(Closed) Want to do adults only reception, but wouldn’t be received well.

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

The parents of these children may care far less (or even be happy for a child free night) than your FMIL is.  As much as I say it’s your wedding and you can do what you want, if you really feel the need to accommodate you, you could ask the actual parents of the children in question and see if they’d be ok with the kids being baby sat elsewhere.  Then you could potentially at least have the argument that “their parents think it’s a great idea” on your side. 

I think most people realize that weddings are typically NOT kid friendly.

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

Will the venue allow you to bring in outside food for the kids and not include them in the head count for the $30 meal?

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Ask the venue if you can bring food for your kids table.  When my brother got married, we nearly had a kids table of 20 and we fed them McDonalds.  @ my 2nd Mom’s sons wedding, they hired a babysitter and the kids had a pizza party in a suite.  This way the kids got to party on their terms while their parents partied the night away.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

If MIL isn’t paying, she doesn’t get a say in whether or not kids attend your reception.  If you WANT them there, I would do as other bees recommended and see if you can bring in outside food for them.  If you would rather it be adults-only, then offer to hire a babysitter for them or leave it up to the parents to make arrangements.  Expecting your FSIL or other family members to do babysitting duty instead of enjoying the reception seems a bit rude.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Do you want kids at the wedding though? Because I’m not really clear on if you are just worried they wont like the food or if you want the adult only atmosphere? If you do want kids there and have enough space for them, you should be able to arrange for a cheaper and more child friendly menu option for them.. If you just do not want kids then just say so and stand your ground. Eitheway the wedding party kids would still have to come

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

@Pinksapphire:That sounds like a great idea! If you don’t want kids there for whatever reason, you don’t have to have them there.

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