Post # 1
So I have a friend, actually she is one of my best friends wife, and I am the godmother of their 2 boys. Apparently she assumed that she was going to be my Matron of Honor, I’m not really sure why, but she did. And when I ended up not asking her to be in the wedding, she freaked out, and got really upset. She then decided that I had a choice, I could either, put her in the wedding as my Maid/Matron of Honor or she, my best friend, and their boys would not be attending my wedding. I felt as though that was quite extreme and I called her out on it, her husband agrees. And we both made that very clear to me. But she now refuses to want ANYTHING to do with my wedding, and says that she can’t handle hearing about it anymore if she’s not a part of it. I wanted her to be involved, like invited to the shower and whatnot. But after her freak out, I’m not so sure now. She continues to tell me that “the balls in my court” and is waiting for me to ask her, but I wont be. What do I do when it comes inviting her to things? I’m afriad I’m going to regret it, but also don’t really want her to miss out on it, and at times I feel like that can be my way of involving her. Ya know?
Any advise and thoughts are greatly welcome! Thanks!
Post # 3
She sounds like a bully. Imo, you’re doing the right thing by standing your ground.
Post # 4
She is being childish and trying to blackmail you into inviting her to be in the wedding party. Maybe this behavior has worked for her in the past.
Carry on with your plans. Invite her to the wedding, shower, bachelorette etc, but don’t cave to her childish behavior.
Post # 5
@Mrs Grape: Thank you! It’s nice to feel like someone else agrees with how I feel!
Post # 6
@julies1949: That’s how I feel. And I really hate it. Thanks!
Post # 7
Wow. I can’t even imagine how controlling she would be if you did cave and put her in your wedding party! Stand your ground. She’ll get over it. And if she doesn’t, she can stew in it all by herself.
Sorry you’re having to go through this. Planning is stressful enough, without other people turning their problems into your drama.
Post # 8
She’s a nut. Ignore her threats and enjoy your wedding!
I do have a question- what does your best friend have to say about it? Does he know that he married a nut, or does he agree with her?
I’m asking because if it’s the former, he’ll probably talk some sense into her before the actual wedding.