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Ohh that's hard. Pleather? Haha. Peters? Leatheron? Peteathers?
I don't know... all of those are kind of weird sounding. Sorry I'm not more help!
I don't understand.. You don't want to change your name to his as 'your last name dies with your generation', yet you are willing to change it to a made up name?
I would make 100% sure he is on board with this. You have every right to keep your last name, but it is fairly unusual (no, not unheard of though!) for a man to drop his surname.
IF you do go through with it I actually like Eatherson as the combination of both former names.
Hope some others come up with some good suggestions for you.
@bluebonnet: Pleather! Haha, love it!
@MissDallasCowboy: Oh, I actually really like that one.
I like Leatherson, too.
I can't come up with anythiing good right now. Sorry. :(
I've been trying to talk mine into this as well! We're Elwood and Fuller, and all of our friends already call us the Fulllwoods, which I love but it does sound a bit porny.
As for you, have you thought of putting your names into an anagram machine online? Just jumbling the letters and seeing what comes out can be fun! I used a scrabble word maker, here's a link:
@BlueBonnet: yes, those were all ones we thought of but you're right, they all sound odd!
@MissDallasCowboy: I do like that... but does it make you think of "leiderhosen"? I'm not sure of the spelling but it's pronounced leader-hosen, and it's the German word for those traditional leather pants, lol.
@Iguanatan: Originally I was thinking I was just going to keep Peterson, partially because of the name dying thing, but then there was the thing about wanting to have a "family" name, so then I came up with the made-up name as sort of...compromise, I guess. And of course I would make sure he was 100% on board - it's not like I could force him to do it if he wasn't. But he's pretty laid-back and I think he would be receptive and at least entertain the idea fairly. That said, I do like Eatherson...
@Elwoodblues: I did laugh out loud at Fullwood. The Words with Friends cheat is an excellent idea!
I don't think it is strange to use a new name but I do not see how it helps your cause of keeping cour last name alive. Personally, if I were in your position and decided I would be willing to change my name for hte family, I would take his name on board if he felt strongly about it instead of taking an ew name that neither party is connected to. I get that it is starting fresh but neither of you have a terrible last name. So, my first suggestion is to either try to sell him on your name or take his name and continue to use your maiden name socially.
If you both agree a new compromise name is what you want, how about something that is rather neutral, short and easy to pronounce. I knew a guy who got married and he and his wife both changed ther name to Evers. Much more easily pronnounced than their former names.
I hope you don't go with Leatherface! I think more people will comment on the psycho killer from Texas Chainsaw Massacre than the condition of your skin hehe...
Would FI be willing to take your name? The thing is that you will lose your last name whether you take his name or create a name together. You have a very common last name so in reality it won't die with you, it just won't be carried on in your immediate family. I dunno if you'll regret this whole make up a new name thing, because you both have simple easy to spell names and you're looking at changing it to something unusual that you'll need to repeat a lot. I think the most normal one is Leatherson... you could also hyphanate your name and the kids names, Peterson-Leathers sounds pretty good and most likely people will just use Leathers. That way you'd hold on to your name and the kids will carry on the tradition but without losing his name in the process.
Leathson? Or maybe something COMPLETELY different that you both like?
Peters :D has the start of yours and end of his ! :)
or double them up! Peterson-Leathers (or vice versa :P )
I dont get it. If you dont want your name to die out then just keep your name as Peterson. I dont see anything wrong with his name at all though. You could also hyphenate
I'm struggling with the name thing as well!! We used to joke about both of us losing our last names and coming up with something totally different (we're both Irish, so I wanted a McSomething name) but I don't know what we'll actually do. If you honestly don't like his name, then tell him. Honestly. Maybe he can help you think of a new solution.
You have a fairly common last name, how will it die out? Just on you more close-knit family I could see that happening, but on the broader scope there are soo many Petersons.
I think Peterson Leathers is actually a pretty nice double name. You could keep your name and do something like:
Dani Peterson + Mr Smarty Leathers
Baby Peterson Leathers
"Barker" means leather maker, but I don't really like it better than either of your current names.
@jeangenie: That's how my mom kept her unusual last name from dying out (and my grandmother did the same with my uncle). My middle name is my mom's last name and my uncle's middle name is my grandmother's last name. It is always a fun story to tell and I am quite proud of it!
i know of a family that all has the same middle name (her maiden) and last name (his name).
example:
Dad Peterson Leathers
Mom Peterson Leathers
Baby1 Peterson Leathers
she uses her maiden name professionally, but is (leathers) everywhere else.
I am not sure that I want to take his name when we get married but I do want us to have the same last name. Everyone I have talked to about coming up with out own last name just thinks I am crazy but I think it's crazy to spend the rest of your life with a name you don't like.
@MrsOliveBird: Agreed. Doesn't make sense why you can't change your last name because it dies with your generation but "oh if it's a new name, I'll change to that just fine". I'm confused, not being snarky.
I don't really get it...if you change to a completely different name, doesn't your family name still die?
Okay so I just responded to another post with my own story, but I had to jump in here and say that my husband and I did exactly what you are talking about. And we both love it!! It was mostly my idea (although my husband had already used the name for a professional alias), and he says all the time how he is so glad I suggested the change and how it's so great, etc. Or, at least, he used to say that sort of thing all the time -- we've had our new name for 2 years now so he has kinda forgotten he once wasn't Mr "Smith" (:
We chose an entirely new name, not related to either of our family names, we just both liked it. Are there any last names you particularly like the sound of? I am partial to single-syllable surnames, like colors (Green, Brown, Black, Gray) or Hunt, Clay, Fox, Jones, etc (those were simply the first I could think of now). Maybe you could use Brown, as it kinda has the leather association? (albiet a vague one, but still...!)
Anyway I can not recommend this choice highly enough. It is wonderful to have our own family name, one that we chose together, and I absolutely love my name now. I'd be happy to share more info about our experience, how I convinced him/what our families thought, just ask if you are interested. And let us know what you decide!
Oh and another idea is to look through your family trees and see if any of the old maiden names strike your fancy. Maybe you had a great great grandma with a killer maiden name that you could revive, or maybe he did. We found lots of options just looking at our grandparents' names, but we didn't like any of them as much as the unrelated name we eventually chose.
I'm not very creative so I've not sure what would be the best but don't forget to factor in that you will both have to go to the courthouse and change your name and pay court fees in order to do this, unless he changes his name before you get married and then yours would be easy like a normal name change. Good luck with whatever you decide!
@MerryWidow: I thought Mc last names were Scottish, and O'... and Mac are Irish.
We didn't decide anything yet :/ Thanks for asking though, and I will update when we do!
You could just scramble some of the letters around and make a new name, like Slater or Theson
I'm having the same problem and my FI decided to shorten his last name to just the 1st half so I can take it too without feeling odd or having a baby with a different last name than mine. I really wanted to make a whole new last name (Eden was the new name I wanted for us) but he was totally against it... =( Maybe you could just make up a name like I did that means something special to you... ?
I would do Petersonleathers. If you hyphenate, people will drop one of the names anyway when they talk/write to you. And I don't really like the idea of making up something new.
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So, here's the deal: I don't want to change my last name to his, because my last name dies with my generation (all us grandkids are girls), and because I don't really like his last name. (Whenever I tell people his last name, they go "really? That's his last name?") And I didn't want to hyphenate, cuz that's just long and frankly a pain in the ass. But I want to match my kids. So...
I sort of broached the topic with him of coming up with our own name, but we didn't really discuss it a whole lot. But, I think he may be receptive if I already had some last name possibilities in mind when I talk to him about it.
I would prefer to not come up with something completely random, but neither of us really have strong ethnic roots. I am mostly Czech/Slovakian/Swedish, and he is mostly Irish, and we both have a small amount of Native American blood.
So...creative Bees, whaddaya got? My last name is Peterson, his is Leathers. (the original Native name was Leatherface which I actually prefer because...how freakin' unique is that?! But I don't really want to spend the rest of my life hearing "Leatherface? Ya don't look like a Leatherface to me!" Or, God forbid, as I get older "Leatherface huh?....." haha!)
We thought of Leatherson, but...not really loving it. Anybody else got anything better?