Want to hear from bees that eloped. Need advise!!

posted 2 years ago in Elopement
Post # 2
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6337 posts
Bee Keeper

As a compromise between having a private ceremony and having guests, you could have a private ceremony first and then later on have a reception event. That’s what we’re doing, with the second event also including repeating the vows in addition to the reception, and we’re really excited!

Post # 3
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Blushing bee

A longtime friend of mine eloped, just her and her husband, and years later, she told me that she really regrets it. Though she loved the intimacy of her ceremony and it was what they wanted at the time, looking at her pictures and not seeing her family in them is quite painful for her. You have to follow your heart on this one. What’s your gut telling you now? 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I eloped this summer and don’t regret it at all. I love that we started out our married life taking our vows just us two. It was truly the best choice for us.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2050

We eloped because our families are both cray, and because we were too poor to afford a party. It was the two of us and our officiant under a tree in the courthouse lawn. I don’t regret it. We took our kids and had a picnic under that tree on our 10th anniversary. I would love to have a big party now, like maybe for our 20th anniversary (in 2 years). We’re financially able to and for a while our families seemed ok, but for the past year they’ve gotten worse so I’m not sure about it anymore. Can’t pull myself away from the planning forums though…

Post # 7
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Newbee

yogahhh:  I didn’t read the other posts, but I think if you can have your mom there, you should.  I mean if you’re going to elope anytime soon.  Are you going out of town, or to the county recorder’s office for a civil ceremony?  How are you doing this?

Post # 8
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Newbee

Daisy_Mae:  Did you buy a wedding dress for the occasion, or just wear something nice?  I ask because I’m thinking about doing that and not sure what to wear.

Post # 9
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Newbee

mixtapehearts:  Did you elope because of money issues, or did you and your fiance want to do it fast? 

Post # 10
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Newbee

craigslistgirl:  How much time do you think there could be between the private ceremony and the reception event inlcuding family? 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper

jackie376:  Our celebration will be about 3 months after the original ceremony. You could probably pull off an aptly timed post-ceremony celebration within the first year.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

We eloped, and it was perfect! I do not regret it at all, and could never imagine doing it in front of people. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

yogahhh:  We did exactly this and I have no real regrets, but there were some small twinges of guilt about not having my mom or sisters there. Not during the ceremony, but afterwards it would have been nice to celebrate with them afterwards. Now that’s it’s over and done with, I don’t think I would have changed anything. Not having to sacrifice a year + in planning and dumping all that money into one day is really nice in retrospect.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2050

jackie376:  Well…. I was 7 months pregnant at the time (on yeah, that’s probably another reason we eloped) so I just wore a nice maternity dress that I already had. Other couples there ran the gamut from jeans & t-shirts to a big white gown. I still remember one especially joyful woman in a peach-colored satin mermaid gown. She was so excited and I still smile thinking about her. Dress up if it means a lot, or dress down if you want comfy and low-key. You won’t look out of place either way, and even if you did, who cares, it’s your wedding.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

We eloped, no regrets! 

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