(Closed) Want off the pill but don’t think hubby will go for it.

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
Hostess
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I don’t know anything about how long it really takes to get pregnant but the way things normally go, since you aren’t ready to have a baby for a few months you will probably get pregnant right away!  Why not go off the pill and use condoms for a little while to give your body time to adjust?  And don’t worry about the endometriosis too much, it doesn’t cause fertility problems for everyone that has it.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

First, congrats on taking the next big step in your life 🙂 Since you wanting off the pill is more than just baby-making related, why don’t you go off but use condoms in the meantime until February? That way you and your hubby are both satisfied for a couple of months, then you can really start TTC?

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper

I was on the pill for three years. I got pregnant within a month of stopping it.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Would he be okay with using condoms for awhile? It would only be two months, and if one of them broke, it wouldn’t really be the end of the world for you guys :). That way you could just get a head start on easing off the pills, and I’m sure he would appreciate the higher libido :).

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@MrsSaltWaterTaffy: i agree–if you’re that uncomfortable, maybe going off the pill but still using condoms until your husband is on board with baby-making plans is the way to go. either way, talking to him about it openly will help

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

You mentioned that you “lost your period almost completely.”  That’s actually not uncommon.  When you’re on BC, your body responds to hormonal withdrawal (the placebo week/ days) via bleeding.  It’s not a regular period like when you’re not on BC. 

It’s really hard to predict how long it will take for someone to get pregnant.  There are people who get pregnant if they miss two or three BC pills.  For other people, it takes months.  If you have any concerns about how becoming pregnant immediately would affect your career, etc., I would definitely use condoms until you’re really ready to conceive (whether that be February or 6 months later in August).

Post # 11
Hostess
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Just be honest with him.  I have had a lot of health problems lately and my husband knows it affects my sex drive.  I was on a pill before that made me completely hate sex and now that I’m off it, it’s better.  It’s not perfect, we have to spend time getting me worked up but it’s better being honest about it.  You can also say that you want to use time before you want to conceive to start charting or something so you know when the ideal time to make a baby would be?

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@PandasWifey: You don’t know how to approach it with him? How about:

“I want to go off the pill sooner to allow my body to reset before we TTC. How do you feel about that?”

Pretty simple. If you can’t discuss it with him, then you as a couple are not ready for children.

Post # 13
Hostess
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Plus, I think it’s better to be honest about him so after the kid is born and you want to go back on some type of BC, you won’t have to lie to him about why you don’t want to go on that specific pill again.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

I went off the pill after our honeymoon this past April and was pregnant after our first try. (We miscarried in July, though). You definitely CAN get pregnant the first month. In fact, much research shows you are very fertile immediately after stopping the pill. (There is a higher probability of twins, too!) I don’t have endometriosis, though. But assuming that wouldn’t play a part, just know you can get pregnant right off the pill! Like somebody else mentioned, some women get pregnant while still on the pill.

I had almost no sex drive while on the pill, too. (Sucks, doesn’t it?!) My husband knew, though. I was totally honest with him. I would just tell him that you’d like to stop the pill for two reasons. One, to prepare your body for pregnancy and two, to help your sex drive. I’m sure he’ll be happy to know that you want to improve your sex life. My husband was thrilled when I told him my sex drive should get better after stopping the pill. Unfortunately, mine hasn’t returned to what it used to be before the pill (about 8 years ago I think). I’ve read it can take some women a long time to get their sex drive back. I would say mine is definitely better, though. Good luck!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

Im sorry hon. That must have been hard to keep up appearences. You shouldn’t have to pretend to be in the mood. When I was on Yaz, I was the saaame way, but being honest with my DH about it was easy. He didn’t take it personally and was understanding. I did give in to his advances a few times even though I wasn’t in the mood for his sake though, but I cant imagine how hard it would have been to keep it up! Im sure he will be ok with it. Just be honest. But make sure you are being honest with yourself too. I went off the pill because I had bad baby fever and convinced myself we would be able to ttc soon, but I was just kidding myself. A year later I started back on a different pill and so far i really like this one. you sound much closer to ttc than we are though. good luck with whatever you decide.

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I agree with crayfish.

You have to do what’s best for YOU and YOUR BODY. I went off the Nuvaring because it was having some effects on me that I didn’t like. I didn’t ask my husband if it was okay, I told him I was going to do it and we needed to find another BC option that worked well for both of us. If your husband loves you (which I assume he does), then he will want you to do what’s best for you and he’ll help you find some new BC … or he can just try condoms.

I was on BC for over 5 years, came off of it for 3 months when we decided to TTC. I had endometriosis (diagnosed and removed through surgery) and it took us 2 months to get pregnant.

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