should bring up the issue with her diplomatically. Maybe not wave the WalMart name around, but tell her that you would love to go shopping with her and her other girls for a dress that looks better on you?
Did you try it on when she was there?
She may have been trying to be sensitive in getting you the larger size. If you’re losing weight and she knows it, she probably just didn’t want you to not be able to fit into what she was giving you.
Post # 4
hmm… how many bridesmaids are there in her wedding? maybe if you all get together and find something you like better you can present it to her and see if she’d be willing to change her mind. is the dress really that bad? or is it the fact that it’s from wal-mart that’s bugging you? i’d kind of like to see it if you have pics.. lol. if she’s willing to negotiate, would you be ok with buying your own dress? hopefully you’ll come to an agreement soon that youre both happy with. (if worse comes to worse, you can always make her wear a tacky frilly taffeta frock at your wedding!)
Post # 5
@missjewels: Are there other bridesmaids and if so are they all wearing the same thing as yours? Were you an afterthought as a Bridesmaid or Best Man, if that’s the case, I’d seriously consider stepping down personally. If not, I’d maybe ask her if you could purchase something yourself that will still go with her decor and theme that fits you better and that you are comfortable in. Use the fit and comfort as a talking point maybe instead of telling her straight?
This seems odd to me, a country club wedding, a $3000 gown, and a Walmart cheapie for the future SIL as a BM? Something’s off to me, most brides want a somewhat cohesive look at least. It’s not the price or quality becasue in the right setting, it’d likely be fine. But for a higher end, fancy affair, I agree it’s not the best pick!
Post # 6
Are there others In the wedding party? Maybe someone else is on an extremely tight budget that she didn’t want to tell you about for the sake of their feelings? If its just you I would maybe ask if it’s formal enough for the venue.
Post # 7
You are mad because she got a deal and paid for your dresses? I’m not a fan of Wal-mart, at all, but still, this is hardly the worst fate in the world.
It could be a lot worse – she could have YOU buy an expensive, ugly piece of crap.
Post # 8
It sounds like maybe she was trying to do a nice thing and save you all by buying the dresses herself, and this is what she could afford. I think it was a nice gesture that she wanted to get the dresses for you, even if they aren’t your taste. As for style of the dress, its up to her being the bride what style she wants you to wear. However, I understand you want to look and be comfortable. I would recommend trying it on for her, and show her how much your boobs and bra hang out of it. Once she sees how bad it looks, I’m sure she’ll change her mind.
Post # 9
Does this maybe have something to do with your other post about going shopping on Sunday? Maybe when she felt you were being difficult (not saying you are, I agree she didn’t give you enough notice but she may feel you are), this is her passive aggressive way of saying “fine you don’t want to go shopping you can wear this beach cover up.” Just my two cents…
Post # 10
Oh goodness gracious! I feel you girl. My sister in law is doing something similar to me… given the dress she picked is from Dillards, it’s still EXTREMELY too short (especially for this girl with a long torso!) and it only comes in juniors sizes. =/
I would DEFINITELY try to talk her into finding a reasonable dress. I’m looking at dresses right now at Target and there are a few cute ones I think would make good Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. Tell her you’d be willing to pay for your own dress if that’s an issue.
Post # 11
So… would it be inappropriate to wear a bathing suit underneath? And flip-flops? Yikes. Why can’t your Future Mother-In-Law (isn’t this her mom?) mention that the dress seems too casual for a country club wedding? It’s strange to me that the groomsmen will be wearing tuxes, while the bridal party will be wearing beach cover-ups.
If no one wants to say anything directly to her, just smile and wear the damn thing. I’m sure people will know that the bride picked out the (strange) dresses, not you.
Post # 12
This is the dress. Sorry for the quality it is blackberry photo. There are 4 bridesmaids. We all said we would spend $150 on a dress so money is not the issue. This was bought a month ago, so before my “Sunday Shopping” post (I just discovered posting on the boards and I am taking full use!).
I really don’t get it. She makes 3 times as much as me, we told her our budget and all of us are in the same dress. She bought us all larges and got herself one in small. I really don’t know what to make of it.
Post # 13
I do agree with you. I am thankful its not a $300 awful dress but to me there is a middle ground between $300 nightmare and $10 walmart dress. Maybe a $90 sears bridesmaids dress?
Post # 14
@missjewels: Is that you in the photo? Or another BM?
Post # 15
Thats me…the night she gave it to me…so she knows what it looks like. We took this to send to the other girls.
Post # 16
- Wedding: September 2012 - Mother of the Bride's residence
I saw those dresses yesterday in Walmart! The colours are nice, but the fabric is really informal — I’d try to figure out her reasoning behind choosing such a casual dress…