Want to cry- dress came in and I hate how I look in it.

posted 2 years ago in Fitness
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Ohhh, big hugs!   I truly think that a) we are our own worst critics, b) the parts of us we see the least in the mirror like our backs or elbows are the bits that seem least like us and c) you WILL be beautiful on your wedding day. I don’t know that anything will make you 100% happy with your back and arms, but why not get a cute lace bolero or something to help you feel more comfortable? Definitely if you want to work on your body for yourself do so, but even when I am more skinny than I am now I know I am happier with a half sleeve. You can always take it off if you feel warm or happy showing off skin.

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I have 150 days until our wedding and I am SERIOUSLY freaking out.  I just cannot get my act together.  I wanted to lose 20-30lbs and I know I can do it…I did it once with Weight Watchers in just 3-4 months but I can’t stop saying “I’ll start next week.”

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

MrsTtoB:  I’m sorry you feel bad in your dress 🙁 Did you order you a size or two down in the hopes you would have lost more weight by now? There is a sticky usually in the dress area on how to fix ‘back fat’ in a dress with alterations and a bolero etc. is always an option too if your arms bother you but 4 months is a decent amount of time to make some progress if you want to.

 

I lost over 50 pounds a few years back and this is what I found worked for me: limiting my carb intake to primarily ‘good carbs’. eg. rolled oats, wholegrain products, whole fruit etc. Limiting my added sugar intake, eating lean protein, watching my portion sizes (I was eating around 1300 or so calories a day while in the initial weight loss phase. I then had to upp this as I went along as my body required more due to building muscle etc). I don’t believe in super low carb diets as I do not think they are sustainable long term for most people and your body primarily fuels itself on carbs.  Exercise wise interval training is great for burning calories and fat and also incorporating resistance and weight training into your regime. I personally did a program called 12 week body transformation (it took several rounds though of course!) which had great recipes, meal plans, daily exercise plans, and weekly weigh ins. I found this helped in keeping me accountable and it was good to have the support of others on the forums/ask questions/bounce ideas off each other etc.

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I totally feel you hun! I also have weight to lose – probably 15-20lbs until I feel really great in my dress (I am about a size 14/16 now). I have already lost about 20lbs though on my pre-wedding weight loss journey in two ways. First, I have been following the toneitup program – it is a fitness and nutrition program and they have a “bridal” plan too that is great. The nutrition program is a one time $150 and the fitness part is all free and they post the workout schedule on toneitup.com. There is a community in twitter and on instagram – look for #tiubride to find other brides doing the program. My instagram handle is katetonesIU if you want to follow me. 

The other program I have been using with good success is the 21 day fix. It is a beach body program (similar to P90x or insanity – although not as hard as those!!) with a fitness and nutrition program. It is really regimented which is good for me. And it is a 21 day program that you can repeat over and over. It controls your portions, food groups and your fitness – really it is an all in one package. My coach Anna is great and I could not reccomend her more highly, so if you go with this program I recommend using her (getting a coach is free)! Her website is http://www.annamarialocke.com/

Hope this is helpful! 150 days is a long time, I am confident you can get your body where you need to be if you just pick a good program and stick to it! 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I’m so sorry you don’t feel pretty in your dress 🙁 This is the one day where you deserve to feel amazing no matter what! I think a lot of people have been here (myself included – I ordered my dress a little smaller) but you DO have time to make a big difference to your weight. It’s really amazing how losing a few pounds can effect how your clothing fits (and wedding dresses are no different).

Can you tell us what exercise you are doing? You also mentioned your diet – are you sticking to a daily calorie limit? Finally, you said you have been losing weight (yipee!) – have you been losing weight constantly/consistently with your current program?

Set yourself some measureable daily, weekly and months goals (e.g. daily: stick to 1200 calories , weekly: exercise four times per week, monthly: lose 5 pounds) and hold yourself accountable to these goals. Write them down, tell people, put in on this forum if you have to. Then, be as active as possible (have you got a pedometer or FitBit? Aim for 10,000 steps per day!). Finally, your diet sounds great so stick with it!

YOU CAN DO THIS!! 🙂

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Don’t be sad! If you ordered a size or two down, it almost fits and you still have 4 months to go, that is a huge accomplishment! Remember that things like your arms can be easily fixed with a beautiful veil to softly cover them and holding the arms slightly apart from your body like you are holding a bouquet to make them more slender in appearance. Everyone gets a little back fat, and alterations can fix that. So cheer up girl, you are doing great and you should be so proud of your weight loss so far!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

MrsTtoB:  I am actually doing low carb too! I did read that when you stall, if you up your carbs for a week or so it kind of tricks your body and then you drop the carbs again. Your dress is great btw!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

If you are insecure about the back of your dress, perhaps they can line it so it is no longer see through? Losing 100 pounds is a huge accomplishment – congrats! I’m sure you’ll look beautiful on your wedding day!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

What you’ve accomplished is nothing short of amazing. You should be so proud of yourself. I know it’s frustrating to finally have the dress and to have lost all that weight and to still feel that you don’t look your best, but don’t lose sight of what you’ve already accomplished.  Honestly, THAT is what everyone will be “seeing.”

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

MrsTtoB:  Are you committed to the idea of an illusion back and neckline? If you don’t like it at this point, you can always get the seamstress to remove that part of the dress and remake it into a strapless dress. Then you could easily add a bolero or remake the illusion back lace into some type of short straps or sleeves.

Another thing with illusion backs is that they often don’t sit right before alterations. So don’t throw the whole idea out before talking to a seamstess.

Post # 14
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Helper bee

I agree with Ls413, it’s a stunning dress and perhaps if you lined it with a nude lining you would feel less vulnerable? I think your weight loss achievements are something to be proud of.

I wonder if it’s possible to get hold of about 1.5 meters of the lace similar to the back? Then you could wear it as an off-the-shoulder wrap which will not hide everything completely but will perhaps take the focus off your arms enough for you to be comfortable.  I’m not a fan of satin wraps but I think lace ones look elegant without taking over the dress (if that makes sense!). 

I shifted a few kilos quickly on Isagenix, and even though I just need to maintain my weight now I still have one of their protein shakes for breakfast every day as it seems to help me get through the morning without snacking.  Hope this helps.  I’m sure you will look amazing on your wedding day!! And most importantly, your FI will think so too. 

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

myfitnesspal.com was the only thing that worked for me! The most important thing for weight loss is calories in, calories burned!

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